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I've been addicted to pornography since I was 12. I'm 16 now and still have problems with it. I've told my dad about it two times, my youth pastor once, gone to youth camps time and time again, and still I carry this addiction. I'm too ashamed to tell them again, and I really want help from someone I don't know. When I was 12 I had a good relationship with the Lord, but over the years the relationship deceased. I really want that relationship back, I want to pray more again and read my Bible more again. Every time I want a change in my life, the temptation takes control of me and I go right back to where I started. Pornography isn't the only thing that changed my life, rap did as well. I know it's just music but, it changed me for the worst, for it has bad lyrics which have turned me into a cursing, brat. My friends are the ones that exposed it to me. When we were kids my friends were good and right with the Lord, but we all changed, and now I don't know about them. I really want to turn this life around, away from pornography, away from rap, and I want to have a relationship with the Lord. Honestly, I can't do this alone, I was hoping one of you on these forums with much wisdom and guidance from God could help me.
 
 

 


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Temptations of the flesh are natural at your age when your hormones are in overdrive. I don't believe you need help from others, you just need to exercise a little self-control. Pornography isn't an addiction, its a desire. Natural lust are controlled by your mind (spirit), its that discipline which prevents us from yielding to the flesh. Its natural to be attracted to the opposite sex, its not sinful unless we let it consume us and get out of control. God gave us hormones so we would be attracted to women and multiply, but we must function in the framework in which God prescribed. Yearning for sex is natural, but acting upon that desire outside of marriage is sin. Look, but don't touch, that's where King David messed-up with Bathsheba, and its where Eve failed in the garden. jmo


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Someone,

 

I appreciate your openness in sharing your struggle.  These are not easy matters, but they are very important ones.  Pornography is a very dangerous vice.  Here is my advice.

 

1.  Pray.  I know this sounds overly simple, and I am sure you have prayed about the matter.  However, I would pray daily and passionately that God would renew your heart and mind while giving you strength to overcome these temptations you face.  Only God can transform your desires.  You are doing what we all do very well:  sin.  You cannot overcome your own flesh, but the Spirit can.  It's not a silver bullet, but something you must persist in.  Even when you fail and sin, pray immediately.  Do not let the enemy lure you away by convincing you that God no longer wants to hear from you because you have failed too many times. 

 

2.  Do whatever you can to remove these temptations from your life.  Jesus said, "If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off..."  Now, I believe Jesus is using hyperbole here  because we would all be blind amputees if we took this teaching literally.  However, I do believe Jesus is being serious about how serious we should handle our temptations.  Do whatever you can in your power to remove these temptations.  If you can, get rid of your computer.  Break all your rap CDs.  If you cant get rid of your computer, ask your parents if they can put it in their room so you are not tempted to be on it at night when others are not around.  Whatever you can do in your power, do it.  I believe God will bless these acts of faith.

 

3.  Continue to confide in someone you trust.  It is important that you have someone you can share with.  This is a common struggle among men and boys (and even many women).  That does not mean the sin is any less severe and dangerous, but it does mean that others know the struggle you are facing.  You can encourage each other in your efforts to live faithfully.

 

4.  Memorize Scripture that pertains to lust.  When the enemy tempted the Lord, he responded with the Word of God.  Memorize scriptures that address your struggle and as those temptations come, recite those Scriptures and hide them in your heart.

 

5.  Fight, fight, fight.  Do not quit.  Sometimes in our struggles we just want to lay down and give up.  Do not.  Trust in the power of the Lord to change you and not in your own power to change yourself.  Never ever give up.  People of faith sin, but they do not give in to sin.  It is one thing to struggle and it is another to embrace sin and cease fighting against it.  Keep fighting the good fight of the faith.  Even when you are knocked down, hop right back up. 

 

My heart goes out to you.  I will pray for you and I know the power of the risen Christ which brought him from the grave lives in you to give you new life.  Trust in the Lord even if it seems like it is taking forever,  He will not disappoint you.


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Someone,

 

How open do you wish to discuss this here? I am happy to help if you have the time and you truly wish overcome this problem?

 

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Someone,

 

I appreciate your openness in sharing your struggle.  These are not easy matters, but they are very important ones.  Pornography is a very dangerous vice.  Here is my advice.

