Need help overcoming this.

These are the ones who receive grace and help in their time of need. Those who feel they can continue in sin and do not weep or mourn over their sin should not expect they will receive grace. They are like the Pharisee who thinks they are just fine because they are "favored" by God.

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Have I really upset you taht much, are your toes hurting. As my friend dicussed teh other day. When people are not saved tehy are fine and happy, more or less. Than they become christians, all of a sudden they are told they must be perfect, Soon they are walking in fear, and unbelief, soon that life that Jesus promised is being stolen because christianity spends most of its time condeming its own. No, how dare you go to Jesus, how dare you have life in Him, how dare you follow Him, you must come to us, If you want Jesus we have the door, and we will let you near if if we choose. No you dont, you and religion and chuirh has nothing on Jesus, and has nothing it can Give that God and Jesus cant give nothing, but it keeps people from God.

Joh 10:1 Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that entereth not by the door into the sheepfold, but climbeth up some other way, the same is a thief and a robber.
Joh 10:2 But he that entereth in by the door is the shepherd of the sheep.

Joh 10:9 I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture.

Lol. No, I am not mad in any way. If you are reading that in my comments, that is your own projection. Again, your response was nothing but a straw man and you continue to create arguments that I am not making in order to justify yourself. Anyway, I'll move along since I can see you are creating your own imaginary dialogue again instead of responding to my actual remarks.

it has been observed that while historians believe they are telling a representation of the past, what they are actually doing is explaining their present.

Someone059 said:

I've been addicted to pornography since I was 12. I'm 16 now and still have problems with it. I've told my dad about it two times, my youth pastor once, gone to youth camps time and time again, and still I carry this addiction. I'm too ashamed to tell them again, and I really want help from someone I don't know. When I was 12 I had a good relationship with the Lord, but over the years the relationship deceased. I really want that relationship back, I want to pray more again and read my Bible more again. Every time I want a change in my life, the temptation takes control of me and I go right back to where I started. Pornography isn't the only thing that changed my life, rap did as well. I know it's just music but, it changed me for the worst, for it has bad lyrics which have turned me into a cursing, brat. My friends are the ones that exposed it to me. When we were kids my friends were good and right with the Lord, but we all changed, and now I don't know about them. I really want to turn this life around, away from pornography, away from rap, and I want to have a relationship with the Lord. Honestly, I can't do this alone, I was hoping one of you on these forums with much wisdom and guidance from God could help me.

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You are an extremely brave soul for posting this here - thank you for your confession. I may not have struggled with pornography, but I was definitely sexually addicted once upon a time myself. You are doing the right thing in not going through this alone, and I would seek or even start an accountability group. James 5:16 talks about the healing we receive from others when we confess our sins, and that can be a powerful place to start. Getting out of the house more helped me out, as did just going in deeper with the Lord and being more busy in graduate school. Of course, everyone's different, but remember 1 Corinthians 10:13: God has created a way for you to get out of this. It's hard, and you will be in my prayers, but I would encourage you to read (possibly in a group) "Clean" by Douglas Weiss. He's a smart man (just read up on him) who has been where I have been and where you are, and he has a very healthy view of God. There's a lot that his book can help with in very practical terms, but again, huge props to you for taking up arms in the first place. I'll pray for you.

Someone059 said:

I've been addicted to pornography since I was 12. I'm 16 now and still have problems with it. I've told my dad about it two times, my youth pastor once, gone to youth camps time and time again, and still I carry this addiction. I'm too ashamed to tell them again, and I really want help from someone I don't know. When I was 12 I had a good relationship with the Lord, but over the years the relationship deceased. I really want that relationship back, I want to pray more again and read my Bible more again. Every time I want a change in my life, the temptation takes control of me and I go right back to where I started. Pornography isn't the only thing that changed my life, rap did as well. I know it's just music but, it changed me for the worst, for it has bad lyrics which have turned me into a cursing, brat. My friends are the ones that exposed it to me. When we were kids my friends were good and right with the Lord, but we all changed, and now I don't know about them. I really want to turn this life around, away from pornography, away from rap, and I want to have a relationship with the Lord. Honestly, I can't do this alone, I was hoping one of you on these forums with much wisdom and guidance from God could help me.

