Rant: I am just irritated

Mayflower · May 4, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
How hard is it to throw away a diaper! Eww walk to the trash can

Yes that is what it is... I have known that for a long time. And I have always wondered if it was demonic oppression because it starts up most when I am working on myself. Those little jabs start coming out. Or I'm told I have too much pride for not accepting them or I'm "selfish" for wanting to be happy because they say God doesn't actually want me to be. (apparently they didn't read about joy in the Bible)

If I'm working out, studying, eating healthy, doing what I need to get done, then it starts up again to knock me down. Sometimes sticking up for myself, like today, makes it worse. It just keeps going.

I've started not listen to it and go into praise and worship because I can't handle it tearing down my mind anymore! And it helps!

I have come to the same place. Almost like, okay, God. Just take this circumstance. I don't know anymore. I can't handle it. Just You, Lord... He truly does. And the neat part... kinda clicks. I think I can do it with everything from now on, like the walls came tumbling down. Secret to peace? Worship. Bow down. Stay still... We Sang a beautiful song about that Sunday. All I did was praise.

DuckieLady · May 4, 2021

Mayflower said:
I have come to the same place. Almost like, okay, God. Just take this circumstance. I don't know anymore. I can't handle it. Just You, Lord... He truly does. And the neat part... kinda clicks. I think I can do it with everything from now on, like the walls came tumbling down. Secret to peace? Worship. Bow down. Stay still... We Sang a beautiful song about that Sunday. All I did was praise.

Exactly! If we can't change the situation, we know that God can! I think God sees us when we worship and if the situation does not change, we can be changed to be able to endure it.

Tone · May 4, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
I took offense to something said to me today. Basically I felt like it was demeaning.

Someone was basically giving me an order and ended the phrase with "shouldn't be too hard." So I answered a question and said (verbatim) "And don't talk to me like that, please."

So I got loads back about how I "attacked" them by defending myself.

My view is why don't you just sit right down and listen to me. I get to set that bar for how I'm treated, so pfffft on that. Why do I have to sit there and be told for 40 minutes worth of texts that I'm attacking someone instead of getting an "I'm sorry."

It's draining.

Why should anyone else set my standard bar?

It's my standard bar isn't it!

Do a little limbo dance under it
if you want it lower

OK /rantend

Just needed someone to talk to and just Bleh at

Yeah, I've been learning a lot about this relational stuff lately.

I have the added handicaps of having a mean look, a deep vocal tone, and a bad boy bearing...all of which I'm working on.

I also mumble a lot and talk low...so I'm working on turning up the corners of my mouth and enunciating better.

It's a whole lotta work becoming a social creature, especially coming from a place where putting your head down and keeping your mouth shut were really good survival skills.

DuckieLady · May 4, 2021

Tone said:
Yeah, I've been learning a lot about this relational stuff lately.

I have the added handicaps of having a mean look, a deep vocal tone, and a bad boy bearing...all of which I'm working on.

I also mumble a lot and talk low...so I'm working on turning up the corners of my mouth and enunciating better.

It's a whole lotta work becoming a social creature, especially coming from a place where putting your head down and keeping your mouth shut were really good survival skills.

I need to do this talking clearly thing! I didn't grow up the streets just a logging town and sometimes the hick accent comes out when I'm around it. Idk how that works.

Tone · May 4, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
I need to do this talking clearly thing! I didn't grow up the streets just a logging town and sometimes the hick accent comes out when I'm around it. Idk how that works.

Oooohh nice log talk...I used to enjoy watching Axemen...!

Rita · May 5, 2021

Hi fluffy yellow duck
I am curious, you took offence in how they said something, but I would have been mad about them giving me an order !! Lol
You mentioned it was in a text, so I am presuming it wasn’t a work related issue.

It sounds as if the responder took offence at being pulled up, revealing you had hit a nerve. Don’t let her response alter the reality that you addressed an issue and stood up for yourself. Xxx

Yes we all need to ‘ let of steam ‘ from time to time ‘.......

Heart2Soul · May 5, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
I took offense to something said to me today. Basically I felt like it was demeaning.

