I have discovered that so many of the problems some Christians have is caused by unforgiveness. At some time in their past they have been hurt by other people and that hurt is so big that it has taken over much of their lives. They unwittingly hold on to the hurt and anger and swear to themselves that they will never forgive the person or persons responsible. I have come across this issue many times particularly with those like the ones I have talked about in a previous post who just go 'round and round'.
This unforgiveness, which is understandable, holds them back from moving forwards both in their real lives and in their Christian walk with God. They tend to get comfortable holding on to the hurt and unforgiveness and find it hard to let go. But the truth is once they have let go and made the decision to let go of the resentment, anger and bitterness the Holy spirit will help them take the necessary steps towards full forgiveness.
If you want God to be merciful to you; you must be merciful to others.
Matthew 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Four steps to forgiveness.
1 – Say it. To forgive you must first of all say it, even if you say it with gritted teeth and you don’t mean it.
2 – Mean it. Then you must ask God to give you the grace to mean it. It may take a long time but be committed to it and keep saying it until you really do mean it.
3 – Feel it. After a while you will begin to feel it , impossible as that may sound.
4 – Forget it. And in time with God’s help you can forget it and be free.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean the guilty are not guilty.
Say it on a daily basis – “I forgive him, I forgive him, I forgive him” – until you actually want it to happen. And in order to forgive first of all we need to pray about it and receive God’s grace..
Say it until you mean it. The pain of the hurts may get worse as the memories open up again, so be prepared for this to happen. But in time you will begin to feel the forgiveness in your heart.
Forgiving is good for us and we will start to feel better and will no longer be a victim but a victor.
To experience God’s forgiveness we must first forgive others. When we live in the benefit of God’s forgiveness good things happen to us and we begin to feel free. We start to live in the future instead of the past and we get our futures back.
This unforgiveness, which is understandable, holds them back from moving forwards both in their real lives and in their Christian walk with God. They tend to get comfortable holding on to the hurt and unforgiveness and find it hard to let go. But the truth is once they have let go and made the decision to let go of the resentment, anger and bitterness the Holy spirit will help them take the necessary steps towards full forgiveness.
If you want God to be merciful to you; you must be merciful to others.
Matthew 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Four steps to forgiveness.
1 – Say it. To forgive you must first of all say it, even if you say it with gritted teeth and you don’t mean it.
2 – Mean it. Then you must ask God to give you the grace to mean it. It may take a long time but be committed to it and keep saying it until you really do mean it.
3 – Feel it. After a while you will begin to feel it , impossible as that may sound.
4 – Forget it. And in time with God’s help you can forget it and be free.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean the guilty are not guilty.
Say it on a daily basis – “I forgive him, I forgive him, I forgive him” – until you actually want it to happen. And in order to forgive first of all we need to pray about it and receive God’s grace..
Say it until you mean it. The pain of the hurts may get worse as the memories open up again, so be prepared for this to happen. But in time you will begin to feel the forgiveness in your heart.
Forgiving is good for us and we will start to feel better and will no longer be a victim but a victor.
To experience God’s forgiveness we must first forgive others. When we live in the benefit of God’s forgiveness good things happen to us and we begin to feel free. We start to live in the future instead of the past and we get our futures back.