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Focus on your relationship with the Lord, not the pornography. Most of these things are a matter of identity. How is your relationship with your father?

And please don't try and overcome the porn because that is not the problem. The problem is what is causing it.

People fail in their attempts to overcome because they want it to happen all at once. If God does it that way, great. But if he doesn't then make a day at a time experience as in I am not going to look at porn today. Not, I am going to stop looking at porn full stop.

If you succeed for one day, congratulate yourself. If you fail one day, do not berate yourself. Just tell yourself that tomorrow is another day.

Day by day success is the way.

It looks like this post was from 2014. I am unsure if you are still on here, but how are you doing now?

Someone059 said:

I've been addicted to pornography since I was 12. I'm 16 now and still have problems with it. I've told my dad about it two times, my youth pastor once, gone to youth camps time and time again, and still I carry this addiction. I'm too ashamed to tell them again, and I really want help from someone I don't know. When I was 12 I had a good relationship with the Lord, but over the years the relationship deceased. I really want that relationship back, I want to pray more again and read my Bible more again. Every time I want a change in my life, the temptation takes control of me and I go right back to where I started. Pornography isn't the only thing that changed my life, rap did as well. I know it's just music but, it changed me for the worst, for it has bad lyrics which have turned me into a cursing, brat. My friends are the ones that exposed it to me. When we were kids my friends were good and right with the Lord, but we all changed, and now I don't know about them. I really want to turn this life around, away from pornography, away from rap, and I want to have a relationship with the Lord. Honestly, I can't do this alone, I was hoping one of you on these forums with much wisdom and guidance from God could help me.

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I am too struggling with this addiction. It’s horrible and I know exactly how you feel. Only thing I would recommend is holding yourself accountable and letting God heal you.

My friend, getting over this sin, which is like any other, really, is going to be difficult unless you depend upon the Spirit of God to create that change within you. There is only one way to overcome sin, and it is by having the Sinful Nature removed. Until the Mind of the Devil is lifted from you, the Devil will remain to have his thoughts rule your mind. Turn to Christ, lift up your Heart to Him and ask Him to perform His Holy Operation upon your Heart. You MUST memorize all of Colossians 2:9-15. Without the Work of Christ in your life, not much will change, but instead, these addictions will more than likely become worse and worse (speaking from 53 years of experience).

Colossians 2:9-15 NLT - "For in Christ lives all the fullness of God in a human body. 10 So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority. 11 When you came to Christ, you were "circumcised," but not by a physical procedure. Christ performed a spiritual circumcision--the cutting away of your sinful nature. 12 For you were buried with Christ when you were baptized. And with him you were raised to new life because you trusted the mighty power of God, who raised Christ from the dead. 13 You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins. 14 He canceled the record of the charges against us and took it away by nailing it to the cross. 15 In this way, he disarmed the spiritual rulers and authorities. He shamed them publicly by his victory over them on the cross."

As I said, you MUST know these passages like you KNOW how to swim, or ride a bike, or play a video game. Those verses above are the Work of Christ, which is so much more than just John 3:16 . . . the Purpose of Christ.

Send me a PM if you need or want to. I am here to help you.

2nd Timothy Group said:

My friend, getting over this sin, which is like any other, really, is going to be difficult unless you depend upon the Spirit of God to create that change within you. There is only one way to overcome sin, and it is by having the Sinful Nature removed. Until the Mind of the Devil is lifted from you, the Devil will remain to have his thoughts rule your mind. Turn to Christ, lift up your Heart to Him and ask Him to perform His Holy Operation upon your Heart. You MUST memorize all of Colossians 2:9-15. Without the Work of Christ in your life, not much will change, but instead, these addictions will more than likely become worse and worse (speaking from 53 years of experience).

Colossians 2:9-15 NLT - "For in Christ lives all the fullness of God in a human body. 10 So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority. 11 When you came to Christ, you were "circumcised," but not by a physical procedure. Christ performed a spiritual circumcision--the cutting away of your sinful nature. 12 For you were buried with Christ when you were baptized. And with him you were raised to new life because you trusted the mighty power of God, who raised Christ from the dead. 13 You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins. 14 He canceled the record of the charges against us and took it away by nailing it to the cross. 15 In this way, he disarmed the spiritual rulers and authorities. He shamed them publicly by his victory over them on the cross."

