Unfading Beauty: Wisdom from Wives
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I was blessed to be given a godly, virtuous, thoroughly Christian wife, when I told the Lord that I needed one. A holy woman’s price is far above rubies, gold, and diamonds.
Men, settle for nothing less. To have as your loving companion a lady with Christ in her, who treasures her Bible and vows to God to do you good and not evil all the days of her life — this makes life a most wonderful delight.
And like I said, when you flow together in blessed harmony, submission is not an issue and power dynamics are irrelevant, because you become one flesh, acting in united accord, enjoying each other’s presence. It is heaven on earth, in spite of imperfections in personality.
Men, settle for nothing less. To have as your loving companion a lady with Christ in her, who treasures her Bible and vows to God to do you good and not evil all the days of her life — this makes life a most wonderful delight.
And like I said, when you flow together in blessed harmony, submission is not an issue and power dynamics are irrelevant, because you become one flesh, acting in united accord, enjoying each other’s presence. It is heaven on earth, in spite of imperfections in personality.
Someone asked how a home-centered wife is even beneficial to a man. I'd like to talk about it.
So the logic of the question goes, if a man can make his own lunch, do his own chores, etc what does he gain if a woman does this for him?
I actually like this question. Of course, a woman today can also pay her own bills. Why bother with gender roles?
There are two big reasons that come to kind right away: specialization and efficiency.
It's a lot easier to master one thing by investing time in it than three or four things. A biblical patriarchal husband can be decent at childcare and chores but he only has to master bringing in those paychecks and leadership. Not bills, chores, childcare, and cooking.
A biblical home centered wife can focus all her energy into making a home that renews the energy of the family. She specializes in bringing peace and order to the home. Can she do this and bring in a paycheck? Sure. She can make money. But it's extremely hard to be both a primary breadwinner and do chores, cooking, and childcare for a family.
Next, I want make something clear: it is easier to focus on the demands of a career when outside distractions are limited. It may seem insignificant for a wife to cook one meal, do one load of laundry, and be in charge of the children for a day. But think about the money saved from not having to outsource those things and the energy the man saves by not having to put these things on his plate. Now multiply that. Days turn into months. Months into years. That's a lot of energy that is being reinvested into doing better at the role of providing an income. That's why couples that "sacrifice" the wife's income don't often stay poor forever and end up doing really well through the husband's promotions and advancements.
So the logic of the question goes, if a man can make his own lunch, do his own chores, etc what does he gain if a woman does this for him?
I actually like this question. Of course, a woman today can also pay her own bills. Why bother with gender roles?
There are two big reasons that come to kind right away: specialization and efficiency.
It's a lot easier to master one thing by investing time in it than three or four things. A biblical patriarchal husband can be decent at childcare and chores but he only has to master bringing in those paychecks and leadership. Not bills, chores, childcare, and cooking.
A biblical home centered wife can focus all her energy into making a home that renews the energy of the family. She specializes in bringing peace and order to the home. Can she do this and bring in a paycheck? Sure. She can make money. But it's extremely hard to be both a primary breadwinner and do chores, cooking, and childcare for a family.
Next, I want make something clear: it is easier to focus on the demands of a career when outside distractions are limited. It may seem insignificant for a wife to cook one meal, do one load of laundry, and be in charge of the children for a day. But think about the money saved from not having to outsource those things and the energy the man saves by not having to put these things on his plate. Now multiply that. Days turn into months. Months into years. That's a lot of energy that is being reinvested into doing better at the role of providing an income. That's why couples that "sacrifice" the wife's income don't often stay poor forever and end up doing really well through the husband's promotions and advancements.
"When women decide to do their housework joyfully, even if their husbands never lift a finger to help them, they are serving the Lord and doing what He has called them to do. The world cannot understand this because to them everything is about fairness, 50/50, equality, and rights. For us, life is about giving our lives away in service to others which brings glory to God. We are called to live unselfishly and generously towards others, especially our husbands. Joy comes from serving others, not from getting our way or from being served for the greatest of all is the servant of all.
Make his life as happy and easy as you can!"
---Lori Alexander from thetransformedwife.com
Make his life as happy and easy as you can!"
---Lori Alexander from thetransformedwife.com
When you decide to take up your cross and serve others, it feels back layers of selfishness and self-dependence. It's hard at times, even to the point of wanting to lay the cross down and go back. But you must trust God's process. He's refining you and storing up heavenly treasures. That's where your heart must be.
Grailhunter
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@TitusTwoWife
You have a wonderful ministry.
God bless you and your family.
Change is hard for Christians and most are not aware of the changes since biblical times.
Its funny if they actually knew of the changes they would agree with most of them.
The one thing they do not want to give up is misogyny. They want to keep women as second rate members of Christianity and society. A lot to that story, but all we can do now is plant seeds of fairness and wisdom
Keep up the good work....girl!
