Should Christians Seek Mates On Christian Dating Sites ?

what do you think?

No. I would never ever find some random person and call her my companion. It has to be special!! I know who the one is.

it would be dangerous for a girl. better in the context of a church setting.

Because of the present crisis, I think it is best to remain just as you are. If you have a wife, do not end the marriage. If you do not have a wife, do not get married. But if you do get married, it is not a sin. And if a young woman gets married, it is not a sin. However, I am trying to spare you the extra problems that come with marriage.

Now let me say this, dear brothers and sisters: The time that remains is very short, so husbands should not let marriage be their major concern. Happiness or sadness or wealth should not keep anyone from doing God's work. Those in frequent contact with the things of the world should make good use of them without becoming attached to them, for this world and all it contains will pass away. In everything you do, I want you to be free from the concerns of this life.

An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord's work and thinking how to please him. But a married man can't do that so well. He has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided.

In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be more devoted to the Lord in body and in spirit, while the married woman must be concerned about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.

(1 Corinthians 7:26-35 NLT)

I believe in arranged marraiges. Let God do the arranging.

Love in Christ,
Mark

Meet someone anyway ya want...

they should do so prayerfully!

Come on, we should eat prayerfully...cross the street prayerfully..

mark s said:

An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord's work and thinking how to please him. But a married man can't do that so well. He has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided.

In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be more devoted to the Lord in body and in spirit, while the married woman must be concerned about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.

(1 Corinthians 7:26-35 NLT)

I believe in arranged marraiges. Let God do the arranging.

Love in Christ,
Mark

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Just a thought....but I believe the Bible teaches that a husband that fully serves his wife and children in a godly manner...ie. sacrificial head, and a wife that fully serves her husband and children as she should...helper and encourager; is actually serving Christ. It's like a mini church situation. The more we all draw closer to Jesus, and practice serving Him and each other in godly ways, the more we encourage each other to grow in likeness to Him. It strengthens the family and glorifies God.

As per the advise of Paul, I do also believe that singleness can be a blessing. But I do believe that the passage above is his advice in the present time...of the persecution those people were suffering and about to suffer. But in general, regarding today and most of history, I have to disagree that just because people are married they cannot be just as devoted to Jesus. In fact, I would say that living with people can be difficult, and it is only devotion to Jesus, knowing how He wishes us to behave and love our spouses and children, that makes a marriage work. There are plenty of passages in scripture that discuss marriage and service in and through marriage, to suggest that it too is a good and godly thing!

Hi Rach,

Regarding how one may spend his time, I cannot, at the drop of the proverbial hat, leave for the mission field without failing in my responsibility to my wife. The single man can. I think that was what Paul was talking about, things like that.

But then, I don't think God is calling me to do that, either.

I can't spend all my time devoted to prayer and the ministry of the Word. I need to also do those things to care for my wife.

But even so, I believe God wants me married. He brought me my wife, and He built our marriage. Together, we are greater than the sum of both of us alone. God arranged it.

I think the unmarried do well to not seek after a spouse, but instead to let God bring the right person at the right time. Seek to serve the Lord, and when he/she comes along, you can know this is of God.

Love in Christ,
Mark

mark s said:

Hi Rach,

Regarding how one may spend his time, I cannot, at the drop of the proverbial hat, leave for the mission field without failing in my responsibility to my wife. The single man can. I think that was what Paul was talking about, things like that.

But then, I don't think God is calling me to do that, either.

I can't spend all my time devoted to prayer and the ministry of the Word. I need to also do those things to care for my wife.

But even so, I believe God wants me married. He brought me my wife, and He built our marriage. Together, we are greater than the sum of both of us alone. God arranged it.

I think the unmarried do well to not seek after a spouse, but instead to let God bring the right person at the right time. Seek to serve the Lord, and when he/she comes along, you can know this is of God.

Love in Christ,
Mark

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True, and good points, but not strictly accurate for all people. Remember, while Paul indeed gave the above advice, and for himself, being single was very good! But God also told us to go forth and multiply, and gave us the covenant of marriage, saying that it was not good for the man to be alone. I always knew that I wanted to be married. I wanted that relationship, wanted to play my part within in it. For some, God calls to ministry...not just Pastoral, but also missional...overseas and in the backyard! For me, I always knew God was calling me to marriage, to a family and to my role within it.
I think the big issue is that whatever God calls you to, serve Him the best way you can, the wisest you can, within that field! To pray about every decision and just follow the leading of the Spirit.

Rach said:

I think the big issue is that whatever God calls you to, serve Him the best way you can, the wisest you can, within that field! To pray about every decision and just follow the leading of the Spirit.

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Amen!!!

Meeting someone online is no different than meeting them anywhere else,people can spiritualize it all they wish but people are people and there are no guiarantees based on how or where we meet them.

prism said:

it would be dangerous for a girl. better in the context of a church setting.

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That is true to the extent that feminism has entered the church,one of feminism's most cheished ideals is that Women are always the victims and that men are inherently evil.I have a friend who married a woman he met in church,i would rather crawl across broken glasss with broken legs than spend a day with her,just because a woman or man for that matter is in a Church does not make them a Christian,no more than you being in water makes you a Fish.

It would be wise to be extremely careful with this type of thing. You could lose your soul if you are not careful.

Meet chicks the old fashioned way (the way the Fonz did) by crashing into their shopping carts at the grocery store!

biggandyy said:

Meet chicks the old fashioned way (the way the Fonz did) by crashing into their shopping carts at the grocery store!

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:lol: Oh im going to have to try that now. But what do you say after the crash ? Im sorry or do you come up with a clever line ?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JMF12r0MBnw

^^^ Oh I see just tell them what to do same old same old.