Biblical Marriage Mashup
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Someone asked how a home-centered wife is even beneficial to a man. I'd like to talk about it.
So the logic of the question goes, if a man can make his own lunch, do his own chores, etc what does he gain if a woman does this for him?
I actually like this question. Of course, a woman today can also pay her own bills. Why bother with gender roles?
There are two big reasons that come to kind right away: specialization and efficiency.
It's a lot easier to master one thing by investing time in it than three or four things. A biblical patriarchal husband can be decent at childcare and chores but he only has to master bringing in those paychecks and leadership. Not bills, chores, childcare, and cooking.
A biblical home centered wife can focus all her energy into making a home that renews the energy of the family. She specializes in bringing peace and order to the home. Can she do this and bring in a paycheck? Sure. She can make money. But it's extremely hard to be both a primary breadwinner and do chores, cooking, and childcare for a family.
Next, I want make something clear: it is easier to focus on the demands of a career when outside distractions are limited. It may seem insignificant for a wife to cook one meal, do one load of laundry, and be in charge of the children for a day. But think about the money saved from not having to outsource those things and the energy the man saves by not having to put these things on his plate. Now multiply that. Days turn into months. Months into years. That's a lot of energy that is being reinvested into doing better at the role of providing an income. That's why couples that "sacrifice" the wife's income don't often stay poor forever and end up doing really well through the husband's promotions and advancements.
So the logic of the question goes, if a man can make his own lunch, do his own chores, etc what does he gain if a woman does this for him?
I actually like this question. Of course, a woman today can also pay her own bills. Why bother with gender roles?
There are two big reasons that come to kind right away: specialization and efficiency.
It's a lot easier to master one thing by investing time in it than three or four things. A biblical patriarchal husband can be decent at childcare and chores but he only has to master bringing in those paychecks and leadership. Not bills, chores, childcare, and cooking.
A biblical home centered wife can focus all her energy into making a home that renews the energy of the family. She specializes in bringing peace and order to the home. Can she do this and bring in a paycheck? Sure. She can make money. But it's extremely hard to be both a primary breadwinner and do chores, cooking, and childcare for a family.
Next, I want make something clear: it is easier to focus on the demands of a career when outside distractions are limited. It may seem insignificant for a wife to cook one meal, do one load of laundry, and be in charge of the children for a day. But think about the money saved from not having to outsource those things and the energy the man saves by not having to put these things on his plate. Now multiply that. Days turn into months. Months into years. That's a lot of energy that is being reinvested into doing better at the role of providing an income. That's why couples that "sacrifice" the wife's income don't often stay poor forever and end up doing really well through the husband's promotions and advancements.
A woman is what God defines, not Satan. God created the woman to be the solution for the man's lack of intimacy, i.e., loneliness. The man is commanded to treat his wife as his equal. This equality is not for the wife to demand; it's for the man to give. The wife is commanded to place herself under the husband's authority. This is not for the husband to demand of his equal; it's on her to fear his authority.
Be His Lily of the Field
Many of us have been brought up to be masculine due to feminism. We think we have to be in control, carry heavy burdens, endure stress, and worry about all that's on our plate.
But to bless our husbands, we are to be more like the lilies of the field. We store up positive energy to bring our husbands peace and help them to relax. Keep your whimsy, your smile, your laughter. Take care of your physical body and give your anxieties to the Lord. Consider the words of the Sermon of the Mount. Be like the lily of the field, trusting always in the goodness of the Father. Then we are free to bless our husbands with a peaceful and happy countenance.
Many of us have been brought up to be masculine due to feminism. We think we have to be in control, carry heavy burdens, endure stress, and worry about all that's on our plate.
But to bless our husbands, we are to be more like the lilies of the field. We store up positive energy to bring our husbands peace and help them to relax. Keep your whimsy, your smile, your laughter. Take care of your physical body and give your anxieties to the Lord. Consider the words of the Sermon of the Mount. Be like the lily of the field, trusting always in the goodness of the Father. Then we are free to bless our husbands with a peaceful and happy countenance.
amigo de christo
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feminism and homesexual agenda run hand in hand dear sister . hand in hand .
You need to go and behold what is being done in the land of israel . And it was state sanctioned and approved .
They now dance around the sea of the dead , or the dead sea
near what they beleive to be is the ashes and remains of sodom .
And as they dance they MOCK and cry loudly , PRIDE IS GONNA REIGN . PRIDE IS GONNA REIGN .
But little do they know nor the churches who support pride month know
That the very ashes of said cities upon who they dance and say PRIDE IS GONNA REIGN
IT RAINED BRIMESTONE AND FIRE for THEIR PRIDE and that is why such places became ash .
THIS is a total mockery to GOD , as was their cliam on the rainbow .
But all the church can say is JUDGE NOT , JUDGE NOT , lets just hug .
