Because we want to be so like God and to have His gifts in us, we will grasp at anyone who tells us that they can give us these gifts.
I can remember, a number of years ago, when I use to manifest the Holy spirit, that people would rush up to me to touch me so that they too could get a "touch from the Lord." They wanted a touch from the lord to confirm that they too were part of his flock because they had received spiritual gifts.
I have also known people who have travelled the world looking to receive gifts of the spirit from other dynamic people who they had heard were praying for people to receive this gift. My experience is that God will give the gifts of the Spirit to whom He choses and that we should not be disappointed if we do not have them at any particular point during our walk with God.
I was at a conference where gifts of the spirits were the main theme of the conference and special "gifted/practiced" speakers had been flown in from the USA.
Before the start of each day there was a small group of people who would gather to pray for the activates for that day and a group of young people would come in and begin to sing and dance until the went into a trance and speak in "tongues" and the other people at the prayer time were ecstatic that these young people were able to go into a trance and sound like and act like people with disabilities. until the trance was broken once more.
On the last day of the conference I got their before many others and simply lay face down on the floor of the room where the pray group was meeting and began to cry in the presence of the Lord, oblivious to anyone else in the room. That morning, the group of young people were not able to go into their usual trance like display of spiritual activity.
When I got to get up from the floor I realised that a woman was kneeing besides me and praying. Probably because I was sobbing in the Lord, with the mistaken belief that I needed someone to pray over me. I never asked her but, fortunately I had someone in the room whom I trusted to protect my back.
On another occasion I was attending a "skilling" session, because my wife wanted to attend, on the gifts of the spirits and as a small group practice session we were to sit in a circle to pray for one of the people in the group. During the first five minutes I was siting opposite this person and was not sensing anything about this person. We where then told to move and I had to sit next to this person and immediately I began to sob. I was sobbing over this person's needs. Unfortunately, because I was crying, the group facilitator turned the groups attention towards me believing that I was the one in need of prayer.
Sometimes when people have the gifts of the spirit, they need to keep their gifts quite and guard their manifestations of these gifts, because people will misread the circumstances of what is happening and the moment will pass or get squashed. I do not always get told what the other persons needs are, but I am able to assure the people that the Lord is very aware of their needs and that He loves them so much that He had me express His tears for them for what is or will occur in their lives. My tears help the people to press further into God for whatever is happening or going to happen in their lives. I like it like that because if I do not need to know what their needs or problems are, but can only assure them that the Lord is working in their lives for His Glory to be manifested in theirs.
What gifts we have is up to the Lord, I do not speak in tongues, but I do manifest often when the Lord prompts me, but sadly I have seen people abuse God's gifts of the spirit because of the needs in their own lives.
One of the best gifts of the spirit is simply, wisdom in the Lord, such that we are able to walk peacefully with the Lord all the days of our lives.
It is a gift that we can pray for that God will gladly give.
Shalom