Be good and do good.
The Johnny Appleseed of Truth.
You have a wonderful ministry.
God bless you and your family.
Change is hard for Christians and most are not aware of the changes since biblical times.
Its funny if they actually knew of the changes they would agree with most of them.
The one thing they do not want to give up is misogyny. They want to keep women as second rate members of Christianity and society. A lot to that story, but all we can do now is plant seeds of fairness and wisdom
Keep up the good work....girl!
Be good and do good.
The Johnny Appleseed of Truth.
Thank you. God bless you and your loved ones!
amigo de christo
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And yet many , a number so high this mortal man cannot number it , DO the opposite .
THEY change HIM , or try too , to fit their own desires . Dear sister allow me some parting words
of much gravity .
ALL WHO DO SO shall surely weep wail and howl on HIS day
and their image of what they thought was GOD and even beleived was JESUS
WILL NOT be able to deliver them FROM THE WRATH OF THE TRUE GOD and OF HIS TRUE JESUS CHRIST
who their images DESPISED .
That sounds a bit grave huh . BELIEVE ME it could be much more grave and much more serious .
AND SURE WILL BE if they repent NOT before HIS DAY or they depart this earth .
amigo de christo
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Far better is a grave rod and correction NOW
than a soft tongue that
flatteries and lies . Better to warn now then weep later .
LOVE CORRECTS . For we desire not the death of the wicked but rather their repentance . AS DO GOD HIMSELF of course .
than a soft tongue that
flatteries and lies . Better to warn now then weep later .
LOVE CORRECTS . For we desire not the death of the wicked but rather their repentance . AS DO GOD HIMSELF of course .
amigo de christo
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This is the last monday of this years candle my dear sister . but As you light the next one
DOUBLE DOWN pointing to CHRIST and all lovely pure doctrine .
And remember we are but one day closer to forever being in such a lovely place , prepared by GOD and the LAMB
for all who do BELIEVE ON HIS CHRIST JESUS .
FAITHFUL to the end dear sister . Faithful to HE who has saved us and can keep us from falling .
TO the trenches . AND remember now matter how quickly times can change for the worse
and persecutions can and will increase , REMEMBER , and they loved NOT their lives unto the death .
ITS JESUS WE SERVE and HE IS FAITHFUL . now to them trenches sister .
amigo de christo
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Beauty cometh and is quickly gone
and as the green grass does shoot up and its flower does appear , HOW quickly it shall fade .
BUT THE BEAUTY of THE LORD , OF HIS WORD , OF HIS TRUTH shall never fade .
But shall swell up to a wellspring of life UNTO ALL WHO DO BELEIVE .
in this life itself we see a witness . For youth soon vanishes , the beauty ever season of the field does fade
And man goes from youth to age . BUT THE WORD OF THE LORD SHALL ENDURE FOREVER
as will ALL whose hopes and faith BE IN HE WHOM GOD DID SEND CHRIST JESUS . WE shall live FOREVER
in new glorified bodies that shall never age or fade . FREE forever WITH HE who has saved us .
Now on those feet , dance a jig of thunderous praises unto the LORD . FOR he or she whose HOPE be IN HIM
THEY HAVE ALL HOPE . praise the LORD .
and as the green grass does shoot up and its flower does appear , HOW quickly it shall fade .
BUT THE BEAUTY of THE LORD , OF HIS WORD , OF HIS TRUTH shall never fade .
But shall swell up to a wellspring of life UNTO ALL WHO DO BELEIVE .
in this life itself we see a witness . For youth soon vanishes , the beauty ever season of the field does fade
And man goes from youth to age . BUT THE WORD OF THE LORD SHALL ENDURE FOREVER
as will ALL whose hopes and faith BE IN HE WHOM GOD DID SEND CHRIST JESUS . WE shall live FOREVER
in new glorified bodies that shall never age or fade . FREE forever WITH HE who has saved us .
Now on those feet , dance a jig of thunderous praises unto the LORD . FOR he or she whose HOPE be IN HIM
THEY HAVE ALL HOPE . praise the LORD .
A PICTURE OF MARRIAGE
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Ephesians 5:22
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:24
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Colossians 3:18
As a woman and, I suspect, in the company of many other women, I have often wished that these verses weren’t included in the scriptures. Wrongly I have perceived them to be biased in favour of the man in a relationship. But God has showed me a new picture of submission and in a loving relationship it ought not to be a heavy thing, but rather something joyful and natural.
I am an ardent fan of ‘Strictly Come Dancing’ where professional dancers teach celebrities and love to watch the celebrities grow in confidence during the weeks spent learning and competing. Even in the relatively early days of the programme some of the amateur dancers stand out and by the final couple of weeks it becomes harder to predict who will win.
