(8) I had just performed a wedding in Buffalo, NY and was now attending the reception at a country club. I was sitting next to a guest, Phyllis, who was a doctor with a PhD in medical research. She was an attractive but "icy" blond who was obviously very bright. Phyllis shared these 2 NDEs with me.
(a) She had her first NDE as a result of a serious car accident after which she was fighting for her life. She found herself floating up to what she described as a "mall that wasn't really a mall; it was a mall of white light." As she wandered down the hallway, she arrived at an open court area with tables and chairs and heard lovely music playing in the background. Seated at one of the tables was her recently deceased mother. Stunned, Phyllis sat down, only to be scolded by her irate mother, who chided her thus:
For some reason, you haven't let yourself grieve my loss and your refusal to do so is holding black my progress over here!" Phyllis felt terribly trapped and humiliated. Her way of handling grief and other life tragedies was to detach from her emotions, so she could get on with her life, unobstructed by pain. After further conversation she returned to her body and eventually regained normal consciousness.
Some time later, Phyllis became afflicted with some life-threatening "female disease" that required hospitalization (breast or cervical cancer?) and this ailment triggered her 2nd NDE, which once again brought up "a mall that wasn't really a mall; it was a mall of white light." Once again, she arrived at the open court area. She shuddered to see her late Mom seated at a table with heavenly music playing in the background. When Phyllis sat down, her mother again scolded her, "Why haven't you respected me request to grieve my loss? I told you that your failure to do so is holding back my progress over here!" Humiliated again, Phyllis just sat there and sulked, finally saying, "Well, I guess I'll try to get back to my body now." Her Mom retorted, "No, you're not ready to return to your body! You need to go with these 2 gentlemen!" 2 male beings in white robes suddenly appeared and escorted her to "an elevator that wasn't really an elevator; it was an elevator of white light." They finally arrived at what seemed to be some sort of spirit operating room and a procedure was performed on her spirit body that she didn't understand. Then she was returned to her body in the earth hospital, completely healed!
I never saw Phyllis again and have often wondered if she ever allowed herself to grieve her Mom's loss. Obviously there were serious issues between mother and daughter in this life. These 2 points strike me about her NDEs: (1) They illustrate how important forgiveness and reconciliation can be for afterlife progress. 92) They illustrate the biblical implication that the righteous dead are allowed at times to monitor our progress from beyond the grave. The truth is generally ignored by most Christians, but has profound implications about ongoing relationships between the living and the dead in the body of Christ.