 

1.  Pray.  I know this sounds overly simple, and I am sure you have prayed about the matter.  However, I would pray daily and passionately that God would renew your heart and mind while giving you strength to overcome these temptations you face.  Only God can transform your desires.  You are doing what we all do very well:  sin.  You cannot overcome your own flesh, but the Spirit can.  It's not a silver bullet, but something you must persist in.  Even when you fail and sin, pray immediately.  Do not let the enemy lure you away by convincing you that God no longer wants to hear from you because you have failed too many times. 

 

2.  Do whatever you can to remove these temptations from your life.  Jesus said, "If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off..."  Now, I believe Jesus is using hyperbole here  because we would all be blind amputees if we took this teaching literally.  However, I do believe Jesus is being serious about how serious we should handle our temptations.  Do whatever you can in your power to remove these temptations.  If you can, get rid of your computer.  Break all your rap CDs.  If you cant get rid of your computer, ask your parents if they can put it in their room so you are not tempted to be on it at night when others are not around.  Whatever you can do in your power, do it.  I believe God will bless these acts of faith.

 

3.  Continue to confide in someone you trust.  It is important that you have someone you can share with.  This is a common struggle among men and boys (and even many women).  That does not mean the sin is any less severe and dangerous, but it does mean that others know the struggle you are facing.  You can encourage each other in your efforts to live faithfully.

 

4.  Memorize Scripture that pertains to lust.  When the enemy tempted the Lord, he responded with the Word of God.  Memorize scriptures that address your struggle and as those temptations come, recite those Scriptures and hide them in your heart.

 

5.  Fight, fight, fight.  Do not quit.  Sometimes in our struggles we just want to lay down and give up.  Do not.  Trust in the power of the Lord to change you and not in your own power to change yourself.  Never ever give up.  People of faith sin, but they do not give in to sin.  It is one thing to struggle and it is another to embrace sin and cease fighting against it.  Keep fighting the good fight of the faith.  Even when you are knocked down, hop right back up. 

 

My heart goes out to you.  I will pray for you and I know the power of the risen Christ which brought him from the grave lives in you to give you new life.  Trust in the Lord even if it seems like it is taking forever,  He will not disappoint you.

 

Wormwood...spot on here with your council - it works!


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I do want to discuss this openly. I'm done being a slave to this, I want to be free from it.


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I do want to discuss this openly. I'm done being a slave to this, I want to be free from it.

 

Ok good.

 

Wormwood gave you some good advice - point 2 especially needs your attention.  

 

Do you have a smartphone?


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Yes I do.


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Yes I do.

 

Can it (phone) be a temptation late at night when you are in bed, or by yourself? 

 

If so, do you have a close friend who can lock out the internet, turn off the personal hotspot and close down all internet based apps including "apps".

 

Do you recall Jesus' words here: Matt 16:24

 

Then said Jesus unto his disciples,

 

1. If any man will come after me, let him deny himself,

2. and take up his cross,

3. and follow me

 

At this point you are trying to practice stage 1. denying yourself the privilege of using the smartness of your phone because its being used in an abusive way i.e music and internet activity which is not edifying.   

 

I have found its best to start with the small things first.  Warning: You must remove access to all potential avenues to access anything harmful to your spiritual goal. 

 

The rider: Before you approach your friend I want you to pray about what you are going to do and ask God to give you the strength to carry it through long enough for you to feel the benefits of his liberty.

 

Can you do this?

 

You may still stumble elsewhere but you need to experience a restraint in this one area of your life.

 

Always remember sin will attack the weakest part of our charatcers and this is usually around our strongest desires - our desire to be sexually immoral is strong in many because we seek harmful ways to find comfort.


Edited by Purity, 20 March 2014 - 05:57 PM.

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Yes I think I can do this.


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Yes I think I can do this.

 

Have you locked that phone down yet?


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Yep.


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Yep.

 

Great news.

 

Where about's do you live?  Country?

 

The reason I ask is we have in Australia are great internet service called Webshield: http://www.webshield.net.au/ which filters the net.   At present it doesn't offer phone services but for your computer its a great deterrent.  

 

I am able to control which sites we can access from home simply by emailing them sites to block, allow etc.

 

Do you have anything like this where you live?

 

If so I suggest you consider a thorough investigation of the service.

 

 

Note: I am not affiliated with the service in any way.    


Edited by Purity, 24 March 2014 - 09:30 PM.

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My dad already but something like that on my computer in the past. The real problem is not the computer but the ipod.


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My dad already but something like that on my computer in the past. The real problem is not the computer but the ipod.


