Poll: Avoid sex before marriage? Tips on avoiding sex as a celibate

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Will Joseph

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I'm a celibate. I've been avoiding sex before marriage, since birth. It can be hard to avoid sex in a sexual society. If you are a celibate like me, these tips might be helpful. Note: I'm a male celibate, so some of my advice is more for men. Feel free to share advice that can help female celibates.

1) Reduce your time online.
Sex can be very restricted in a society, so sometimes sexual people try to avoid restrictions by promoting or arranging for sex online where they are less likely to be identified.

2) Reduce porn consumption.
Porn can teach people how to have sex and can promote sex. Porn usually requires money, and so porn is usually shared under some business. And many businesses want their customers to keep returning to their businesses, to increase profits; so porn usually promotes itself and sex.

3) Reduce alcohol consumption.
Alcohol consumption can lead to insobriety and a lack of consciousness. People can perform sexual acts on you, while you are unconscious.

4) Reduce drug use.
Drug use can lead to insobriety and a lack of consciousness. People can perform sexual acts on you, while you are unconscious.

5) Increase sobriety.
Sometimes people lack the ability to make conscious or knowledgable decisions. These moments can be called a lack of sobriety. Many different things can cause a lack of sobriety, depending on an individual. When we are not sober, we tend to make mistakes like having sex before marriage.

6) Avoid women at night or in vacant areas.
Some women are prostitutes and make money from having sex. They may try to bump into you, or call out to you, to try to convince you into having sex. They will usually proactively try to have sex with you because it is part of their livelihood. Then they might take your wallet, watch, ring, or other posessions, in bed or with a robber. These women are usually criminals who linger around during night or in vacant areas.

7) Avoid sexual female strangers.
Since you can not discern if a female stranger is a prostitute, avoiding sexual female strangers can be a very great way to avoid any sexual pressure.

8) Avoid loud music.
Prostitutes are known to use music to facilitate prostitution. They may purposely play loud music, to draw in victims.

9) Review the dangers of sex before marriage.
Sex before marriage can be very dangerous, especially because of disease, predators, crime, and sin.
 
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First loud music has no affect on sex..... style of music does!
Now, my list!

1) Never be alone with a woman that is not your mother or sister at any time
2) Don't reduce porn - eliminate it!
3) Stay out of bars
4) Get good christian friends
5) Get good sleep - tired makes you weaker
6) Read and meditate on the Word of God continually
7) If you do give in to temptation - don't give in to condemnation: repent, and move on!
 

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Do Christians usually spend time in bars anyway? Doesn't seem like where we would meet.

Isn't it just easier that everyone just... stay away from each other?

You would think so; but, alas, yes, there are Christians that don't have an issue going into bars, and even finding dates there... yikes! The bible says flee from even the appearance of evil.
 
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Commit yourself to serving Jesus, and fill your time doing that.

Much love!
I'm with this, and I will say that what you focus on for entertainment is really going to effect your mindset and where you're at spiritually.

The world is way too open and we need Biblical values. The marriage bed is meant to be sacred and holy, the world does not care.

Gives new meaning to Proverbs 4:23.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life."

Guard your mind to guard your heart.
 

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I'm with this, and I will say that what you focus on for entertainment is really going to effect your mindset and where you're at spiritually.
Yes! The more of the world's media in general you put into your mind, the more it's paradigm will infect our own, or that's the risk.

Much love!
 
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You would think so; but, alas, yes, there are Christians that don't have an issue going into bars, and even finding dates there... yikes! The bible says flee from even the appearance of evil.
I never even did that before I was a Christian. Wasn't really a bar-goer. Went to a pub with an older female friend a few times but that's about it.

I have a hard time imagining people would think that is a good idea.

Waking up and deciding to find a lifelong mate in the wild, while both are intoxicated and incapable of good decisions, sounds like one of those bizarre Japanese game shows.

A guy tried to talk to me once after I got back from a pub, and my father and the big, big scary Italian mafia manager of the lodge both ran him off. Still makes me laugh.
 
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Do Christians usually spend time in bars anyway? Doesn't seem like where we would meet.

Isn't it just easier that everyone just... stay away from each other?
My old pastor left no stone unturned when it came to reaching the lost. He was fearless...a great leader. However, when he suggested we go preach to the strippers, even I was wise enough to know my wife would have a problem with it. He must've realized it was a bad idea as he didn't pursue it. Lol
 

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My old pastor left no stone unturned when it came to reaching the lost. He was fearless...a great leader. However, when he suggested we go preach to the strippers, even I was wise enough to know my wife would have a problem with it. He must've realized it was a bad idea as he didn't pursue it. Lol
Lol!!

I have laughing tears
 
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Do Christians usually spend time in bars anyway?
You'd be surprised. I was on another Christian forum where a notable female member/admin boasted of being a backstage manager at a strip club for over 20 years AFTER becoming a Christian(??!!?!?!). She boasted of "looking the part" and the whole nine yards.

I and a male member were targeted and ousted from that forum for saying that was not of God.
 

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You'd be surprised. I was on another Christian forum where a notable female member/admin boasted of being a backstage manager at a strip club for over 20 years AFTER becoming a Christian(??!!?!?!). She boasted of "looking the part" and the whole nine yards.

I and a male member were targeted and ousted from that forum for saying that was not of God.

That's how I ended up on this forum. lol
Got booted from that one ....looked for another.
 

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You'd be surprised. I was on another Christian forum where a notable female member/admin boasted of being a backstage manager at a strip club for over 20 years AFTER becoming a Christian(??!!?!?!). I and a male member were targeted and ousted from that forum for saying that was not of God.
Yikes!!!

I would be running from that mess!
 
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Yikes!!!

I would be running from that mess!
The attacks came straight from the top (site owner) and down from all those who saw this woman as a "godly woman." I stayed there for a time to reach (SRA/MK) survivors. The cult didn't like it much and the admin was infiltrated by cult.
 
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I think it's particularly challenging to avoid premarital sex when dating someone seriously.

I think then, it's best if you could avoid the temptation of being alone in rooms together and avoid drawing out the dating and engagement phase.

If things are not moving toward marriage, end the relatiomship. If they are, go ahead and get married.

The other thing is that our society is telling young people to wait too long to get married, so premarital sex has increased. There shouldn't be a stigma for those who want to marry young, especially if they are 18 or older.
 

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I think it's particularly challenging to avoid premarital sex when dating someone seriously.

I think then, it's best if you could avoid the temptation of being alone in rooms together and avoid drawing out the dating and engagement phase.

If things are not moving toward marriage, end the relatiomship. If they are, go ahead and get married.

The other thing is that our society is telling young people to wait too long to get married, so premarital sex has increased. There shouldn't be a stigma for those who want to marry young, especially if they are 18 or older.
Excellent!! I agree 100%!