Warnings Against Fornication

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I know that most believers should know this, but when was the last time this warning has been given out in the churches for believers to be reminded of since the media floods our view with fornication as being the norm in society?What did Paul wrote when a church was ignoring fornication within? :study:1 Corinthians 6: 8Nay, ye do wrong, and defraud, and that your brethren. 9Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 11And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. 12All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. 13Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. 14And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power. 15Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. 16What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. 17But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. 18Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 19What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. So what about a believer living with another believer of the opposite sex? How is that abstaining from all appearances of evil? Are we not called out of the world to be a light to the world? How can the world see that light if we run like the world? How did Paul address what a church should do when a brother is caught in a trespass?1 Corinthians 5: 1It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife. 2And ye are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he that hath done this deed might be taken away from among you. 3For I verily, as absent in body, but present in spirit, have judged already, as though I were present, concerning him that hath so done this deed,4In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when ye are gathered together, and my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ, 5To deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus. :pray:6Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump? 7Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our passover is sacrificed for us: 8Therefore let us keep the feast, not with old leaven, neither with the leaven of malice and wickedness; but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth. 9I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators: 10Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world. 11But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat. 12For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within? 13But them that are without God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.For those believers that are living in sin and the church does not know it, the Bible says, God knows. Christianity is not a religion of outward appearances but a relationship with God made possible by Jesus Christ, and it is through Jesus Christ we have a relationship with God through His Son Whom is with us always for we have been bought with a price. And if you are bought with a price, so is the one you are having sexual relations wiith before getting married. If you love that person, why tempt that person to sin? It isn't just your inner sruggles and desires and you sinning against God, but you are causing someone esle to sin against God with you. Here are Paul's instructions for those believers to avoid fornication.1 Corinthians 7: 1Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband....6But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. 7For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 8I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. So we are called out of the world not to live as the world live, so that our light may shine forth of the hope we have in Christ Jesus. So abstain from all appearances of evil and do not live together until you are married. This avoids the temptation of fornication in close quarters. Double-dating is a fun way to avoid some of the peer pressures of having sex on a date. Trust the Lord to be Your Good Shepherd in leading you away from temptations by providing an escape so that you may bear it. But make no mistake, fornicators shall not inherit the Kingdom of God so do not defraud yourself nor another believer of it. It is that serious for you do not know when the Lord shall appear... so be ready at all times. Don't be caught with your pants down. :eek:May the believers as well as the churches remind each other the consequences of committing fornication so that the world glorifying it as a desireable practise in society will lose its appeal.
 

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Speaking as a man of previous sexual sin, I myself have lived in fornication and constant impurity. I cannot stand the man I once was and thank you for reminding us all how pure God intended us to be. Matthew 27-30 shows exactly where this culture has gone blind. I hope I am not the only one that lives by these passages.
 

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But thank God we CAN ask forgiveness!! And it is given freely and generously to those who humble themselves and come to God with a broken heart.As a woman who came out of that old way I still struggle with the memories of how I hurt people by commiting such acts. But God takes the ugly and can turn things to glorify Him.Greater is He who is in us than he who is in the world.
 

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Hi chefguy85,Thank you for sharing what the Lord has done for you! May your testimony of His deliverance and His help give hope to those struggling with sin. May they look to the Lord to deliver them so sin shall have no more dominion over them.Truly, our hope is in the Lord!Romans 6: 10For in that he died, he died unto sin once: but in that he liveth, he liveth unto God. 11Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord. 12Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. 13Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God. 14For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. 15What then? shall we sin, because we are not under the law, but under grace? God forbid. 16Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness? 17But God be thanked, that ye were the servants of sin, but ye have obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine which was delivered you. 18Being then made free from sin, ye became the servants of righteousness. Hebrews 4: 12For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do. 14Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession.15For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. 16Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.1 Corinthians 10:13There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.1 John 3: 3And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.Jude 1:24Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, 25To the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen.
 

