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VictoryinJesus

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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.
 

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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.


Just be assured the Lord loves you, sister. It doesn't need to get much more complicated than that.

Just spend time with Him. That's how you'll get to the place where you truly believe it.

Your friend,
Hidden In Him
 

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So sorry to read this victory in Jesus, but your analogy is quite interesting. I have left and returned many times over the past three years……..
So I hope, in time, you will return xx
Much love in your decision xxxxx
 

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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.

Just know that you are not the only one. It’s a problem for many people. Sometimes my own self questions my existence. It’s alright though God has a purpose and we have a choice to to either follow God, and the Lord Jesus having faith. Having love, peace, mercy, forgiveness, patience, forbearance, long suffering, praying, and seeking God. Or just to give all the of those things up all together. I believe that choice is to keep sticking with the Lord Jesus is the best one but that is also my opinion.

Take care,
Matthew G.
 

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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.
sorry to see you go ViJ. I will add though, take note of the three recommendations of Video and Podcast in my signature....I think you will find them helpful
 

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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.
Your whole thing about being the new kid and pretty much everything you said... I heard almost exactly used as an example from a sermon I watched last night.

My eyes grew when I read it. I'm sharing it with you. I don't know if it will help, but just in case I will pass it on to you.


You are loved here and I hope you find peace. I would say stay, but I get the sense that you may need time alone with God and I don't want to interfere.

I wrote a song a long time ago with the words something like "Let's not call it goodbye, let's call it goodnight."

You said goodbye.

I say let the peace of God be with you, and with much love, goodnight.

Edit: now I remember .... "It isn't goodbye, it isn't goodbye. Just call it 'goodnight'."
 
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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.
Okay I am not going to let the enemy get his victory without putting up a fight!
You're very much loved and admired for your wisdom and knowledge of His Word and for your zeal in searching out scripture and learning as well as teaching/sharing what you have learned.
I guess I am going to have to follow you so I know when you're online and can read what you have shared...I haven't seen much of you lately and when I do it makes me smile because I know a fellow sister is here and is sharing some good revelation of the Word....
Please do not leave...take a break but don't leave. You're part of the family!!! You're part of the Body of Christ...probably the feet and if you leave the whole body will fall and not be able to stand.
I refuse to accept this as final...
Father, help my dear sister see how precious and important she is to us...and to you.
There is a ministry here for you ViJ...I know there is.
Okay I am going to pray and keep you lifted up...
Be led of the Holy Spirit...Hugs and God Bless
 
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but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives.
Sorry to hear this VIJ. But that is the reality of forums. Almost every kind of viewpoint and false doctrine is present alongside the truth. Which can lead to confusion if you yourself are not solidly grounded. But if there is any possibility of meeting face-to-face with other mature Christians to study the Word on a regular basis, that would be best. But they must be sound in the faith and sound in doctrine. Otherwise they will create more confusion. So if you have not already done so, find a sound Bible believing and Bible preaching church in you area and then go from there. Chances are they will have home Bible studies.
 

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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.
Hi @VictoryinJesus Whatever you finally do, keep trusting in the Word, be encouraged in it prayerfully, day by day.

Don't beat yourself up about smoking; but maybe you'll be able to cut down gradually.

Enjoy your artwork; and say Hi to dh, from us.
 

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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.
behold, you are graven on the palms of my hands....' Isaiah 49:16
 

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“If thou hast run with the footmen, and they have wearied thee, then how canst thou contend with horses? and if in the land of peace, wherein thou trustedst, they wearied thee, then how wilt thou do in the swelling of Jordan?” (Jeremiah 12:5)

Believe the word of God.

Be confident in it.

As soon as someone starts “explaining it” to you, flee!

The only things that needed explaining and revealing in the holy scriptures were all the things written about Christ.

Everything else is just vain babblings of men who tickle the ears of those desiring they be scratched.
 

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@VictoryinJesus I do hope you reconsider.. I've enjoyed discussing scripture in the past with you.

It is a good thing that you have suddenly realized today, the things you were taught as a child concerning the nature of God and his Son and the future of things (Eschatology) for example were not quite right. I went through similar stunning revelations years ago and I'm still seeing a few more today.

Take a deep breath and re-engage...what have you got to lose?..only gain more knowledge of the things you were meant to know...