Ok - can you lock up the ipod like your phone?

You will recall wormwoods point about thinking upon verses well this one is good to understand:

Let us live decently as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in discord and jealousy.
Instead, put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh to arouse its desires. Rom 13:14

Sin happens when he have time and opportunity. When the time is right and opportunity presents more than often we will sin...often human nature is stronger than the Word which is in us...that's why Jesus wants us to increase the measure of the Words intake!!!!

Lets test this theory shall we? God asks us to live as it were daytime (light)

If you have to give a percentage of watching porn between daytime and night-time what would it?

20% day / 80% night?

80% day / 20% night?

As we work through this, its profitable for you to appreciate how analysising the way you live will only benefit you in the long term. Its actually fun (yes it is) because you are working on yourself! Matt 22:39

- understanding who you are and what makes you tick.

Speak soon.
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Edited by Purity, 26 March 2014 - 03:39 PM.

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20% day / 80% night I guess.


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20% day / 80% night I guess.[/size]


Strange these things happen mostly in the darkness of the night ;) (spiritual lesson for us all)

So lets break it down.

- Its evening (tick)
- You are bored and by yourself with no one around (tick)
- You have access to an ipod, computer etc (tick)
- A thought comes into your mind telling you its time (tick)
- You have Emotional needs not being meet (tick)

All these ticks = sexual immorality, right?

Are you often surprised how quickly you fall into this rut? Like you know its coming and yet you are powerless to overcome it? Afterwards of course you go away feeling utterly terrible and alone in your guilt.

So what to do?

Well the answer is more of what we have been doing.

1. You have locked up your phone (tick)
2. What can you do when boredom sets in? Hobbies? Force yourself to go to bed early rather than staying up late (?????)
3. Remove access to technology of the evenings
4. What do you do when the thought of porn presents? get thought conditioners - positive phrases which aim to overcome the thought in the moment it strikes.
5. Listen to your feelings and try to interpret what they are telling you.

Are you feeling any of these?

-Bored
-Burned-Out
-Lonely
-Anger
-Fear
-Stressed
-Tired

Often the porn cycle is reinforced by tiredness which weakens your defence so getting to bed early and rising in the morning early is very healthy for the mind and body. Do you eat healthy food? Can you exercise? Walks? Riding? Sports?

If you really want to rid your life of this blight on your life it will require Effort.

Look at this list again...are you:

-Bored
-Burned-Out
-Lonely
-Anger
-Fear
-Stressed
-Tired

Are any of these contributing factors to your habit?

Take your time and really drill down on your behaviours, feelings and thoughts.

Take your time.
Purity

Edited by Purity, 26 March 2014 - 06:35 PM.

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I've been addicted to pornography since I was 12. I'm 16 now and still have problems with it. I've told my dad about it two times, my youth pastor once, gone to youth camps time and time again, and still I carry this addiction. I'm too ashamed to tell them again, and I really want help from someone I don't know. When I was 12 I had a good relationship with the Lord, but over the years the relationship deceased. I really want that relationship back, I want to pray more again and read my Bible more again. Every time I want a change in my life, the temptation takes control of me and I go right back to where I started. Pornography isn't the only thing that changed my life, rap did as well. I know it's just music but, it changed me for the worst, for it has bad lyrics which have turned me into a cursing, brat. My friends are the ones that exposed it to me. When we were kids my friends were good and right with the Lord, but we all changed, and now I don't know about them. I really want to turn this life around, away from pornography, away from rap, and I want to have a relationship with the Lord. Honestly, I can't do this alone, I was hoping one of you on these forums with much wisdom and guidance from God could help me.
 
 

 

 

Hi, I think every man battles with porn. Can we escape it? Every movie has it and an abundance of cursing. The scriptural solution is....

 

1. Matt 5:30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.

 

= As others have said above, remove the temtpation as much as you can (internet, ipad etc etc...not...your hand!).

 

2. Phil 4:7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

 

= You NEED the presence of God to come upon you in that moment. His presence will deal with it in a spiritual way that words cannot explain.

 

There is also the need to gather with other saints. Nothing can replace brethrens personal help and encouragement. Heb 10:25.

 

Good luck, praying for you!


Oh, and I agree 100% with Wormwood's point 5! Never give up the fight! Give up = lose / continue in wilful sin. As long as you hate it and repent...even though you do it = not wilful = sincere repentance is possible 7 x 70 times a day Matt 18:22.

