"I quite like males with earrings": a low-key, respectful discussion

farouk · Sep 20, 2021

I quite like males with ear rings...either one or both... .

There has been some discussion before - though not recently - about earrings for men; but early last year Helen commented, as above, in the quote.

Those who have nothing to contribute will doubtless not feel the need to do so (!), but anyone who does have something to offer: respectful comments, please...

farouk · Sep 20, 2021

Hi @Heart2Soul We've not had a discussion of this theme - which can be quite topical - for a long time; but if you as a mod strongly agree with any critics, by all means close it down. Though subjective, it does seem that there are some very widespread views of various sorts among us who post regularly on the forum, which people are likely to want to express, one way or another.

(Ultimately I would tend to agree with Helen; 2c...)

Abaxvahl · Sep 20, 2021

farouk said:
There has been some discussion before - though not recently - about earrings for men; but early last year Helen commented, as above, in the quote.

Those who have nothing to contribute will doubtless not feel the need to do so (!), but anyone who does have something to offer: respectful comments, please...

I picked "yes," while I wouldn't say it's a preference (and I myself don't have any piercings) I am fine with it and even think it looks extremely cool. A couple of ancient depictions of men with earrings:

And of course the famous Shakespeare earring:

All of these images show it can be very aesthetically pleasing (at least in my eyes). I have also seen many guys with it during my life who looked awesome with them.

GodsBeloved11 · Sep 20, 2021

It's a non issue, surely

farouk · Sep 20, 2021

Abaxvahl said:
I picked "yes," while I wouldn't say it's a preference (and I myself don't have any piercings) I am fine with it and even think it looks extremely cool. A couple of ancient depictions of men with earrings:

And of course the famous Shakespeare earring:

All of these images show it can be very aesthetically pleasing (at least in my eyes). I have also seen many guys with it during my life who looked awesome with them.

@Abaxvahl Historically you are correct. Today, many mothers seem actively to recognize it for their sons, FYI:

Toni said:

My son wanted his ear pierced ... all my friends that have boys had their ears done. .. I let him .. so he got it done...

circleofmoms dot com

GodsBeloved11 · Sep 20, 2021

But confused about what this has to do with Jesus?

farouk · Sep 20, 2021

GodsBeloved11 said:
It's a non issue, surely

@GodsBeloved11 Oh I think it ought to be, certainly...

farouk · Sep 20, 2021

GodsBeloved11 said:
But confused about what this has to do with Jesus?

@GodsBeloved11 It's interesting that obliquely, some of the thought behind Psalm 40 is relevant; In Hebrew, 'mine ears hast Thou opened' (Hebrew="digged", i.e., pierced), referring to the Old Testament bondservant who would wish to serve his master for ever, willingly, and this fits with the Perfect Servant, in Philippians 2, Who was 'obedient unto death, even the death of the Cross'.

Ear piercing for males is not strictly necessary at all. But its background from the Old Testament can be instructive.

GodsBeloved11 · Sep 20, 2021

farouk said:
@GodsBeloved11 It's interesting that obliquely, some of the thought behind Psalm 40 is relevant; In Hebrew, 'mine ears hast Thou opened' (Hebrew="digged", i.e., pierced), referring to the Old Testament bondservant who would wish to serve his master for ever, willingly, and this fits with the Perfect Servant, in Philippians 2, Who was 'obedient unto death, even the death of the Cross'.

Ear piercing for males is not strictly necessary at all. But its background from the Old Testament can be instructive.

Ah, yes, I see. It is interesting

farouk · Sep 20, 2021

GodsBeloved11 said:
Ah, yes, I see. It is interesting

@GodsBeloved11 Leaving aside the Biblical background and more subjectively now from a social history aspect, probably a majority of the young men and boys at the small, conservative local church that my wife and I attend have acquired earrings; it's such a widespread custom in thoroughly conservative circles now.

I would associate with churches that practise believer's baptism by immersion and going back almost 40 years at various such events it was such a widespread custom then as now and some of the younger men being baptized then would have worn earrings.

In the mid-20th century it was usually women who wore earrings and men who obtained tattoos; today, women extremely widely also have the confidence to receive tattoos and men often have the confidence to have earrings put in, which is as @Abaxvahl points out, is an historically attested custom.

GodsBeloved11 · Sep 20, 2021

farouk said:
@GodsBeloved11 Leaving aside the Biblical background and more subjectively now from a social history aspect, probably a majority of the young men and boys at the small, conservative local church that my wife and I attend have acquired earrings; it's such a widespread custom in thoroughly conservative circles now.

I would associate with churches that practise believer's baptism by immersion and going back almost 40 years at various such events it was such a widespread custom then as now and some of the younger men being baptized then would have worn earrings.