IT AINT WORKING sister . WOmen now lead this peoples and the few men who do
may as well be women for they correct not , its all emotionalism now .
Judge not correct not DOES NOT work . The only thing this judge not correct not did
WAS ALLOW LEAVEN TO TAKE OVER . AND now we see exactly what it has led too .
A generation very rebellious to GOD and worse a lot of christendom is as well .
amigo de christo
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This generation has no idea what a godly man even is anymore .
To them a goldy man simply at most gives fluff n puff speeches
as he also pulls out the pulpit for the woman to lead the church .
To them a grave man , that rebukes and corrects is nothing more than a hater in their eyes .
amigo de christo
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women were never meant nor created to lead the church or the man .
And any godly woman of Christ knows that . She is but a helper too , not a teacher over or leader over the man or church .
We are in serious trouble sister .
Point to JESUS to the final breath .
Marvelloustime
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amigo de christo
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I have truly never seen such madness my dear sister .
The woman was indeed made for the man and to be a co helper to him .
And now look at what has become of society households and even households within christendom .
The woman is stuck discplining the children and trying to lead the household up
cause the man too feminized and is nothing but a pushover to the kids .
And then the poor mothers say to such husbands , HELP ME lead these children .
And yet when said woman goes to a church , IF SHE DO , and sees
a man leading and that man says HEY only men ought to lead the church
STILL SHE whines and acts like , NO WOMAN can lead .
ITs madness sister . The man was created IN THE AUTHORATIVE POSITION .
Its why there used to be a natural more respect and fear of the Dad in the household .
children were always a bit more apt to behave , specially WHEN dad was around and mom could
say HEY if you dont mind me , YOUR dad is gonna discpline you when he gets home .
BUT THAT IS GONE SISTER .
GONE due to feminsim and etc . Its also why satan loved to break up families and convince
the women of WOMEN POWER feminsim stuff . HE knew what he was doing sister .
And now look at how bad it is in a lot of houses as well as even churches .
NOW they heed the cries of rebellious children , who even cry i am not john i am jane .
and i am not sally and i am saul . ITS GETTEING WORSE sister .
And it will only get worse , SO LONG as THEY keep rebuking and hating on
TRUE MEN WHO DO come and do correct .
This is how we intend to raise our children. It may be gone in many households but not in ours.
amigo de christo
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The woman is not identical to the man . Man was made more authorative , the woman more as
a helper .
This is also why many women today , lost and confused by wacked out doctrines
are often living in fear , being told THEY TOO have the power to lead the church
and often feeling like something is wrong with them cause they feel THEY NEED TO or SHOULD .
They also get told or encouraged , HEY GET UP GIRL , YOU can lead this church .
And often feel confused and really have no idea HOW to do so .
TILL of course their wacked out thelogians and doctrines instruct them .
BUT EVEN THEN they cannot do so correctly .
You cant have a one who was created to be a co helper and thus was given that type of mind
TRYING TO GET UP and be the right kind of AUHTORITIVE mindset .
ITS also why these poor women , when they see men like me and compare me to women leaders
and feminized men , THINK i am way to grave , way too serious . Way too authorative .
BECAUSE they themselves CANNOT relate , YET THINK , THINK that women have this authority .
THEY cannot see or understand sister . THERE IS a GOD GIVEN DIFFERENCE
in the way A MAN IS and a Woman is . GOD made men to LEAD not follow . we got problems sister .
amigo de christo
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sister , as often as i have read your posts , I for sure came to that conclusion long ago . YOU spot on right sister
about this household stuff . I was only reminding you and others i HOPE who might be
reading our posts .
"Grow up. Get serious. Apply yourself. Work really hard and you'll make a good life."
This is the message I was taught. I never expected to find a husband who wanted to make a good life for me.
Now he simply wants me to be at ease and enjoy life so he can be at peace and enjoy life. The playful, girlish nature I tried to put away is the very thing he wants to see more of. Whimsy, playfulness, and childlikeness are all very important. Femininity is important.
This is the message I was taught. I never expected to find a husband who wanted to make a good life for me.
Now he simply wants me to be at ease and enjoy life so he can be at peace and enjoy life. The playful, girlish nature I tried to put away is the very thing he wants to see more of. Whimsy, playfulness, and childlikeness are all very important. Femininity is important.
Rockerduck
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Man is the head of women. Christ is the head of Man. The wife and family is symbolic of a church and the man symbolizes Christ in the marriage. This is the mystery that the Apostle Paul set forth for a Christian marriage. The man is commanded to love the wife and the wife is to respect the man and the elder ladies are supposed to teach the wife how to love their husband. Equality in a marriage is feminizim and satanic. Submit to Jesus and not to yourself. Both the man and woman submit their selves to Christ and His word.
