What do you think about this everyone has been angered or hurt or wronged at sometime in their life,Is it wrong to carry a grudge?
Is it wrong to carry a grudge?
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"Grudge" is commonly defined as, "A feeling of ill will or resentment" A held grudge often involves hate and or even a desire for revenge to the one against whom the grudge is held.Jesus taught love of enemies. "Love your enemies," said Jesus (Matt. 5: 44). Jesus continued, "bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you." Jesus himself practiced what he taught. Hear him on the cross as he prayed for his murderers, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do" (Lk. 23: 34). Moreover, Jesus taught: "For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: but if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses" (Matt. 6: 14, 15).There must at all times be a forgiving spirit (cp. Eph. 4: 32). Grudges are self-destructive. Hate eats away at the very fiber of the grudge carrier until he is miserable and obsessed. The inspired apostle Paul wrote, "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath"
And if you hate, you also commit murder.
Mt 5:21 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: Mt 5:22 But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
1Jo 3:15 Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.
We aren't even to pray until we have been to the one we "think" have ought against us.
Mt 5:23 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;Mt 5:24 Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.
So, holding a "grudge" as said earlier by kriss is very destructive and extremely dangerous. Pray and ask God to show you the victory you already have over it, thru Jesus Christ.
Mt 5:21 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: Mt 5:22 But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
1Jo 3:15 Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.
We aren't even to pray until we have been to the one we "think" have ought against us.
Mt 5:23 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;Mt 5:24 Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.
So, holding a "grudge" as said earlier by kriss is very destructive and extremely dangerous. Pray and ask God to show you the victory you already have over it, thru Jesus Christ.
(kriss;4156)
What do you think about this everyone has been angered or hurt or wronged at sometime in their life,Is it wrong to carry a grudge?
Forgiveness: I finally think I have this subject learned. If someone has " done me wrong" and is actively abusive; stay far far away.I forgive them as I talk to God but if they have not asked to be forgiven, I don't ask for their forgiveness or tell them I'm forgiving them.( afterall, I'm far far away from them )For the abusers that have died, I simply forgive them as I pray the Lord's prayer or talk to God.
What do you think about this everyone has been angered or hurt or wronged at sometime in their life,Is it wrong to carry a grudge?
Forgiveness: I finally think I have this subject learned. If someone has " done me wrong" and is actively abusive; stay far far away.I forgive them as I talk to God but if they have not asked to be forgiven, I don't ask for their forgiveness or tell them I'm forgiving them.( afterall, I'm far far away from them )For the abusers that have died, I simply forgive them as I pray the Lord's prayer or talk to God.
I am in agreement ROS, you cannot complete the full act of forgiveness for someone who never asks for it. Even we have to go to God and ask for his forgiveness when we make mistakes; his Grace is free flowing, but you must repent and ask for it! That is our divine example of forgiveness. He loves us despite all of our faults. We can forigve in our hearts and offer the full forgiveness when that person comes to us. That's love and you should never carry a grudge.
I have learned grudges do not help. In time, one has to come to peace with themselves and learn to forgive. Yes, there are some things that are very, very difficult to do (say somebody killed your loved one), but if you cannot forgive them, you will not find peace yourself.
If you forgive them it does not mean you have to go back on how you spend time with them. I mean if they did something you can still forgive them and be civil to them and not have a great deal of contact if you prefer; although if you are kind to them on meeting and do not regard them badly with in, you have lifted your grudge but still do not feel pressured in their company.
If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, " I repent', you shall forgive him." Luke 17:3-4The brother needs to come and ask for forgiveness and needs to repent of the wrongdoing.If I forgive on my own -the transgressor doesn't even acknowledges a sin- then, it may be an on-going process to forgive the " abuser" and often times it's best just to stay away and pray about it whenever one thinks on it.
Mathew 10:14 If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that home or town.You attempt to acquire forgiveness. If you can not receive it then you can move on. If it is you who needs to be forgiven, you have to try to make it right. I don't feel that it should be as simple as will you forgive me? You have to try to make it right. And as for the verse above, it really in context has to do with spreading the Word, but I can see that it also can be that you can sort of "forget" someone. Ask God for forgiveness, and let the problem out of your heart.
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