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Hi JUSTMEE!!Thank you for sharing also!! May your testimony give hope to those that need to know that no matter what they have done to themselves and to those around them, the Lord is waiting for all to come to Him for the forgiveness and deliverance from their sins.1 John 3: 8He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.John 6: 28Then said they unto him, What shall we do, that we might work the works of God? 29Jesus answered and said unto them, This is the work of God, that ye believe on him whom he hath sent.1 John 1:9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Ephesians 2: 8For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9Not of works, lest any man should boast. 10For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.1 John 3: 22And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight. 23And this is his commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he gave us commandment. 24And he that keepeth his commandments dwelleth in him, and he in him. And hereby we know that he abideth in us, by the Spirit which he hath given us.
 

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One can say "uncleanness" is masterbation which would stem from lasciviousness which is sexual excessiveness which would stem from idolatry which could be identified with pornography or other objects of images of the flesh as the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eye, and the pride of life being of the world as the love of the Father is not in them for that leads to loving the creature more than the Creator.Galatians 5: 13For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another. 14For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. 15But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another. 16This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. 17For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. 18But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law. 19Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, 20Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, 21Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. 22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. 24And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. 25If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. 26Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.
 

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Theres nothing wrong with what you guys call "fornication". Safe sex between consenting adults hurts no one and sex can be a spiritual experience in itself. Its the life-creating ritual which shouldn't be shunned as "profane" when in fact, sex is absolutely beautiful. Read the Song of Solomon for more info on the beauty of the erotic.
 

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But thank God we CAN ask forgiveness!! And it is given freely and generously to those who humble themselves and come to God with a broken heart.As a woman who came out of that old way I still struggle with the memories of how I hurt people by commiting such acts. But God takes the ugly and can turn things to glorify Him.Greater is He who is in us than he who is in the world.
O Cry,O man.I take JUSTMEEas a friend.lyrics "love moves...I love ya
 

Pariah

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FreeThought,
Theres nothing wrong with what you guys call "fornication". Safe sex between consenting adults hurts no one and sex can be a spiritual experience in itself. Its the life-creating ritual which shouldn't be shunned as "profane" when in fact, sex is absolutely beautiful. Read the Song of Solomon for more info on the beauty of the erotic.
You have been warned by scriptures.Sex can only be beautiful between two consenting adults that are married to each other.And there is plenty wrong with fornication. Let's take a look at it from the world's view.Unwanted children which leads to:Abandonment... consider the homeless street children of Brazil as police will hurt or kill them Given up at orphanage... if they are lucky to have one available, but such an emotional hurt.Abortion... when you see it done, sex will not look like a beautiful thing and no one can say when a person has a soul that the unborn cannot feel the ripping and the mangling of his or her own body.Sexual diseases.... of all kinds as well as the ones that kills. Now if no one ever had any sex before marriage or outside of marriage like adulterers, what are the odds that those diseases would not have existed? Be very slim, I would say.And what happens when someone says no to sex? Then they get mad as if you are rejecting them BUT if you say yes to sex, then they say... it doesn't really mean anything. So is sex really a beautiful thing or just simply a self serving the hormonal overdrive thing? It's only beautiful when it is over?Fear the Lord and depart from iniquity all those that name the name of Christ. He died to save us from our sins.. not so we can live in them.
 

