How does Christianity Board handle personal attacks?

They punish some and let others go, no rhyme or reason to it.

GallyTrot said:

Has anyone here at CB been personally attacked by your own definition (NOT PHYSICALLY, OBVIOUSLY)? Have you been insulted, cyberbullied, etc.? How was this handled by the moderators and/or administrators? What happened, ultimately, to the person who hurt you? Were you satisfied with how the administration here handled the situation? Did the administration handle it in a "Christlike" way, in your opinion? How do you think bullies should be treated on this "Christian" board? Should such behavior be allowed, do you think? What about the behavior of those in authority who MAY feel such treatment is "okay" and/or thinks hostile or damaging behavior "keeps things interesting?" Would you feel comfortable returning to a site that thinks it's okay? How have you been treated here when you felt attacked and expressed concern about it to the "higher ups" here? Just curious. I'm new here and would appreciate the input. I don't feel safe here, personally.

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To be perfectly honest, I haven't seen a moderator ON the board, hardly at all...certainly not in 'moderator mode'. And I wouldn't know if they are busy doing moderator stuff behind the scenes or not. As far as personal attacking goes...well, yeah, of course it goes on. It's sad, as you'd hope that such things wouldn't happen on a christian board, but I suppose Christians are people too and we have differences of opinions that can't lead to heated debate. Of course, we have plenty of people who also like to start off by announcing their direct line to God and then continue said conversation by arrogantly dismissing anything anyone has to put forth as pitiful attempts of deceived or stupid man.
Personally, while I wouldn't want to discourage a person from coming here, because there truly is some wonderful brothers and sisters here...I don't think the mods do their job. It seems those who like to be shove-y get away with it. In fact, they like to deny aggressively that they get shove-y. So even when you call them on it all you can really do is walk away and know when you go back again you'll be confronted with the same sort of thing.
The only people who seem to get booted are those who flame out. You know the type...the ones who get pushed off the ledge they were sitting on and go out with a flame of blasphemy and swearing.
For me, what makes those frustrating people worth it is the 'good' people. There are plenty of great folks here, even with fairly varied beliefs under the 'Christian' umbrella, that encourage conversation and challenge thought and study. You get to know them well and how to more or less dodge the others.
Not sure if that is at all helpful, sorry!!

GallyTrot said:

Has anyone here at CB been personally attacked by your own definition (NOT PHYSICALLY, OBVIOUSLY)? Have you been insulted, cyberbullied, etc.? How was this handled by the moderators and/or administrators? What happened, ultimately, to the person who hurt you? Were you satisfied with how the administration here handled the situation? Did the administration handle it in a "Christlike" way, in your opinion? How do you think bullies should be treated on this "Christian" board? Should such behavior be allowed, do you think? What about the behavior of those in authority who MAY feel such treatment is "okay" and/or thinks hostile or damaging behavior "keeps things interesting?" Would you feel comfortable returning to a site that thinks it's okay? How have you been treated here when you felt attacked and expressed concern about it to the "higher ups" here? Just curious. I'm new here and would appreciate the input. I don't feel safe here, personally.

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Perhaps a more honest question would be to ask how does a Christian handle personal attacks.

If you run away from everything in this world then you never really learn how to handle the wide variety of issues and problems that arise.
However I do not entirely understand why the answers to these questions will help you, they will not solve the problem if you already feel unsafe.
There are things put in place to help you can place people on ignore ( then all their post are unseen by you ) This gives you the control. Moderators are present if you report a post, and they do act. People are banned if they over step - but that doesnt mean it will protect from very strong opinionated people all the time.
I am not quite sure what you expect - spend some time on the threads and then make a decision
I dont like all that happens here, but I ' feel ' safe !!
I guess it all depends on what makes you feel unsafe.
Rita

Invisibilis said:

Perhaps a more honest question would be to ask how does a Christian handle personal attacks.

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With grace! But some have an agenda...that is not Christian at all.
We can self-moderate by using the "ignore" feature. If a person is trolling you...and yes there are those kind of people here....you don't need to play the game.

GallyTrot said:

Has anyone here at CB been personally attacked by your own definition (NOT PHYSICALLY, OBVIOUSLY)? Have you been insulted, cyberbullied, etc.? How was this handled by the moderators and/or administrators? What happened, ultimately, to the person who hurt you? Were you satisfied with how the administration here handled the situation? Did the administration handle it in a "Christlike" way, in your opinion? How do you think bullies should be treated on this "Christian" board? Should such behavior be allowed, do you think? What about the behavior of those in authority who MAY feel such treatment is "okay" and/or thinks hostile or damaging behavior "keeps things interesting?" Would you feel comfortable returning to a site that thinks it's okay? How have you been treated here when you felt attacked and expressed concern about it to the "higher ups" here? Just curious. I'm new here and would appreciate the input. I don't feel safe here, personally.