Bless you VJ and stay put....APAK
 

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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.
Hi VictoryinJesus, how are you? I guess it is always good to express yourself with us here before your final decision, one thing is for sure we have enjoyed our views on the furtherance of the gospel, but please steady that course.

We know that you realize how important it is to us to do so, but let us know how you are doing with things, we love you here and will be in prayer for you.

Love always, Walter and Debbie
 

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“If thou hast run with the footmen, and they have wearied thee, then how canst thou contend with horses? and if in the land of peace, wherein thou trustedst, they wearied thee, then how wilt thou do in the swelling of Jordan?” (Jeremiah 12:5)

Believe the word of God.

Be confident in it.

As soon as someone starts “explaining it” to you, flee!

The only things that needed explaining and revealing in the holy scriptures were all the things written about Christ.

Everything else is just vain babblings of men who tickle the ears of those desiring they be scratched.

Proverbs 27:17 proclaims: “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another”.

Yes! Someone on one of the FB Christian groups has as the logo Iron sharpens Iron. Not only can we encourage each other, we can also ground ourselves in truth. For me, it is a great way to memorize important Bible verses because i find myself typing the same ones over and over.

"But before all these, they shall lay their hands on you, and persecute you, delivering you up to the synagogues, and into prisons, being brought before kings and rulers for my name's sake.Luke 21:12

"But when they arrest you and hand you over, do not worry beforehand what to say. Instead, speak whatever you are given at that time, for it will not be you speaking, but the Holy Spirit. " Mark 13:11 We can only know what to say if it has been read from Scripture at some time . We may glean new things we had never thought of before from our brethren here, and their studies. And we can share ours.

Stay, and sharpen the iron!

Also, if you have a problem with smoking, so did I. For decades!!!And when folk would tell me to pray and have faith, I still smoked. People would tell me He removed their cravings quickly, but my experience wasn't like that. That's OK. He takes us where we are. God and I worked out a unique way to stop. It takes awhile, and my cravings were satisfied. I would be happy to share it with you. It can take up to a year but God knows what you are doing.

Much much blessings to you! ♥♥♥
 

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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.

I had this vision one time where I heard a voice. I was upset about this other forum because something of mine wasn't accepted. But I heard "You don't need his validation, you need My validation." And it is true. Jesus is the only validation we need. He loves us with an everlasting love. I realize with the spiritual warfare going on that.I have to limit my time on here. Work helps and come Monday I will be off mostly again from here. But I'm learning to rest and not quit. Because I keep coming back. Bless you Victory and all you have contributed here.
 

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I had this vision one time where I heard a voice. I was upset about this other forum because something of mine wasn't accepted. But I heard "You don't need his validation, you need My validation." And it is true. Jesus is the only validation we need. He loves us with an everlasting love. I realize with the spiritual warfare going on that.I have to limit my time on here. Work helps and come Monday I will be off mostly again from here. But I'm learning to rest and not quit. Because I keep coming back. Bless you Victory and all you have contributed here.
Amen sister...and another thing is we all go through dry spells where we aren't contributing much to the threads or creating threads. I recently went through one...but I have come back to life now and have begun contributing more.
 

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Posting this goodbye so I won’t be tempted to change my mind in the morning. After—don’t know how many years— I’ve decide to leave the forum. This place has started to influence deep insecurities that have always been within me. It feels way too much like I’m back in High School. For real. Similar to tables in a lunchroom where one table is the popular kids, at another table is the brainy kids, at another the mean boys, at another those kids who like science, at another table those kids who don’t talk much. I ask myself every day why I waste time I could be doing something else …even if it is laundry or dishes. I don’t regret coming here though because you all have inspired me from the very beginning to keep studying; but still I’m not sure where that has led except a whole mess of confusion with countless different perspectives. It was easier as a little girl being taken to a Baptist church and being told by my upbringing “this is what we believe”. I think for the longest time I’ve been searching for some kind of validation and in searching for validation… I doubt more and more.
Only God is able to set it all right in you and for you sister... but you know that. Sometimes you spoke so clearly to me but other times, as you also know, I had a hard time understanding what you were saying. For this reason, many times I did not contribute to your threads. I only wish I could have helped you more.

Yes, you are struggling, but I believe, in the right direction... toward God. May God richly bless you and your husband!