Prayer Request

Hi Lala, hope all is well with you and your partner, and that God is working in your life and helping you to make those right choices. You are certainly in my prayers and will continue to be. As far as have you made the right choice by living with this person before marriage? Personally, I wouldn't, this coming from a man who has had 5 common-law relationships im my past , all for different lengths of time, and not one of them worked out, and for more than just the reason that we lived together, it was because I was running away from God and not doing what I was taught as I was growing up. If I would have had God in my life back then , I would have had to marry if I was going to make it right in Gods eye's and in my own heart, this I know now, only took 46 years to learn that one, lol. Well better later than not at all. When we are saved by God's grace, we have a new friend that comes along for the ride, and he's there for the rest of your life, whether you backslide or not, and his name is the Holy Spirit, and he is our conscience and our guide. When I'm looking for God to guide me, I ask God to use the holy spirit to work in my life in a way that I can understand. This is the personal relationship I have with God, but I believe he expects us to use our resourses around us as well, like finding a church where you feel comfortable taking to the pastor and parishisners and ask them what they think, trust the people who give advice or suggestions out of love , not condemnation. Most of all , find yourself a good bible that you can understand his word from, most important. We can know how to live our lifes to our fullest with his word as our guide.Once again Lala, I'm hoping if this is God's will for you to get this job, then its yours already, but if its not , give thanks and look out down the road , because he's got an even better job waiting for you, I know because he did it for me. I was given a very good job for, went through the interviews, but need it to go in front of the board where they would look at my application and my police record as well. I had a possesion charge from over 12 years ago on my record and because of that I was refused the position, I felt pretty hurt as I had changed my life, I think I even looked up and as God "Why me", but after thinking about it and talking to my family and friends, I prayed and thank God for not getting the job, sounds pretty crazy eh, lol, but God says to give thanks in all we do, not just the good stuff. Well needless to say soon after I was offered a Job at a major telecommunications company that I never thought I would have gotten, this job started me out at about 5 dollars an hour more, more room for advancement, and a work atmophere that is just great. So to make a short story longer, lol, God bless me and my family (kids), he doesn't close a door without openning a window, but always be thankful for what we have and to be thankful for the bad times as well, those are usually the times that we learn the most anyways.God bless Lala and I know you'll do whats right , with the right people around you giving you the support you need. Keep coming back here, nothing but friendly's around here, lol.Topcat

