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It's what's in the heart that matters.
The doing or acting on what's in your heart is important.
You could have said.. I have this money, I could get myself some new clothes, take a vacation, buy a new car.
But you didn't think about how you would spend it on you first.
And that's a good thing..
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It's of God.
 
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Hello all. I am not a Christian newbie, just still really learning.

I know the bible has much to say about vows and keeping our word.

Recently I pondered what to do about my job and how the money should be used. I thought I came to a good conclusion and asked God to bless the work of my hands and to help me accomplish my goals. I told Him what I'd like to do with it and I am sure He sees my heart's commitment to my plans.

Then I realized that I cornered myself in a very tight place, leaving no room for any other options. Fearing I made a vow of sorts or a commitment to Him.

I am a wife and my desire is to help my husband pay off our debts, give charitably and keep some ( little ) for us.

I figured if we pay off debt, he makes enough for us to live so I figured it was a sin to do too much else with it but to give so we're not greedy.

Then I thought. He may not always have this job. What if I wanted to treat my husband to a something special? Or what if I wanted to buy our children something expensive? What if after or while paying off debts, things come up I can help with financially? What if I wanted to buy us a vacation? What if after debt is being paid off I wanted to help pay for a home, or instead of my income paying off debt, my husband asks me to use the money for something else? I thought it was a sin to enjoy money sometimes. Now I do not see that.

Basically I knew I wanted to be a help to my husband. I didn't look past debts bein paid off and future happenings. After the debts, God willing, I cornered myself to give and keep very little. No room for any further helping my husband, blessing our children, friends, family and just mainly giving. What have I done?

I wish I had just not made specific plans.

A lot of "if's" but my original plans were quite rigid.

I had my plans and desires, and knew He saw and them. Is it a vow now before God, and/or does He expect me to hold to these plans as a commitment before His eyes and my "yes" needs to be a yes?


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Proverbs 16:9 Amplified
A man’s mind plans his way [as he journeys through life], But the Lord directs his steps and establishes them.
 

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This is what Christ taught on making vows.
“Again, ye have heard that it hath been said by them of old time, Thou shalt not forswear thyself, but shalt perform unto the Lord thine oaths: But I say unto you, Swear not at all; neither by heaven; for it is God's throne: Nor by the earth; for it is his footstool: neither by Jerusalem; for it is the city of the great King. Neither shalt thou swear by thy head, because thou canst not make one hair white or black. But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.”
Do with it what you will.
 

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Hello all. I am not a Christian newbie, just still really learning.

I know the bible has much to say about vows and keeping our word.

Recently I pondered what to do about my job and how the money should be used. I thought I came to a good conclusion and asked God to bless the work of my hands and to help me accomplish my goals. I told Him what I'd like to do with it and I am sure He sees my heart's commitment to my plans.

Then I realized that I cornered myself in a very tight place, leaving no room for any other options. Fearing I made a vow of sorts or a commitment to Him.

I am a wife and my desire is to help my husband pay off our debts, give charitably and keep some ( little ) for us.

I figured if we pay off debt, he makes enough for us to live so I figured it was a sin to do too much else with it but to give so we're not greedy.

Then I thought. He may not always have this job. What if I wanted to treat my husband to a something special? Or what if I wanted to buy our children something expensive? What if after or while paying off debts, things come up I can help with financially? What if I wanted to buy us a vacation? What if after debt is being paid off I wanted to help pay for a home, or instead of my income paying off debt, my husband asks me to use the money for something else? I thought it was a sin to enjoy money sometimes. Now I do not see that.

Basically I knew I wanted to be a help to my husband. I didn't look past debts bein paid off and future happenings. After the debts, God willing, I cornered myself to give and keep very little. No room for any further helping my husband, blessing our children, friends, family and just mainly giving. What have I done?

I wish I had just not made specific plans.

A lot of "if's" but my original plans were quite rigid.

I had my plans and desires, and knew He saw and them. Is it a vow now before God, and/or does He expect me to hold to these plans as a commitment before His eyes and my "yes" needs to be a yes?


Thanks
Here are some scriptures you need to understand and why.
But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath: but

let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation.


But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.


Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain: Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. For that ye ought to say,

If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.
 

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Hello all. I am not a Christian newbie, just still really learning.

I know the bible has much to say about vows and keeping our word.

Recently I pondered what to do about my job and how the money should be used. I thought I came to a good conclusion and asked God to bless the work of my hands and to help me accomplish my goals. I told Him what I'd like to do with it and I am sure He sees my heart's commitment to my plans.

Then I realized that I cornered myself in a very tight place, leaving no room for any other options. Fearing I made a vow of sorts or a commitment to Him.

I am a wife and my desire is to help my husband pay off our debts, give charitably and keep some ( little ) for us.

I figured if we pay off debt, he makes enough for us to live so I figured it was a sin to do too much else with it but to give so we're not greedy.

Then I thought. He may not always have this job. What if I wanted to treat my husband to a something special? Or what if I wanted to buy our children something expensive? What if after or while paying off debts, things come up I can help with financially? What if I wanted to buy us a vacation? What if after debt is being paid off I wanted to help pay for a home, or instead of my income paying off debt, my husband asks me to use the money for something else? I thought it was a sin to enjoy money sometimes. Now I do not see that.

Basically I knew I wanted to be a help to my husband. I didn't look past debts bein paid off and future happenings. After the debts, God willing, I cornered myself to give and keep very little. No room for any further helping my husband, blessing our children, friends, family and just mainly giving. What have I done?

I wish I had just not made specific plans.

A lot of "if's" but my original plans were quite rigid.

I had my plans and desires, and knew He saw and them. Is it a vow now before God, and/or does He expect me to hold to these plans as a commitment before His eyes and my "yes" needs to be a yes?


Thanks
Here are some scriptures you need to understand and why not to make them.


But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath: but

let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation.


But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.


Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain: Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. For that ye ought to say,

If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.
 

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But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath: but

let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation.


But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.


Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain: Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. For that ye ought to say,

If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.
 

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Remember Herod and his vow to his step daughter who danced in front of him and his congregates ? He promised her up to half his kingdom and whatever she desired, she went asking her mother who desired the head of John the Baptist. Oh what great sorrow was had by the Kings great oath. I’ve experienced that first hand surely many have by saying an oath then it backfiring later, oh what misery.