 

Most sin loses our grip on us when we grasp by the spirit how good and loving God is. When we grasp this good God hates sin, we hate sin. That's where we want to be.


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2. What can you do when boredom sets in? Hobbies? Force yourself to go to bed early rather than staying up late (?????)


Someone,

As Kingj has said most men struggle with sexual immortality however not feeling alone on this issue somehow does not remove the guilt or shame and instantly reconciles us with God and Christ Jesus.

The Apostle Paul understood our nature extremely well and wrestled with it daily. I believe his encouragement from Romans 13:13,14 holds an important key to our defence against the lust of the eyes, the lust of the flesh and the pride of life.

We must build into our daily life certain disciplines which in affect keep us busy.

Run your eyes down this list and see if any of these are plausible to counter the boredom?

I will call a friend or family member and have a meaningful conversation.
I will find an opportunity to talk with a stranger by asking them how their day is and find a point of commonality.
I will contact an old friend and connect through IM, email or phone.
I will call a grandparent or somebody I respect and ask them about their life experiences. Have meaningful discussions about real life issues!
I will engage a co-worker in a conversation about their life outside of work.
I will speak with my parents and ask how things are going in their life and see if there is anything I can do to help.
I will plan an activity with one of my children/sibling etc and spend some quality time, including conversation about what's going on in their life.
I will go on out with a friend includes time where we can talk about our life now, and our future goals and dreams.
I will go out with some long-time friends and reminisce about the "old days." Not so old if you are 16 ;)
I will contact a school or Uni friend and find out whats going on in their life.
I will go to the hospital and talk with people or children in the terminally ill ward; find out about their view on life and engage in meaningful conversation.
I will go to a rest home and ask an elderly person about their life and try to learn something significant by asking their advice from years of experience. (I have done this a lot in my life (I just turned 40!)
I will spend some time outside in my neighborhood and offer to help somebody with some yard work or just engage in a conversation about how their life is going.
I will go to a community event and socialize with people from my community.

And loads more.

I have found by making myself actively busy and by thinking of others the temptations have reduced "significantly"...it may never go completely, though I know some who have triumphed over it to date, the flesh is weak and terrible and its promptings will always be present until Christ comes and changes this vile body into what is glorious.

When reading point 2 and the list of things we can do its worthwhile writing your own list - no one knows your life better than you.

But make sure you can form strategies to deal with boredom.

In Paul saying "make no provision for the flesh" he is actually teaching the opposite "make provision for the Spirit"

Is this helpful?

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Thank you all for your help, encouragement, etc. I'm going to try the things mentioned above, and hopefully I will overcome this for good.


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Someone,

If you need more help please feel free to post here or PM anytime!

You will fail many times but if you can increase your successes you will be a happier person inside...might even feel the joy ;)

In the Lords service
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Hello Someone,

The following book might be of some help in dealing with the issues you talk about: Neil T. Anderson, 2008. Winning the Battle Within. Realistic Steps to Overcoming Sexual Strongholds, Eugene Oregon, Harvest House Publishers, 213 pages.

The page titled "Doing, but How?" of the English section of my Web site contains information on various aspects of sexuality from a Christian perspective. There are several testimonies by people who have trusted Christ and found help in overcoming various sorts of sexual struggles. One point that comes out in those videos and in the book I mention above is that guilt is counterproductive. What these men and women share can be applied to several other aspects of life.

May God strenghten you...

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Someone059.......if I may......... You might find this a little harsh.......but trust me it is the truth.

 

I know exactly what you are going through just so happens.  :)

 

Here comes the truth.....anything else than this is a chasing of the wind.

 

You must ask Christ back into your life and ask for the forgiveness of sins.

If you don't do this then satan will let you think you are trying to get rid of this on your own.

And you will be, without God...he will  let you think you are getting help from Christians when

you are not...you are stuck in the same boat so to speak.

 

You will be riding a merry-go-round the rest of your entire life.

 

You must come to Christ and let Him fight this battle of yours.

 

It's up to you and you only....get the power of Jesus and let Him help you.

Without that personal relationship with Christ you have no armor and are vulnerable at all stages.

 

Now when you do this..and only when you do....will you see how to fight this piece of crap demon messin with ya.

 

Dear heavenly father keep your hand on someone059 and make him a mighty man of God.