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FreeThought,You have been warned by scriptures.Sex can only be beautiful between two consenting adults that are married to each other.
Seems pretty arbitrary to describe an act as ugly UNLESS a Priest said some words to the couple before they did the act. Whether a loving couple is married or not doesn't change the sex act in itself and does not change the aesthetics of the act.
And there is plenty wrong with fornication. Let's take a look at it from the world's view.Unwanted children which leads to:Abandonment... consider the homeless street children of Brazil as police will hurt or kill them
Married people abandone and/or abuse their children too.
Given up at orphanage... if they are lucky to have one available, but such an emotional hurt.
Married couples give up children for adoption all the time. [Mostly because they are poor and simply cannot afford to give the child a decent life]
Abortion... when you see it done, sex will not look like a beautiful thing and no one can say when a person has a soul that the unborn cannot feel the ripping and the mangling of his or her own body.
I'm pretty much pro-choice [I'm pretty iffy on third trimester ones tho]. But this is a whole nother issue for a whole nother thread. But on a quick side note, if anyone is against abortion cause they think that the fetus can feel the "mangling" of its body, then circumcision should also be a definite no-no.
Sexual diseases.... of all kinds as well as the ones that kills. Now if no one ever had any sex before marriage or outside of marriage like adulterers, what are the odds that those diseases would not have existed? Be very slim, I would say.
And finally this address my main point here, that all these problems of fornication that you listed are all easily solved with SAFE, PROTECTED sex and contraception. Yea it might be true that there would be little to no sexual diseases if no one had sex before or outside of marriage. But I could also say, there would be little to no sexual diseases if everyone just used protection and contraception. Sex in itself is not bad or evil. Sex done without protection is just irresponsible and stupid. Promising to be monogamous to someone and then cheating on them is wrong since you're breaking a promise and betraying someone's trust. But its the betrayal of trust thats ugly and wrong and not the act of sex itself.
And what happens when someone says no to sex? Then they get mad as if you are rejecting them BUT if you say yes to sex, then they say... it doesn't really mean anything. So is sex really a beautiful thing or just simply a self serving the hormonal overdrive thing? It's only beautiful when it is over?
Are you kidding me? Whenever a good looking girl says yes to me for sex, its such an incredible, life-affirming feeling. Its definitely not meaningless. And not all things that happen to be pleasurable are "self-serving". It takes atleast 2 people to have sex so its obviously not only about the self. And no, sex is not only beautiful when its over. Sex is so beautiful that when you're doing it, you wish that it'd never end. But good things usually dont last forever.
 

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Pariah,Masterbation is an interesting subject for Christians a silent sin that most people do or at least claim too. It is basically porn in the mind. We were created with such strong sexual desires. This sin seems to be the toughest to deal with if we are all honest.Were supposed to get married if we burn with desire, but look at the sin we get into when we are married. People fight, thank bad thoughts,fantisizing,divorce,headaches etc...Sin is just every where!@@!!@!!@!@!@!@@@!@!@!
 

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FreeThought,You can rationalize it all you want, but God says it is sin. It isn't man that says.. God is going to pour out His wrath on fornicators and the likes... it's God.Look at it this way. If man was making this up like say the Bible about How God speaks to His people, then their greatest king, King David, would not be found guilty of murder, nor covetting another man's wife. They could rewrite the Bible to make Israel the good guys and never sinned against God and all these bad things that happened to them was result of just things that go bad in the world. But we know better, because the Bible exposed their sins and their consequences. Proverbs 14: 12There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death. Proverbs 6: 16These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: 17A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, 18An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, 19A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren. 20My son, keep thy father's commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother: 21Bind them continually upon thine heart, and tie them about thy neck. 22When thou goest, it shall lead thee; when thou sleepest, it shall keep thee; and when thou awakest, it shall talk with thee. 23For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life: 24To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. 25Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. 26For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adultress will hunt for the precious life. 27Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? 28Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? One thing you should be aware of... just as a man will lie about not being married, so can a woman. I would hate to see you get used in that way just because she flatters you.29So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent. 30Men do not despise a thief, if he steal to satisfy his soul when he is hungry; 31But if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house. 32But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. 33A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away. 34For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. 35He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.The problem here is your eye. You think now that you are in control, but in truth, sin has dominion over you. You cannot see the evil of what you do because you prefer the darkness rather than come to the Light to be repoved by Jesus.Believers in Christ are called to heed this warning and guide.1 John 2: 15Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 17And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.As this can happen to a believer who sows to the flesh, so can it happen to a sinner.Romans 1:18For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness; 19Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them. 20For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse: 21Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. 22Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, 23And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. 24Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: 25Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. 26For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. 28And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; 29Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, 30Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, 31Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: 32Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.So.... as you say... sex will not last forever. It is passing away just like the lusts in the world shall soon pass away.Decide this day if you prefer your sinful lifestyle of wants and self gratification or... ask Jesus to deliver you from your sin so that sin shall not have dominion over you so you can live as His as well as inherit eternal life.
 