As I said, you MUST know these passages like you KNOW how to swim, or ride a bike, or play a video game. Those verses above are the Work of Christ, which is so much more than just John 3:16 . . . the Purpose of Christ.

Send me a PM if you need or want to. I am here to help you.

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Thank God for people like you that step up and offer help.....Bless you.

Someone059 said:

I've been addicted to pornography since I was 12. I'm 16 now and still have problems with it. I've told my dad about it two times, my youth pastor once, gone to youth camps time and time again, and still I carry this addiction. I'm too ashamed to tell them again, and I really want help from someone I don't know. When I was 12 I had a good relationship with the Lord, but over the years the relationship deceased. I really want that relationship back, I want to pray more again and read my Bible more again. Every time I want a change in my life, the temptation takes control of me and I go right back to where I started. Pornography isn't the only thing that changed my life, rap did as well. I know it's just music but, it changed me for the worst, for it has bad lyrics which have turned me into a cursing, brat. My friends are the ones that exposed it to me. When we were kids my friends were good and right with the Lord, but we all changed, and now I don't know about them. I really want to turn this life around, away from pornography, away from rap, and I want to have a relationship with the Lord. Honestly, I can't do this alone, I was hoping one of you on these forums with much wisdom and guidance from God could help me.

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Hi. Yeah, it's a tough one. It is sin's effect on sex, which is God's idea.
I had to accept God's way of doing things. I had to accept that my old nature didn't disappear when I came to know Jesus. I had to accept suffering as from His hand. I had to allow Him to humble me. I had to hate my sin.
Jesus said that in order to follow Him I had to deny (humble) myself, make His cross mine on a daily basis and follow Him. This is a process that is called, "sanctification."
"for you are receiving the end result of your faith, the salvation (sanctification) of your souls. " 1 Peter 1:9 NIV
You sound like you are in the fire (Matthew 3:11 NIV).
When you don't understand what's happening to you, it seems like maybe you screwed up so bad that even God cant stand you. But take heart, He is purifying yours. I know, it's dark and scary and painful. Remember He said, "I will never leave you nor forsake you" Deuteronomy 31:6
Seek the Lord with what strength you have, if you stumble, get back up, ask the Lord for forgiveness and help, and move on. You are greatly loved by our perfect Father. Shalom.

1. Pray for strength to over come your attachment to porn. Pray every morning and every evening. You will have to do this for months and months.
2. Confess when you fall, preferably to a human (and also to God).
3. I would suggest that you make a list of ten reasons you hate being addicted to porn. Make the list as emotionally charged as possible (i.e., a- because the girls in the world of porn are often coerced from their early youth, addicted to drugs, and using porn to pay for their drug habit - do I want to contribute to maintaining their horrible lifestyle? b- lack of self-control saddens God; c- that look on my pastors/father's face when I told him about my porn addiction - bring back your recollection of their facial expressions; d- imagine what your wife/girlfriend would think of you if they knew; etc. etc.). Make an agreement with yourself that you will read your list before you engage in looking at porn. Do not fly through your list; feel the feelings evoked by each item on your list. After reading the list, of course, like always, you are free to look at the porn.
4. Every day that you do not look at porn should be followed by thankfulness - you have succeeded, at least for one day; thank you Lord that you have helped me to manage my porn addiction today.
The key is to maintain your focus on the problem, day after day. If you go without praying about the issue even one day, you are more likely to relapse. But, remember, relapses are almost a certainty. You will relapse many times during your struggle. The key is to shorten relapses and to lengthen time between viewing porn.
Also, there are things happening in your brain that make it more and more difficult to manage the addiction. Chemicals that strengthen your urges (dopamine), chemicals that are highly rewarding and addictive while you are observing porn (endorphins, a natural opiate made in the brain). Your body/brain will work against you. Nevertheless, with God all things are possible - you can overcome the lusts of the flesh.