 

Make him a WARRIOR FOR CHRIST :)


Maybe I should a little example here......

 

When I got born again.....26 years ago...you can't shut up about what Jesus had done for me. As ya can see I'm still goin strong :)

 

Example;;;;;;I saw some old friends one afternoon that I hadn't seen in a year...friends I use to party with...ya know..drugs, women, alcohol etc.

                   When I told them about how God delivered me from all that stuff this is what they told me.

  

                   "We stopped doing that stuff also....ya know starting to cut back"

 

Someone059...I'm sure you have heard the old sayin.....Death & Taxes

 

Well, it's really Heaven or Hell

Ya see........those friends didn't have Jesus, they were trying to quit on their own.

But...they might as well keep on doing that stuff...because in their eyes thier goodness still doesn't get them to heaven.

But hey..they stopped drinking...big deal in Jesus' eyes.

 

Jesus loves you  Someone059........and He stands and waits for His name to be called on by your name.

 

God Bless!

 

RANDOR


And all the answers above were really good also :)


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I've been addicted to pornography since I was 12. I'm 16 now and still have problems with it. I've told my dad about it two times, my youth pastor once, gone to youth camps time and time again, and still I carry this addiction. I'm too ashamed to tell them again, and I really want help from someone I don't know. When I was 12 I had a good relationship with the Lord, but over the years the relationship deceased. I really want that relationship back, I want to pray more again and read my Bible more again. Every time I want a change in my life, the temptation takes control of me and I go right back to where I started. Pornography isn't the only thing that changed my life, rap did as well. I know it's just music but, it changed me for the worst, for it has bad lyrics which have turned me into a cursing, brat. My friends are the ones that exposed it to me. When we were kids my friends were good and right with the Lord, but we all changed, and now I don't know about them. I really want to turn this life around, away from pornography, away from rap, and I want to have a relationship with the Lord. Honestly, I can't do this alone, I was hoping one of you on these forums with much wisdom and guidance from God could help me.
 
 

 

My friend this kind of thing takes faith first not action first, everyone has faith naturally we just have to learn to put it in the right place.


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Someone, it's not all your fault that you've become a slave to porn.  Much of the blame lies squarely on the shoulders of the false prophets filling pulpits every week and telling people that we can't keep the Ten Commandments.  Brother, the very fact that you feel Holy Spirit conviction to stop this mental fornication means you are not yet too far gone.  But, Jesus will not force you surrender this to Him. Here is how to do it:

 

As soon as the devil flashes the temptation to indulge in porn, IMMEDIATELY send up a prayer to God for help, for it will become harder and harder to resist the devil with each passing second.  Tell Him that you love Him and you do not want to crucify Him afresh with yet another round of sinful indulgence and beg him for strength to resist the devil.

 

Then by faith believe His promise that He will help all of us who come to Him in the hour of desperation and take hold of that promise by that same faith!

 

Then resist Satan in the strength of Jesus and CONTINUE to resist him until he flees from you, for there in no temptation without a way of escape that we may be able to bear it. Some people will call this "salvation by works", but don't listen to them, for your eternal soul is at stake. Jesus never forces us to surrender our sin to Him - that is the tactic of Satan.

 

Here's a little secret: the victory is already yours when you make the choice to deny your lustful passions, for all power necessary from heaven is released into your life to accomplish the obedience that you and I are unable to accomplish on our own (yes, me too).  You can overcome as I and others have overcome this wickedness for we are more than a conquerors in Christ Jesus, amen?

 

A hymn of encouragement for you:

 

"Yield not to temptation, for YIELDING is sin;

Each vict'ry will help you to some other win;

Fight manly onward, dark passions subdue;

Look ever to Jesus, He will carry you through."


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Pornography does not change the brain in the same manner as gambling, alcohol, addictive drugs - it really is a matter of discipline. Recognize that you are vulnerable to watching pornography, stop being shocked by your desire for it, and replace the behavior with something else - ideally something active.
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I think that Pornography is very similar to addictive drugs, alcohol and gambling because it is a habit that has turned into an addiction. The only way to undo a habit is to stop practicing it. Easier said than done but if you substitute a bad habit or ritual with a good one, it will soon loosen it's power over you. You need to recognize what your triggers are and pray just as the temptation/ desire comes upon you and then you need to choose to do the opposite. It may not always be successful but don't give up. Keep moving forward on it until the desire becomes a repulsive thing to you, and it will because God is training/teaching you on how to resist the devil and how to submit yourself to him. James 4:7

