how are we supposed to deal with death?

ive been realizing lately that death (human, physical death) is extremely weird. the truth of it makes complete sense. it makes more sense to me to believe that humans live on earth because of god creating us, and god created us to spend eternity with him, than to believe that we just appeared and die completely after a century or so.
anyways. basically a grandparent died a month ago or so and so there were a few services following that i had to go to. since then ive just been thinking about how sort of, with all due respect, awkward (?) death and the services are. i have two more services to go to this week starting tomorrow and am nearly dreading it. just because i dont understand or know what to think/ what to pray about/ even how to act. ugh. its terrible. maybe we arent supposed to know if a person goes to heaven or hell, but as much as i trust god, i cant imagine people who i love suffering in hell. its awful to me and it makes me feel uncomfortable.

one thing i know about the services is that they are humbling. like, i am humbled to know that flesh is grass.

yikes. sorry this is a really terrible post. but i am sincerely concerned. and honestly curious as to what you all think/ what you think we should think.

anyhoo!
blessings!

thanks! i appreciate your thoughts.
rejoicing is definitely important, especially since hes bigger than even death. ah. cool. im relieved to know that people have seen god before their death. i was wondering that actually, so im glad you mentioned it. i feel like he would do that. that is comforting. i think there mightve been angels in the room when my grampa died. i mean i didnt see any, but sort of thought maybe. who knows! im glad to know that he is good either way. wow. i guess that goes to show how much grace and love he has even for the ones who dont like him. that is amazing to me. im so excited to see him.

thanks shep. you have helped indeed blessings

wow. oh my goodness. (i believe it.) praise the lord.