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You know, I feel more at ease with people who are not familiar with me, to whom I can confide everything without the need to introduce myself because I avoid awkward situations. It's like we are close as we exchange messages, but in reality, even if they disappear abruptly, I won't be deeply affected as I already expect it, and I do the same thing too.I have always had trouble understanding friendship. I learned from "The 4 Loves" by CS Lewis, that the Greek have multiple words for our one English word called "love". Friendship is a type of love.
In beginning the only way one could communicate with someone was in person. Then came the following: letters, telegram, telephone, email, text messages, and social media. The idea was to add more ways to keep in touch with people. Even though some of this stuff helped communication at a distance, they have also complicated things.
I feel that in order to make my point, I need to bring up the subject of sex. Is cybersex or sexting real? Perhaps in one sense it is, and yet in another sense it isn't. They seem to fall under Matthew 5:28, and similar verses, but you will never get anyone pregnant or transmit a STD. In a physical sense it's not real at all. In the same way, when you talk to someone online there are real human emotions, and a feeling of connection happening, even though you may have never seen or touched that person physically. That is why I still question anyone that can just dismiss someone as if they never mattered.
I'm not a good looking guy with good convincing skills. Nor am I an attractive woman.
Its obvious the parents neglect teaching God's word to their children. In Tennessee, a transgender killed Christian people. Out of hatred.
Great post, thanks.I feel inspired to write this because it seems that on the internet people are too content with loosing friendships and moving onto new people. While this might be common in the world,
Indeed.I don't think it should be common among Christians. How can you consider people made in the image of God, to be nothing more then an object for you to use, and then throw away after your done with them?
Yes, what passes for Christianity today is pretty sad.I have first hand experienced this! Which is why when I detect this kind of attitude in someone, I will probably end up pushing them out of my life. They already think they are a follower of Christ, therefor there isn't much one can do for them.
Indeed.I understand that every now and then, a friendship needs to end. But I think it should hurt you, when it does. As believers we are more then just friends, we are brothers and sisters in Christ.
I liked this as a reference to the Body of Christ. That we would remove a body part without any thought.Removing someone should feel like your cutting off an arm.
Yes. I have had poison relationships that were destroying me.I understand that every now and then, a friendship needs to end.
Am not against all male-female friendships. Just don't agree necessarily that women who cut you off are not Christians.I had pretty much forgotten about this thread. As someone that has had lots of troubles making and keeping friends around. I have become skeptical of everyone. I think that is a natural reaction. But that doesn't make it right.
The male-female thing gets complicated, and sometimes hypocritical. Like it or not, I have some female friends who are married. Nothing romantic happens between us ever! These friendships I'm talking about are not close close friends. They just happen to be work related interactions, and sometimes I talk to these people. In some ways I don't like calling them friends. They are teachers who teach at the same school I clean. We just happen to get along pretty well. Anyways the point I'm trying to make is, why is it ok for them to talk to me when they are married? That is why I think this whole cut off thing can get a little ridiculous. I think if the friendship is based on romance then I think it should be cut off when one of the parties gets married. But if the friendship is not based on romance, then I think making the cut causes unnecessary hurt.
I'm speaking from experience, of lots of women online cutting me off for every and any unknown reason. I assume, since, I wasn't being pushy with them, that they must have found a boyfriend and wanted to cut ties with all other males. The sad thing is, I can't replace those ladies as easily as they seem to be able to replace boys.
That's my take on things. I realize this subject will always be controversial. For me the saddest thing is, this controversial subject has been the cause of a lot of emotional pain. And that emotional pain can range from sadness, depression, even a voice telling me that I will always be alone because I'm a looser. You try to look to Jesus, but it's hard for me to shake those pains.
Great post. You raise some good points.That's my take on things. I realize this subject will always be controversial. For me the saddest thing is, this controversial subject has been the cause of a lot of emotional pain. And that emotional pain can range from sadness, depression, even a voice telling me that I will always be alone because I'm a looser. You try to look to Jesus, but it's hard for me to shake those pains.
44 is still young.I don't think I'll ever learn how to be a "whole" person. I'm 44 years old and if I haven't learned how by now? LOL Probably not happening. Sorry.
Am 28. Only found non-flaky friends last year. They are rare.I'm 44 years old and I've never been around people who weren't flaky with me. It really effects how I feel about all of this.
If there is no feeling of loss, IMHO-it was a shallow, fake relationship. I too have been there, and I'm sure many others have too.I feel inspired to write this because it seems that on the internet people are too content with loosing friendships and moving onto new people. While this might be common in the world, I don't think it should be common among Christians. How can you consider people made in the image of God, to be nothing more then an object for you to use, and then throw away after your done with them? I have first hand experienced this! Which is why when I detect this kind of attitude in someone, I will probably end up pushing them out of my life. They already think they are a follower of Christ, therefor there isn't much one can do for them.
I understand that every now and then, a friendship needs to end. But I think it should hurt you, when it does. As believers we are more then just friends, we are brothers and sisters in Christ. Removing someone should feel like your cutting off an arm.