Hello brother! I would love to try and help clear up and confusion, if you would give me the time!
1. Unconditional election because believers are 'elect according to the foreknowledge of God the Father' (1 Pet 1:2).
Before the foundation of the world, God chose particular individuals for salvation. His selection was not based upon any foreseen response or act performed. Faith and good works are the result, not the cause, of God's choice.
Mark 13:20
Ephesians 1:4
1 Thessalonians 1:4
2 Thessalonians 2:13
Romans 9:11-13
Romans 9:16
Romans 10:20
2 Timothy 1:9
Passages Supporting Universal Atonement
Ok, so let's look at these.
John 3:16 -- This is a classic verse, and I can honestly see the misunderstanding.
I once believed this same thing! For God so loved the WORLD! This must mean everyone, right? But upon further investigation, we see a few verses down John 3:19. Then, I looked into the Greek lexicon and concordance, because I was so confused. I found that, while it is true that kosmos means 'world' the phrase for "Whosoever" actually means "all the believing." Not every person on the planet, but rather all those who God would have come to faith in Him would be saved, all over the entire globe.
John 1:29 -- Again, the word world here does not have reference to individuals. Christ's atonement was sufficient to save all those who God would call, all throughout the entire world, not just in the tiny country they were in. Again, these passages do not make reference to individuals, but rather the planet we all live on.
Romans 11:32 -- Here is one where we need to read the entirety of the book to understand what Paul is referencing. If we read the beginning of the chapter, the question is asked "Has God put off the Jews?" And Paul then responds "No, but..." enter Romans 11:32. What he is saying is that, although God has not put off the Jews, salvation is now "For all!" There is no more Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male of female; ALL can share in this bounty. It is no longer for the Jews only. And this is consistent with the rest of Scriptures.
1 John 2:2 -- Again, although it is totally understandable that you would think that this is saying all
people, we have to understand that this verse is referencing the world itself, not everyone living on it. The planet is different from the inhabitants. We are mankind, not Earth.
God is not willing that any perish but all be saved: Tit 2:11; 1 Ti 2:4; 2 Pet 3:9.
Titus 2:11 -- Again, brother, we see that this is referring to all
kinds of peoples, not all people ever. It does not matter ethnicity [which was the big argument of the day: "I am not a Jew, how can I be saved?]
1 Timothy 2:4 -- Again, all
kinds of people. In my bible, the note says this, which I hope might help you.
"Another argument, why Churches or Congregations ought to pray for all men, without any difference of nation, kind, age, or order. To wit, because the Lord by calling all sorts, yea, sometimes those that are the greatest enemies of the Gospel, will have his Church gathered together after this sort, and therefore prayers to be made for all."
2 Peter 3:9 -- Again, if I may respond using the note in my study Bible, as no doubt the authors of it are vastly more knowledgeable than I am and have stated it better than I could:
"A reason why the latter day cometh not out of hand, because God doth patiently wait till the elect are brought to repentance, that none of them may perish."
What's the point of evangelism if believers are unconditionally elected because of limited atonement and irresistible grace? If irresistible grace is biblical, no preacher can preach to a group of unsaved people to repent, seek forgiveness and have faith in Jesus alone. It would be fake preaching to call ALL to repent when ALL cannot come, according to Calvinism.
The reasons behind evangelism are 2 fold;
1.) Because Jesus told us to. This in and of itself should be reason enough to do so
2.) Because, although there is an elect people of God, it is impossible for any to know who are and are not elect before the Gospel is preached to them. Even if God died for all, could we then tell who is and who is not saved? Still, the answer would be no. Just because we are of the elect does not mean we can then claim to know who is also in our ranks. Only God knows this, only God can give the increase. But that does not then negate the duty to plant and water.