The very scripture you quoted contradicts that statement. "It is proper to hate" the work, not the "vessel".
Yes, depending on how one views the vessel.
Let's not forget that the vessel is what God dashes to pieces and rebuilds into something honorable.
But thank you for pointing that out because I should be careful what i say to a new person in the faith as they may not be able to distinguish between the vessel and the person.
Obviously God does not destroy the person but the old man. And obviously what he makes of the pieces is the new man.
So I guess what I should get in the habit of saying to a newbie is that we hate the carnal man even of our self. But we yet love our self. We look to the good in our self and believe that it is in us so why would we not also do that for others?
I will gather the scriptures which speak of this and post them here in a few minutes.
While I am doing that I will leave this passage to ponder: 2 Timothy 2:20 But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and of silver, but also of wood and of earth; and some to honour, and some to dishonour.
21 If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master's use, and prepared unto every good work.
We see the process out lined for us here: Jeremiah 18:1 ¶The word which came to Jeremiah from the LORD, saying,
2 Arise, and go down to the potter's house, and there I will cause thee to hear my words.
3 Then I went down to the potter's house, and, behold, he wrought a work on the wheels.
4 And the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter:
so he made it again another vessel, as seemed good to the potter to make it.
The prophecy word of God through the prophet continues: Jeremiah 18:5 Then the word of the LORD came to me, saying,
6 O house of Israel,
cannot I do with you as this potter? saith the LORD. Behold, as the clay is in the potter's hand, so are ye in mine hand, O house of Israel.
(Side note: I know Insight is loving me having to say this. :lol: You have no idea what you got me into Gypsy.)
Anyway, God is not about destroying as many make Him out to be. He will break us down so that He can build us back up into something honorable. It is the carnality in us that He is crushing. And we see at 1 Corinthians chapter 5 that sometimes even within the church we have to set the person out as a dishonorable vessel so that he does not contaminate God's work among the people He is making holy. That is hating the vessel which insists on being a container for ungodliness. But that same man is also thought to be the one Paul speaks of forgiving at 2 Corinthians chapter 2. The carnal man was dashed and the new man was born of the pieces.
We want to remember another important rule when it comes to how we deal with vessels outside the church that we do not incur unnecessary hard feelings and consequent persecution of outsiders: 1 Corinthians 5:13a But them that are without God judgeth.
We must let God do the judging of outsiders but regard the vessel with hatred of what it clings to and so as David said:
Psalms 101:3 "... it [that vessel] shall not cleave to me." That is a bad association spoils useful habits sort of a thing.
None of this stops us from loving all men if we have proper spiritual balance. We then merely know how to love and how not to love.
It might also help to explain to a newbie how love and hate are both actions. You know, like when we are told this: Luke 14:26 If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. Hate sometimes means only that it is an action of loving less. In other words it does not mean there is no love at all there. In fact that is most often the case when wicked persons are spoken of being hated even in the OT (right up to the point where they force God's hand to have to destroy them. For they can turn and repent until then. He allows them His rains and fruitful harvests until then.)