Yes Topcat it does take 46 years to learn some things! But better to have learned them than to have had a peaceful ride and no progress. Grace is given where it's needed, and we wouldn't know such Grace if we hadn't needed.Lala...Oh I know about depression...a constant lifes companion of mine. But heard a positive comment about it...it causes you to strive more to grow. I been where you are, and felt the same. If you don't find the answer, God will work the answer to you in time. I bet he is present amidst all your feelings. We so often want to reason with ourselves...how we can get peace in the places we are with things we want. We spend hours reasoning in our mind Why and How everything is going to work as we desire.Keep in mind such a Truth...that feelings can be a stronghold...and we fear so much making a stand for what our conscience is telling us...fear we will lose. Inspired recently with this..."put action to your faith." It's when we are moving in faith that God actually moves us along in His perfect way for us...and we don't always see ahead where He will lead us, but His will Always leads us...not just to His will...but to our highest wholeness and joy and fullfilled desires. It sounds like your conscience...and it's hard to reason against our conscience...seems like God is right in the middle of it. When it comes to men...I always figure...What man do I want that doesn't love and want me in the highest? If he doesn't then is he God's man for me? Do I want a man that isn't God's man for me? Will it really be the thing?Not saying I know where this man stands...but I would want to know, and it has been such a waste of time and undue pain to keep on keeping on for things I wanted to work, but were at a stalemate...and Reasoning with my mind went on and on and on....with no effects....God loves you or He wouldn't mess with your conscience...or be in it. Try to take the focus off what you are clinging to...and put focus on surrending to what God will say...sometimes the thing we are clinging to blocks us from being open to God...it stands between us. He isn't going to force you in any way toward anything...remember He is gentle and an upholder of free will...insists on it I think...he has shown me that clearly in my life!I clung so hard to a man once who I let live with me...between marriages...could not let go...and Thank God so much today that sister...@ times the pressure so thick to let go and let God lead my life that I could tangibly feel it! It was hard to deny. Check this out...in a prayer circle once...eyes closed...someone took me by the hand and led me to the opposite side of the circle of people, and never said a word, and I never even looked to see who led me to a place opposite of where I stood next to this boyfriend....opened my eyes and he was in front of me on opposite side of our group praying.Today I have a man who loves me like Christ loves the Church. You do want God's man for you? Would any other be good enough? Maybe he is this man...I don't know...but if He is, God will not take him away...he will not leave! Even if you say I don't feel right about living together and I mean you put action to that feeling...God's man for you that "Will" love you solely and completely will not be stopped by you wanting to follow God in your heart. Period. He will not only respect you but will understand you! If he's not ready to marry, he won't up and and leave you even if you choose to not live together...if he is the man. You might put him on a test of truth if you make a stand for what you may be feeling conviction about. You do want the truth? He might decide he was just skiddish and does not want to lose you...a number of possibilites.But of all things sweetheart...trust the Lord who loves you, and knows far more than you, not only what His perfect will for you is...but within His perfect will for you...is "Your" highest wholeness, joy, peace, happiness...your highest position in life to reach your highest self in God, and His highest callings in you...Trust more than reason...Surrender more than resist...and watch and See God work His miraculous will in your life! I empathize with you...been there...but lady today...God is first in my passion and pursuit...as one lady preacher said who had been beaten to death in life...God is my husband....settle for no less than God's man for you...he will love you with his life! And maybe this is him...I have no idea...but you can bet that God can be trusted, and sometimes we have to be like the little bird setting out to fly for the first time...step out on faith...and faith is so much more in your heart than in your reasoning mind. love siskim

Hi Lala,Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit moving in together was not really wise. But it is obvious you are beginning to sense the sadness of the Holy Spirit by your relationship. Why not tell you partner how you feel and move into the spare room. If he wants to make a committment he needs space to see that your feelings count too. And they do, but the Lord must come first.I would ask your partner how much he is committed to a relationship with you and suggest that the time has come to commit in marriage to one another. I get the feeling there are things you are not saying.Sounds like your beginning to doubt if he does really want to commit and if he didn't would you feel strong enough in your faith just to let go and cut your losses for the Lord.Don't be afraid Lala for with God things don't just happen they are planned. Pray and ask the Lord what he wants you to do. I feel your sadness is caused because you already know and do not know how committed your partner really is. Move in to the spare room till you know where you want to go with this relationship. But be prepared to have to let go if you must.You must feel less secure in your relationship with the Lord too. Sin is causing this. Please think on and please have the strength to do the right thing. If he really loves you he will see how unhappy living together instead of being married is making you and then you will marry for the right reasons.Believe me God is just waiting for you to trust him with this matter. Let his make the decisions for you by your obedience.I feel for you. Faithful.ray4:

Hi, lala. That's a cute name. My husband's sister is called that. He called her that when they were little because he couldn't say "Laura" very well. Anyway, you are getting sound advice. You know, if you are reading God's Word, what the right choice is. It's just doing it that is sooooo difficult. It can be gut-wrenching in doing the right thing. The loneliness probably would seem to be greater if you told him to leave or if you left. The truth is, the enemy is telling you this to keep you in bondage. The Lord has a plan (Jeremiah 29:11) and you know His phone # (Jeremiah 33:3), so call to Him and He will show you what, how, when, and where. He is the only true friend and lover of your soul. He's not like any other man you've ever known. He's the ultimate gentleman-not imposing His will upon you, but everso gently whispering your name and calling you back to His purposes and dreams for you. Don't assume that this man is the right one. If he won't marry you, but is satisfied to live with you, that's a red flag. Something's wrong there, my sister. You will be rewarded for doing the right thing. (Galatians 6:7-9)