I hope it's ok to be honest and straightforward....I say this in a loving spirit...
I see that both sides were wrong...the other person for not giving you opportunity to work it out for yourself and proposing their way to do it....
And your response was overly defensive and a bit harsh especially if you are assuming they intended to be demeaning when maybe they weren't aware of sounding that way...
In either case, you have to forgive them and love them anyway, and if Jesus was typing this He would go even further and say Yes, forgive them...not just 7 times...but 70 × 7 times...

Don't be offended! I am just trying to put a smile on your face.
Hugs!!!

Amazed@grace · May 5, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
How hard is it to throw away a diaper! Eww walk to the trash can

Yes! Or carry little trash bags in the diaper bag and carry the dirty nappy home to the trash if no cans are nearby.

Yes that is what it is... I have known that for a long time. And I have always wondered if it was demonic oppression because it starts up most when I am working on myself. Those little jabs start coming out. Or I'm told I have too much pride for not accepting them or I'm "selfish" for wanting to be happy because they say God doesn't actually want me to be. (apparently they didn't read about joy in the Bible)

If I'm working out, studying, eating healthy, doing what I need to get done, then it starts up again to knock me down. Sometimes sticking up for myself, like today, makes it worse. It just keeps going.

I've started not listen to it and go into praise and worship because I can't handle it tearing down my mind anymore! And it helps!

Demonic oppression, or Satan testing us as he did Job. How far can he push our buttons and test our faith.
I notice when things start to go really good for me, there he is. Little things. But when I pay attention to their showing up that's when I noticed the pattern of his popping his head in.

Once, when it was getting really ridiculous with all his little pokes and prods, I said out loud, God forgive you Satan!
Everything returned to normal after that.

April_Rose · May 5, 2021

Heart2Soul said:
I hope it's ok to be honest and straightforward....I say this in a loving spirit...
I see that both sides were wrong...the other person for not giving you opportunity to work it out for yourself and proposing their way to do it....
And your response was overly defensive and a bit harsh especially if you are assuming they intended to be demeaning when maybe they weren't aware of sounding that way...
In either case, you have to forgive them and love them anyway, and if Jesus was typing this He would go even further and say Yes, forgive them...not just 7 times...but 70 × 7 times...

Don't be offended! I am just trying to put a smile on your face.
Hugs!!!

See?? That's why you're a much better person and Christian than a lot of us on here. I wouldn't want to cuss them out,.. but a lot of people just tend to irritate me LOL and that's why I'm more of an animal person than a people person.

DuckieLady · May 5, 2021

Heart2Soul said:
I hope it's ok to be honest and straightforward....I say this in a loving spirit...
I see that both sides were wrong...the other person for not giving you opportunity to work it out for yourself and proposing their way to do it....
And your response was overly defensive and a bit harsh especially if you are assuming they intended to be demeaning when maybe they weren't aware of sounding that way...
In either case, you have to forgive them and love them anyway, and if Jesus was typing this He would go even further and say Yes, forgive them...not just 7 times...but 70 × 7 times...

Don't be offended! I am just trying to put a smile on your face.
Hugs!!!

Thank you @Heart2Soul!

Although I have to say I wasn't wrong. This person is emotionally and verbally abusive and always has been to the point it has given me horrible symptoms of CPTSD and I constantly have to work myself through it. (I'm not going to explain too much but that's the biggest point)

I am just learning to stand up to it. I know I won't ever win anyway but at least I can know I tried.

A LOT of psychological manipulation, gaslighting, victim blaming, crazy making, etc.

Heart2Soul · May 5, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
Thank you @Heart2Soul!

Although I have to say I wasn't wrong. This person is emotionally and verbally abusive and always has been to the point it has given me horrible symptoms of CPTSD and I constantly have to work myself through it. (I'm not going to explain too much but that's the biggest point)

I am just learning to stand up to it. I know I won't ever win anyway but at least I can know I tried.

A LOT of psychological manipulation, gaslighting, victim blaming, crazy making, etc.

Spiritual warfare is what you must do...
From what I am studying a controlling, manipulative and condescending person is bound up in false pride, insecurity, fear of rejection, and lack of trust....biblically this also describes some of the traits of a Jezebel type spirit.....they are pretty ugly to deal with.