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Hi crooner,That is true as Paul instructs the unmarried and the young widows that cannot contain to get married.For myself, not watching television and going to movies helps to keep out of sight.. out of mind; thus not wishing nor fantasizing or being made sad because I've been made aware that I am alone. Jesus is with me always as He is My Friend to help me live as His Friend.Some people do not have a choice but to remain unmarried. They can still have friends and fellowship and even do charitable good works in helping one another by the grace of God. But the Lord shall lead that person to doing something about it by providing opportunities for that person to date or meet someone that will either be the soul mate or "ka-pow" all desires to seek a soul mate... at least for awhile anyway... from what I have seen in my travels of people's testimonies across the internet.I cannot advise anyone to stay single as I wished I was with someone, but the Lord is with me as I must endure the trials of my life which are entirely different from the trials of anyone else's. Of course, my wishing and this constant alienation by the people around me does have me accepting and rather preferring that I not seek someone now.Rather, I'd wish the Lord would take me Home now. Doesn't bother me a bit if I never get married.
 

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Does the bible say anything about forced forniaction?
Hi Carissa,I believe kriss has a thread on rape, and I recalled seeing your reply there so I think you have your answer, yes?
 

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Seems pretty arbitrary to describe an act as ugly UNLESS...
Many people think God means freedom and in this so called freedom they consent to many sins as not being that. You have to understand that if you decide to inherit your Father's testament you HAVE to obey the restrictions and orders the Testator left for everyone to follow, exactly as they are written. Bilbe is a law, law of life. When one is charged with a felony, he can't possibly even think of standing up to the court's President and say "Mr. President you may say this law condemns me, but I think we can see it from another perspective. Maybe it is not so."God says it, it is how He says it is. Pariah mentioned all the verses you need. You want to follow God with all you heart and build a life on Him? Follow and learn His Word by heart! Or else you can go on living on what you think is right, but read the next verse carefully."Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment." - Eccl. 11:9God bless!
 

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I am not trying to excuse any fornication, but King David was a sex addict and loved God and God loved him dearly. David was punished for some of his sin, but not all of it.He was a maniac sexually and a killer also. God seem to focus on their relationship more than his sin. If God consentrates on sin King David should not of become King or become saved. God really favored him. Just a thought
 

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All sins can be forgiven by God. He chastise us with the Word of God. David did repent for his sins. Did you know that Yahshua is the root and offspring of David? (Revelation 22:16) By the way, Yahshua is straight from the descendant of Adam. Genesis 3:15, Luke 3:23-38 JagLovest ye in Christ Yahshua, Lord and Saviour of the world.
 

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I do know that Jag. I was just making a point that we are all sinnere and fall short. Sometimes we preach to the choir. instead of learning something.
 

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Hi crooner,
I am not trying to excuse any fornication, but King David was a sex addict and loved God and God loved him dearly. David was punished for some of his sin, but not all of it.He was a maniac sexually and a killer also. God seem to focus on their relationship more than his sin. If God consentrates on sin King David should not of become King or become saved. God really favored him. Just a thought
Yes, but as in all consequences for sinning, punishment is dished out.Did not King David lose a son by Bathsheba? Like a father to his children, so does God chastens those He loves. So for all reading this, do not use God's grace to sin. He forbids that. He calls us to trust Him to help us live as His so as to not live in sin nor have sin have dominion over us.So yes.. the relationship is a good point, but still God chastens so as to maintian that relationship in good standing.