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By marksman · Jan 26, 2020 ·
  1. I read yesterday that the women in the workforce are the highest that it has ever been. Around 75% of them. So it seems that the priority of families today is money, work, and careers.

    Now, where did I get this strange idea that children and their needs came first? I never ever left home with an empty house and I never came home to an empty house.

    But you say, we both have to work to be able to pay all the bills and have the house and car we want. That is precisely it. It is a case of what WE want. Not what is best for children or the family, or God which ultimately means what is best for us.

    I blame it on the churches who are not teaching the scriptures and are not living out the scriptures. We as the church should be different. Doesn't the scripture say DO NOT be conformed to this world.... In most churches, we are definitely conforming to the world.

    How do I know? Just take a look at the average church car park on a Sunday morning. How many cars are more than 5 years old? 10% of them probably. Is that a case of not conforming to the world, wanting the latest on four wheels.

    My car is 20 years old. Do you know why? Because I bought right when I bought my car, so 20 years later it is as good as new. It doesn't have all the latest gadgets but who cares. it gets me from A to B safely and comfortably. Whilst it is not worth much because of its age, it is worth its weight in gold as it means I don't have to go out and spend $50,000 on the latest model. That means I am $50,000 better off because I am not conforming to the world. That is more money for the Kingdom of God.

    The only reason we have a bigger house or a new car is that we choose to have a bigger house or a new car. I know that the prosperity gospel has convinced us that God wants us to have the best of everything, which doesn't say much for Paul as he seemed to have the best of nothing.

    The reason why our kids are latchkey kids is because we choose to abandon them in favour of a bigger house or new car.

    The reason why we put them in childcare and let a stranger bring up our children is because we choose to put them into childcare so we can pursue our dream of a career, a bigger house, and a new car.

    When both of my children were young, I worked very near where I lived. It was in walking distance. I loved that job because my wife, who by the way gave up her career to stay at home to raise the children, used to bring the children round to my office at the end of the day, and I could push them home in their buggy and talk to them.

    Now that is what I call parenting. If you are a parent be one. Don't get someone else to raise them. The scripture says to bring up a child in the way it should go and it will not depart from it. There is no mention of getting someone else to raise them. The fact that people do is one of the reasons why kids are in so much trouble today.

    A friend of ours ran a child daycare business from home. She had one couple who both worked for local government and had two children. They dropped them off at 7.30 am in the morning and picked them up at 5.30 pm in the evening. The time came when the two children called our friend mummy and their parents aunt and uncle. What a disgrace.

    Leaving others to look after your children so you can go out work and pursue a career, buy a bigger house or new car is not on. Your children need you, not a stranger. It is noticeable that in survey's done regarding the importance of grandparents in the lives of children, the main reason that children gave for the role of grandparents was they had time. Which means that they perceive that their parents did not have time to give to them.

    And what children need more than anything else is.....time.


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