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Welcome to the forum Golly Trot!
When this happened to me when first joining here, I was ready to write it off totally but...as I have said to others on here that one of our senior members told me I had to grow a thick skin, and lifted me up and strengthened me...boy I am so happy that she did!!! She's rocks. Yes, there are folks of many stripes on here, don't let them get your goat. Speak your mind in love, if they will not hear it...just ignore them or pass on their posts. Some have left me in tears! But, I DID grow a thicker skin and have grown to love many here and also have learned much. I have seen so me banned for a few weeks for bad language yet, I see others who are much worse than them who are allowed to stay...no one is perfect and I am sure that includes moderators?
God Bless your time here and give it an honest chance as, there are many good Christians on here.
In Him,
nancy

Episkopos said:

With grace! But some have an agenda...that is not Christian at all.
We can self-moderate by using the "ignore" feature. If a person is trolling you...and yes there are those kind of people here....you don't need to play the game...

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...unless you also have an issue and/or an agenda.

Invisibilis said:

...unless you also have an issue and/or an agenda.

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If someone feels that way...they can put me on ignore too!

GallyTrot said:

I don't feel safe here, personally.

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Gally, you are the one who started out with *alternative* beliefs rather than Bible Christianity. So if you stick to Bible Christianity, you will be perfectly safe.

GallyTrot said:

I have turned on my preferences to get alerts to this thread. I will peruse what people have to say on this subject for a week or so and then decide whether or not I want to stay here at CB. I don't mind being disagreed with, but I will not tolerate personal attacks.

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Greetings, GallyTrot. I understand your concern, as I think all the members here do. Most are former refugees from Christian Forums, during their worst times when moderation was abysmal at best (things are better now, relatively speaking).

But now, if I may; enduring personal attacks is an opportunity for growth when seen from the right perspective. I used to get very angry with people when I first joined CF, and sometimes I let them have it in the worst possible ways. I also let my tempter flare here as well. But through it all I learned just how weak I can be spiritually on this matter, and as a result I matured to the place where now I no longer lose my cool nearly as much. If I get upset now, I just excuse myself from the conversation before I say anything that might hurt someone else's feelings.

So if you can receive it, I think the Lord might tell you to view it as an opportunity to build up your spiritual endurance : ) (see James 1:2-4).
Anyway, mine is not an attempt to excuse poor behavior. Just telling you how I dealt with it, and for the better. I am no longer dependent upon any moderator to "save" me. I walk in the power of the Spirit of God, and I keep my armor on, so I remain in a state of being able to save myself whenever necessary.

Blessings in Christ, and welcome to Christianity Board!

David Taylor said:

They punish some and let others go, no rhyme or reason to it.

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LoL. I actually think that's a little harsh, David, but I suppose one can get that impression. I will tag Forrest. He may be able to explain things and how he comes to conclusions. Might be interesting to hear myself.

Blessings in Christ!
@lforrest

Episkopos said:

If someone feels that way...they can put me on ignore too!

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I was not referring to you personally. I was referring to your statement of a person.

Episkopos said:

With grace! But some have an agenda...that is not Christian at all.
We can self-moderate by using the "ignore" feature. If a person is trolling you...and yes there are those kind of people here....you don't need to play the game.

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As in '...you don't need to play the game unless you also have an issue or an agenda.' my added words in italic.

GallyTrot said:

I have turned on my preferences to get alerts to this thread. I will peruse what people have to say on this subject for a week or so and then decide whether or not I want to stay here at CB. I don't mind being disagreed with, but I will not tolerate personal attacks. Wondering how others here have been treated when they have been hurt by someone. Wondering if this site is interested in preserving and protecting others. Not that I can't protect myself, but hey-- there's gotta be standards or a code of conduct for behavior that won't be tolerated. Otherwise, NO ONE here will feel safe.

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If you have thin skin and can't take any rejection , then Forums here or anywhere else , are not where you should be.

We all come here for fellowship and discussions.... sometime the discussions get a bit heated. There are lots of other threads where the hot discussions are not going on...either choose those, or, as Willie T said...use the Ignore button.

But really it sound like you are already looking for the negative. Maybe Facebook would fit you better.

As for the Moderators. They are very good, very fair ...

( and @Naomi25 .. I just wrote to one a few days ago, and got a response back in about 36 hours...and another one posted on here, a prayer request , an hour or so ago....they monitor the Site very well and quietly. They allow us to all self-moderate as much as possible...which I think is wonderful xx )