A Boy the Bullies Love to Beat Up, Repeatedly

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Aleks_Kravchuk

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Sigh....where are the people going to? I guess Matthew 24:12 is coming true more and more everyday. We need to pray.
 

ForYou

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Wow that is so horrible,even worse everyone else was blind to the matter
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Jon-Marc

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I know exactly what being bullied is like. I was one of those victims. Being abused by my sorry-excuse-for-a-dad made me afraid to defend myself. He had broken my spirit and made me terrified of everyone. Hence, I was unable to fight back. I was called terrible names and attacked for no reason whatsoever--other than the fact that I didn't hit back. That made me the perfect punching bag. I know what Billy has suffered. Teenagers can be very cruel and often are. They didn't need the Internet (which we didn't have in the 60's). They just told me what they thought of me to my face. Boys ridiculed and hit me; girls screamed when I got near them. To this day I don't know why. I never did anything to anyone. I never said anything inappropriate to any of the girls; I was too shy to speak to them. They ridiculed my clothes, my looks, the shape of my head. I was called watermelon head, football head, and egghead all during my teen years because of the shape of my head. The fact that I had a severe stutter thanks to my abusive dad didn't help. That was just one more thing for them to ridicule me about. The abuse was unbearable, and I hated school. I was going to quit when I turned 16, but my dad wouldn't let me. He threatened to put me out on a farm to work if I quit, and he would have done it. I said nothing at home about the abuse at school since I knew my dad wouldn't care and wouldn't do anything about it. To this day I find talking to people difficult, and when I do talk I tend to say too much and regret it. With writing I can edit what I write before anyone reads it. It's too late once you say it.
 

TooInvolved1

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Jon-Marc I was bullied and abused too. I know what you - and Billy - are going through. I'm sorry...
 

Jon-Marc

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Jon-Marc I was bullied and abused too. I know what you - and Billy - are going through. I'm sorry...
Being abused by one's dad and rejected, unmercifully ridiculed, and bullied by one's peers leaves a lasting negative effect on a person. It's very difficult to get close to anyone without expecting them to turn on you. Making friends is not easy. You go through life with negative thoughts about your worthiness of being loved and accepted. You have been rejected so many times that you expect the rejection and fear it.Teenagers learn this behavior from their parents as their parents talk about other people. "Did you see that dress Mrs. Smith was wearing? She must have been poured into it." or "Mrs. Jones is so fat that she looks like a bowl of jello walking down the street." or "Did you hear that horrid voice on that woman who sang in church this morning? How she had the nerve to get up there and sound like that is beyond me." Christians often go home and have fried preacher for dinner, and the children hear all that and learn to criticize, judge and condemn, and take it a step further by doing it to the victim's face in front of others. Bullies love an audience since other teens cheer them on. "Yeah, that's right! Beat him, kick him, stomp him. While they might not help the bully, they're all too afraid of him to help the hapless victim. While adults usually just say these things behind your back, teens will say them to your face--unless teens have changed in the last 43 years since I graduated from high school. From what I understand they have taken their destructiveness of one's character to a new level on the Internet where they can be anonymous and reach far more people.There's a dumb commercial on TV that says something like, "If you wouldn't say it in person, why would you say it online?" Since when are teens afraid to say it to your face? I realize that I haven't been a teen in a LONG time, but have teens gotten afraid to tell other teens to their face what they think of them? They never were when I was a teen.
 

TooInvolved1

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I think you're right about kids learning these things from their parents. But yeah kids do gossip/bully online now. That's one of the things they're doing to Billy - someone started a Facebook page about him, a really mean one.
 

Jon-Marc

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I think you're right about kids learning these things from their parents. But yeah kids do gossip/bully online now. That's one of the things they're doing to Billy - someone started a Facebook page about him, a really mean one.
I could be wrong (as usual), but I think that the ones who use the computer to try to destroy someone is too much of a coward to do it to their face. I have no doubt, though, that there would have been teens who would have done it that way when I was a teen had the computer been available, but it wasn't around back in the Dark Ages.
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waynemlj

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Hi Jon-Marc,I admire your courage to be so open and frank about what you have suffered when you were younger by being bullied like that.The thought that occurs to me right now as I read your Post is that Jesus suffered terribly all His life. He suffered the huniliation of having no place to live; He suffered being used by the people around Him whom He knew were rotten sinners to the core; He suffered being accused of doing the works of the Devil when He healed people and raised them from the dead; He suffered being betrayed by one of His own disciples; eventually He suffered being cut to pieces in the flogging of the Roman soldiers and being mocked and ridiculed by them; finally He (who knew no sin) suffered for your sins and mine and all the elect that He offered Himself for; but worst of all He suffered the rejection of His heavenly Father on the Cross. He certainly knows you well, and I believe is very close to you. He has rewarded you with the grace of faith that I see you have today. You have been blessed with a good understanding of God's Word from what I see from reading your Posts and Replies.Your reward in heaven will outweigh anything you have suffered here on earth by such a degree as is beyond your wildest dreams, and those joys will be for all eternity!Romans 8:18, "For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us."waynemlj