As I was watching an episode a recent episode I began to see that a good marriage should be like a dance partnership. The man leads, the woman follows his lead. She must trust him implicitly if the difficult lifts are to be successful. He twirls her away and she dances alone for a while but they are still in step, still dancing to the same music. He draws her back into a close hold and she rests in his arms in the beautiful rhythms of the dance. She reacts to his every move and he is completely aware of her.
Whether the music is fast and joyful or slow and sensuous their partnership is beautiful. And the longer they dance together the more confident of her own ability the female partner becomes.
To me this is a picture of how marriage should be. It is an equal partnership with each partner having their own role; their own set of steps if you like. The woman in a marriage should not lead her partner but follow him just as the female dancer follows the male lead. But equally the man should not control the woman, she must follow willingly.
There will be circumstances when a woman will be ‘dancing’ separately from her husband, for example following a career or ministry, but their lives should continue to be lived in harmony and in step with one another.
During hard times, as in the dance lifts, the wife needs to trust the husband. And there need to be times of closeness and intimacy for the partnership to remain strong.
These dances are choreographed for a man and a woman and are so beautiful to watch when performed by experts. But the dance would not look so good if either was dancing alone; or if the man was pulling and pushing the woman around the ballroom; or if the woman was resisting and refusing to follow the man’s lead.
This picture of marriage has really opened my eyes to how things should be.
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Ephesians 5:22
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:24
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Colossians 3:18
As a woman and, I suspect, in the company of many other women, I have often wished that these verses weren’t included in the scriptures. Wrongly I have perceived them to be biased in favour of the man in a relationship. But God has showed me a new picture of submission and in a loving relationship it ought not to be a heavy thing, but rather something joyful and natural.
I am an ardent fan of ‘Strictly Come Dancing’ where professional dancers teach celebrities and love to watch the celebrities grow in confidence during the weeks spent learning and competing. Even in the relatively early days of the programme some of the amateur dancers stand out and by the final couple of weeks it becomes harder to predict who will win.
As I was watching an episode a recent episode I began to see that a good marriage should be like a dance partnership. The man leads, the woman follows his lead. She must trust him implicitly if the difficult lifts are to be successful. He twirls her away and she dances alone for a while but they are still in step, still dancing to the same music. He draws her back into a close hold and she rests in his arms in the beautiful rhythms of the dance. She reacts to his every move and he is completely aware of her.
Whether the music is fast and joyful or slow and sensuous their partnership is beautiful. And the longer they dance together the more confident of her own ability the female partner becomes.
To me this is a picture of how marriage should be. It is an equal partnership with each partner having their own role; their own set of steps if you like. The woman in a marriage should not lead her partner but follow him just as the female dancer follows the male lead. But equally the man should not control the woman, she must follow willingly.
There will be circumstances when a woman will be ‘dancing’ separately from her husband, for example following a career or ministry, but their lives should continue to be lived in harmony and in step with one another.
During hard times, as in the dance lifts, the wife needs to trust the husband. And there need to be times of closeness and intimacy for the partnership to remain strong.
These dances are choreographed for a man and a woman and are so beautiful to watch when performed by experts. But the dance would not look so good if either was dancing alone; or if the man was pulling and pushing the woman around the ballroom; or if the woman was resisting and refusing to follow the man’s lead.
This picture of marriage has really opened my eyes to how things should be.
Marvelloustime
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This bad faith argument cropped up in my Pinterest feed.
In this woman's attempt to refuse to take ownership of the dishes, she starts complaining about her husband.
Imagine if a husband turned this type of thinking on his wife. "You didn't put gas in my car for me, you did it for the household." "You didn't cook a meal for me, it's for the household that you also live in.
She gossips and complains when she could've thanked him for doing the dishes and flirted with him to encourage him to do it in the future. But feminism ruins relationships and you can see it here.
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As wives, we can always choose to be grateful for the things our husband does for us big and small. Be careful of the spirit that drives women to expect grand gestures on holidays and anniversaries and become bitter when disappointed. Let's keep in mind that the love men often give is often stability---going to work every day, fixing things around the house, taking care of the car, being a listening ear every day. These gestures matter just as much as candy anc roses and are proof of love.
The heart of a good man desires to take burdens upon himself to uplift those he cares for. It's like the Lord. He took the punishment we deserved upon Himself and while we owe Him dedication and obedience, He wants us to have life more abundantly and rejoice.
When you have a good man, yes it's good to serve him at home but your smile and peace are often the things he desires the most in you. To know that his work is making your life easier. That he is easing your burden with his sacrifice and you are enjoying that.
When you have a good man, yes it's good to serve him at home but your smile and peace are often the things he desires the most in you. To know that his work is making your life easier. That he is easing your burden with his sacrifice and you are enjoying that.
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