 

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I've been addicted to pornography since I was 12. I'm 16 now and still have problems with it. I've told my dad about it two times, my youth pastor once, gone to youth camps time and time again, and still I carry this addiction. I'm too ashamed to tell them again, and I really want help from someone I don't know. When I was 12 I had a good relationship with the Lord, but over the years the relationship deceased. I really want that relationship back, I want to pray more again and read my Bible more again. Every time I want a change in my life, the temptation takes control of me and I go right back to where I started. Pornography isn't the only thing that changed my life, rap did as well. I know it's just music but, it changed me for the worst, for it has bad lyrics which have turned me into a cursing, brat. My friends are the ones that exposed it to me. When we were kids my friends were good and right with the Lord, but we all changed, and now I don't know about them. I really want to turn this life around, away from pornography, away from rap, and I want to have a relationship with the Lord. Honestly, I can't do this alone, I was hoping one of you on these forums with much wisdom and guidance from God could help me.
 
 

 

You are one of these that Jesus speaks of :)

 

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 I want to have a relationship with the Lord. Honestly, I can't do this alone, I was hoping one of you on these forums with much wisdom and guidance from God could help me.
 
 

 

 

 

Jesus Christ is in you and is with you always. 

 

Colossians 1:27 To whom God would make known what is the riches of the glory of this mystery among the Gentiles; which is Christ in you, the hope of glory: 28 Whom we preach, warning every man, and teaching every man in all wisdom; that we may present every man perfect in Christ Jesus:

 

Matthew 28:20 Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.

 

That means we can live by faith in the Son of God in being our Good Shepherd & rest in all His promises to us to help us to follow Him in casting down wicked imaginations, thinking on good things, and not make any provision for the flesh to fulfill the lust thereof or incite our desires to come forth again to entertain ourselves with.

 

Galatians 5:24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.

 

1 John 1:5 This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. 6 If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth: 7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.

James 1:

14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. 15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death. 16 Do not err, my beloved brethren.

1 Corinthians 10:

12 Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall. 13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

 

Romans 13:13 Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkenness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying. 14 But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.

 

 

1 John 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 17 And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

 

 

Hebrews 4:

12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13 Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do. 14 Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession. 15 For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. 16 Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

 

2 Timothy 4:18 And the Lord shall deliver me from every evil work, and will preserve me unto his heavenly kingdom: to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.

 

Jude 1:

24 Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, 25 To the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen.

 

 

Psalm 19:12 Who can understand his errors? cleanse thou me from secret faults. 13 Keep back thy servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me: then shall I be upright, and I shall be innocent from the great transgression. 14 Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.


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Someone hasn't replied over a year, but I know many who have this battle, the best thing you can do is fight, resist the temptation it may not be as easy as I sounds,find other things to past time instead of looking at porn and keep read the truth aka the Bible, keep on praying too. I also wanna put this up, reading that you are a rap fan, there is plenty of Christian rap out there that's free from the filthy lyrics, I find that it tells a lot about the truth about todays world and modern day Christians, how to live a Christ like life and be a light to the world. You should try listening to Lecrae, he has some great songs, listen to his testimony too, he has a great testimony on how he got out of his worldly ways.

Edited by joshnorman, 20 July 2015 - 12:30 AM.

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Well, Satan was a master of music.  It's no surprise that he is using the music industry today to destroy souls.  Simple solution for you - stop listening.

 

As for the pornography... there is a demon coming for you.  Don't listen to people who tell you to "look, but don't touch."  Jesus made it very clear that to look is to commit the sin.  It is all about what is happening inside you.  There is a spiritual war taking place and I'm not sure if you understand.  Several people have quoted you the text, "Resist the devil and he will flee from you."  This is the best scripture for your situation.  I have experienced the power of God while resisting Satan.

 

I have been where you are, I have fought what you fight, and I have something to share with you.

 

Locking your device, or censoring your internet will not work. It is a bandaid on a gaping wound.  You have already expressed what this problem has cost you, and allow me to assure you that it will cost even more if not dealt with.  Satan has placed pornography at your fingertips for a reason.  It invades our homes and floods our screens - all by design.  He knows the power it has over the human mind.

 

Pornography will always find you, as a demon does, but what will your response be?  Will you sacrifice your soul?

 

Pick up your sword and fight; for the battle is real; and the war is here.


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