Question about vows

Hello all. I am not a Christian newbie, just still really learning.

I know the bible has much to say about vows and keeping our word.

Recently I pondered what to do about my job and how the money should be used. I thought I came to a good conclusion and asked God to bless the work of my hands and to help me accomplish my goals. I told Him what I'd like to do with it and I am sure He sees my heart's commitment to my plans.

Then I realized that I cornered myself in a very tight place, leaving no room for any other options. Fearing I made a vow of sorts or a commitment to Him.

I am a wife and my desire is to help my husband pay off our debts, give charitably and keep some ( little ) for us.

I figured if we pay off debt, he makes enough for us to live so I figured it was a sin to do too much else with it but to give so we're not greedy.

Then I thought. He may not always have this job. What if I wanted to treat my husband to a something special? Or what if I wanted to buy our children something expensive? What if after or while paying off debts, things come up I can help with financially? What if I wanted to buy us a vacation? What if after debt is being paid off I wanted to help pay for a home, or instead of my income paying off debt, my husband asks me to use the money for something else? I thought it was a sin to enjoy money sometimes. Now I do not see that.

Basically I knew I wanted to be a help to my husband. I didn't look past debts bein paid off and future happenings. After the debts, God willing, I cornered myself to give and keep very little. No room for any further helping my husband, blessing our children, friends, family and just mainly giving. What have I done?

I wish I had just not made specific plans.

A lot of "if's" but my original plans were quite rigid.

I had my plans and desires, and knew He saw and them. Is it a vow now before God, and/or does He expect me to hold to these plans as a commitment before His eyes and my "yes" needs to be a yes?


Thanks

Ziggy said:

Keep your vow.
Ask your husband how you can help him.

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If he tells me how and its not within the criteria of paying off debt then I will sin?

Ziggy said:

You gave 3. Debts, Charity, Home.
Give him 3.

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I'm not sure what you mean. What if my husband wants the money to go to a new vehicle instead of the debt. I cannot agree to him?

Ziggy said:

He Needs may be different than your Wants.
But if the desire is to help him, then ask where he needs help.

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Oh, I thought my desires before the Lord in the specific ways were now binding like a vow and I cannot change how the money is used.

Ziggy said:

Is you vow to help your husband?
or help you spend money?

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I had specific desires of how to allocate the money in specific ways, not realizing I was being quite rigid. I thought to help my husband would be to pay off debt. But if my husband asks something else I fear my desires and plans before the Lord, to God is now a vow and I can only use the money specifically how I intended forever or I will break a vow.

Ziggy said:

I could say.. render unto caesar what is caesar's but that would be superficial..

I believe God is more concerned with the heart of the matter.
Not how you delegate your money, but the intention behind it.
Lord, thankyou for blessing us with this extra money. I would like to help my husband.
The intention is to help.
You haven't talked to him yet about .. if we had some extra money, what could we do with that? what do we need?
He may have ideas you didn't think of.
A vow is a promise of intent. The intent is to help. You gave a specific who.
I want to help my husband.
Keep that vow. The rest will fall in place.

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I'm praying to understand this.

Ziggy said:

Your worried that God will hold you to how you said you wanted to spend your money.

What does God want?
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I assume He wants me to do everything as I intended, exactly.

Ziggy said:

There is this repentence...
If your not sure you meant what you vowed when you vowed. Or you have doubts about that vow,
You can always ask God to forgive your vow until you've had more time to pray about it.

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Thank you, I did not know or consider it a vow, but don't my yes's and no's need to be kept?

I suppose does God consider commitments and desires vows and my word - which I need to keep before Him?

Ziggy said:

a vow
a prayer to God
properly, a wish, expressed as a petition to God, or in votive obligation:—prayer, vow.



But your plans, may not be His plans..
And if your heart is commited then do what you desire.
If you change your desire.. the power is in your own hand to do so.
You have not vowed a vow to God, you vowed a vow to yourself and asked God to hold you to it.
Ask God to release you from your vow to yourself.
They were your plans, that you vowed a vow to.

Book of Acts..
Act 5:1 But a certain man named Ananias, with Sapphira his wife, sold a possession,
Act 5:2 And kept back part of the price, his wife also being privy to it, and brought a certain part, and laid it at the apostles' feet.
Act 5:3 But Peter said, Ananias, why hath Satan filled thine heart to lie to the Holy Ghost, and to keep back part of the price of the land?
Act 5:4 Whiles it remained, was it not thine own? and after it was sold, was it not in thine own power? why hast thou conceived this thing in thine heart? thou hast not lied unto men, but unto God.



It is still in your hands.
The desire was to help your husband.
You haven't done anything with the money yet. Therefore it is still in your hands.

Pray about it.. think about it.. what's the hurry?
Maybe saving instead of spending would be an option.
My Dad always says... expect the unexpected.. you never know what's around the next corner.
God knows.. so Pray.

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I thought about that scripture.

I believe in paying off debt and saving, I had my own way of doing it. My husband may prefer I save and he be the one to pay off debt. I just was going with my own thoughts of what should be done. I was trying to help my husband in my own way. Not realizing my commitment to my own way may have been my word to God and I cannot veer off my plans for it would break a vow. I am praying about this.