DuckieLady · May 5, 2021

Heart2Soul said:
Spiritual warfare is what you must do...
From what I am studying a controlling, manipulative and condescending person is bound up in false pride, insecurity, fear of rejection, and lack of trust....biblically this also describes some of the traits of a Jezebel type spirit.....they are pretty ugly to deal with.

Amen!

That's what I'm trying to do! It has worked a couple of times. I agree with you 100%. Whenever I get to a place of inner peace where I'm ready to get up, that thing comes back again and tries to knock me down.

It is worse again today and I have gotten multiple uncomfortable texts. I guess worship and quoting scripture is the answer for today!

"If God is for us, who can be against us?"

Heart2Soul · May 5, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
Amen!

That's what I'm trying to do! It has worked a couple of times. I agree with you 100%. Whenever I get to a place of inner peace where I'm ready to get up, that thing comes back again and tries to knock me down.

It is worse again today and I have gotten multiple uncomfortable texts. I guess worship and quoting scripture is the answer for today!

"If God is for us, who can be against us?"

The Word is Powerful and when spoken in faith it will accomplish what God intended it to do...
In Revelation Jesus spoke to the Church of Thyatira and said I have this against you...because you have tolerated (put up with, allowed to hang around, did nothing to be rid of) that woman jezebel...etx..

See Christian's have tolerated for far to long the works of Satan against them...it's time to put up or shut up...if we are Christians (meaning Christ like) then be Christ Like in every way.

DuckieLady · May 5, 2021

Heart2Soul said:
The Word is Powerful and when spoken in faith it will accomplish what God intended it to do...
In Revelation Jesus spoke to the Church of Thyatira and said I have this against you...because you have tolerated (put up with, allowed to hang around, did nothing to be rid of) that woman jezebel...etx..

Wooowww... That is intense and I never thought about that before. I have some thinking to do!

Heart2Soul · May 5, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
Wooowww... That is intense and I never thought about that before. I have some thinking to do!

Hallelujah thank you Lord...she gets it.

Wrangler · May 5, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
Basically I felt like it was demeaning

It is demeaning and sounds resentful. I imagine there is a context missing.

FluffyYellowDuck said:
Why should anyone else set my standard bar?

Does the person who said this have authority over you?

DuckieLady · May 5, 2021

Wrangler said:
It is demeaning and sounds resentful. I imagine there is a context missing.

Does the person who said this have authority over you?

No, only God does.

lforrest · May 5, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
I took offense to something said to me today. Basically I felt like it was demeaning.

Someone was basically giving me an order and ended the phrase with "shouldn't be too hard." So I answered a question and said (verbatim) "And don't talk to me like that, please."

So I got loads back about how I "attacked" them by defending myself.

My view is why don't you just sit right down and listen to me. I get to set that bar for how I'm treated, so pfffft on that. Why do I have to sit there and be told for 40 minutes worth of texts that I'm attacking someone instead of getting an "I'm sorry."

It's draining.

Why should anyone else set my standard bar?

It's my standard bar isn't it!

Do a little limbo dance under it
if you want it lower

OK /rantend

Just needed someone to talk to and just Bleh at

Just imagine them saying what you want them to say and respond accordingly.

Apology accepted, I knew you would understand. I didn't consider it that insulting, all is forgiven.

Amazed@grace · May 5, 2021

FluffyYellowDuck said:
Thank you @Heart2Soul!

Although I have to say I wasn't wrong. This person is emotionally and verbally abusive and always has been to the point it has given me horrible symptoms of CPTSD and I constantly have to work myself through it. (I'm not going to explain too much but that's the biggest point)

I am just learning to stand up to it. I know I won't ever win anyway but at least I can know I tried.

A LOT of psychological manipulation, gaslighting, victim blaming, crazy making, etc.

You should never suffer abuse, especially as bad as all that.
Why not cut that person off completely? Have nothing to do with them at all.
Take from them what they enjoy about knowing you as an easy mark for their abuse.
(((Cyber hugs)))

April_Rose · May 5, 2021

That's a really pretty angel in your signature.

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