In the mid-20th century it was usually women who wore earrings and men who obtained tattoos; today, women extremely widely also have the confidence to receive tattoos and men often have the confidence to have earrings put in, which is as @Abaxvahl points out, is an historically attested custom.

In the UK plenty of younger men wear earrings , it doesn't seem linked here to any kind of church tradition.

We don't really have dress codes in our churches

farouk · Sep 20, 2021

GodsBeloved11 said:
In the UK plenty of younger men wear earrings , it doesn't seem linked here to any kind of church tradition.

We don't really have dress codes in our churches

@GodsBeloved11 You are probably right in that more widely it's not directly linked with church customs.

But here's another historically attested fact: For centuries it was the custom for sailors to wear an earring - often a gold earring. The idea was that he would be doing sometimes hazardous work overseas and if he died the earring was supposed to be sold in order to pay for what he understood to be a Christian burial (instead of being thrown over the side of the ship...).

I have a male cousin who likewise served as a sailor and has worn an earring for decades, although in recent decades there is really no link between the sailor's earring and his burial expenses.

Years ago, moms would often facilitate or encourage their daughters having their ears pierced, especially when they got to a certain age.

In recent decades, many moms - and maybe dads - have seemed to do the same with their sons also. I don't have a teenaged son (do you?) but if I did have a son approaching his mid- to late teens and he seemed to want to have this done, I with so many others would likely regard it as a perfectly natural and benign development. Whether I would actively encourage it, I don't know, but if it were regarded just as something quite nice for a young man to have done, I would likely be quite comfortable with it. 2c...

Renniks · Sep 20, 2021

farouk said:
There has been some discussion before - though not recently - about earrings for men; but early last year Helen commented, as above, in the quote.

Those who have nothing to contribute will doubtless not feel the need to do so (!), but anyone who does have something to offer: respectful comments, please...

It's not really an issue with me. Unless they look gay.
Like, say long dangly girly looking earrings.

Helen · Sep 20, 2021

farouk said:
There has been some discussion before - though not recently - about earrings for men; but early last year Helen commented, as above, in the quote.

Those who have nothing to contribute will doubtless not feel the need to do so (!), but anyone who does have something to offer: respectful comments, please...

My preference is for a man to wear a diamond in his ear , or both ears. ( not so keen on the whoops )
When I was 60 yrs younger and working in London …we used to go dancing in the lunch hour…we’d often dance with tall black men , some were princes from African tribes , sent by their fathers for two years …they danced wonderfully and often had big diamonds in their ears.

my dancing years ended when I married …Dave’s view was that “dancing was for sissies”.
I’m glad that my friend and I went dancing from age 14 - 18 …
Pre-Jesus , obviously .

Enoch111 · Sep 20, 2021

GodsBeloved11 said:
But confused about what this has to do with Jesus?

What it has to do with Jesus is to tell Jesus that you love the things of the world more than the Father. In recent times, men with earrings was a sign of rebellion and an expression of homosexuality.

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. (1 John 2:15)

farouk · Sep 20, 2021

Enoch111 said:
What it has to do ...

Psalm 40 has a latent bondservant analogy with the (Hebrew) "digged" ears, pointing Messianically to the Perfect Servant.

amadeus · Sep 20, 2021

farouk said:
Psalm 40 has a latent bondservant analogy with the (Hebrew) "digged" ears, pointing Messianically to the Perfect Servant.

Finding verses that seem to favor a thing don't change what is in the heart of a man. If it is wrong in his heart, God will see that as well!

farouk · Sep 20, 2021

Helen said:
My preference is for a man to wear a diamond in his ear , or both ears.

@Helen

Thanks for your comments, just now and a while ago.

As quoted earlier,

Toni said:
My son wanted his ear pierced ... all my friends that have boys had their ears done. .. I let him .. so he got it done

It can be just nice if moms like Toni see fit to allow sons to grow up with this simple option.

While Toni seems to mention one ear, yet having both done - as you suggest - can be an opted for preference also.

farouk · Sep 20, 2021

amadeus said:
Finding verses that seem to favor a thing don't change what is in the heart of a man. If it is wrong in his heart, God will see that as well!

Thanks, @amadeus ; I wonder however how one can from Scripture prove that it is necessarily wrong.

amadeus · Sep 20, 2021

farouk said:
Thanks, @amadeus ; I wonder however how one can from Scripture prove that it is necessarily wrong.

What can we know about a person from the outside? The one who appears so good in appearance and actions in most public places may just be putting on a careful facade. God knows! Will He share that with us? If we are walking with Him AND according to God we need to know.

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