So sad

[aspen]

What do you do as a Christian to combat sadness and depression? I am working with others and sharing the gospel through relationship building. I am a committed Christian. Admittedly, prayer is suffering - I usually revel in prayer - now it has been reduced to a trickle. I need some advice.

 

[jiggyfly]

I usually find someone who needs help and offer my help.

I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love.10 When you obey my commandments, you remain in my love, just as I obey my Father’s commandments and remain in his love.11 I have told you these things so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your joy will overflow!12 This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you.13 There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.14 You are my friends if you do what I command.
John 15:9-14 (NLT)

 

[aspen]

I usually find someone who needs help and offer my help.

I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love.10 When you obey my commandments, you remain in my love, just as I obey my Father’s commandments and remain in his love.11 I have told you these things so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your joy will overflow!12 This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you.13 There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.14 You are my friends if you do what I command.
John 15:9-14 (NLT)

God is Good.

How do you soothe your anxiety? How do you lift yourself out of sadness? My relationship with my wife was my favorite part of my life - now it is gone. Not sure how to rebuild.

 

[jiggyfly]

God is Good.

How do you soothe your anxiety? How do you lift yourself out of sadness? My relationship with my wife was my favorite part of my life - now it is gone. Not sure how to rebuild.

It is very hard, but it is possible.

 

[Shirley]

Change is so hard!!!! You probably need to go through the grieving process. I will pray for you.

 

[aspen]

Yes prayer is the answer. Thank you.

I am resisting the grieving process. So hard!

I am so sad....

 

[jiggyfly]

Good words Shirley :)
Aspen, the grieving is a necessary part of the process when something dies. When this part is resisted or ignore then the process is not completed. There is a time for sadness but remember that joy is coming . :)

And not to worry Aspen we won't let you stay in sadness for very long. :) prayin for ya bro.

 

[gregg]

your wife is in your future if you believe his words.look at your future with her.a 1,000 years still ahead here on earth.the past has only memories but the future has life and promises dwell on the future

 

[Foreigner]

What do you do as a Christian to combat sadness and depression? I am working with others and sharing the gospel through relationship building. I am a committed Christian. Admittedly, prayer is suffering - I usually revel in prayer - now it has been reduced to a trickle. I need some advice.

-- My heart goes out to you, Aspen. Truly.
As far as prayer goes, when I dealt with a severe time of sadness and depression in my life, I thought that if I just wore the carpet out with my knees talking to God, that things would improve noticably by the time I stopped. No such luck.

I did learn mercifully learn that it is quality not quantity, and you do not have to spend very long in your prayer time to cry out to Jesus from the heart.

I remember during my busy work days ducking out to my car for five minutes during breaks, sitting in a bathroom stall during lunch, and crying out (literally) in my car on the short trips to and from work.

Those short, sincere bursts (sometimes shouts) of prayer mixed with praise (which was obviously difficult) made it much easier to pray and not let bitterness and pessimism encroach into my prayers.


I have found this verse to be awesome. I would encourage you to claim it as yours:

"And after you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to His eternal glory in Christ will Himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you." - 1 Peter 5:10

As far as your future in regards to your wife:
The Word says that God closes doors that no man can open, but He also OPENS doors no man can close.

Just because man decides that a door is closed and closed for good, that doesn't mean God cannot have a different opinion.
As far a Marraige, that's one of the things God loves.

He wants no marraige to end. That means it is His will to ensure that, regardless of the difficulties, that bond remains.
So if you pray to have to marraige restored, you are actually praying in His will.
And the Word PROMISES that when you pray in His will, your prayer will be answered.

That means no matter how small the pieces are or how far they have been scattered, He can put them together again.

Yes, you already know all this. But I just wanted to re-enforce it.

 

[thisistheendtimes]

God knows something tragic is on your mind and in your heart and soul ("prayer" can sit on the 'back burner' for now, He understands).

Grieving adequately is very important (I didn't say "grieving PROPERLY",....there is no "properly" rule book, your SUBCONSCIOUS determines the emotional release and comfort level of YOUR OWN).

When my brother died, I didn't cry (he was a drug addict always running off here and there, I never really got to know him). I always felt perfectly comfortable that I handled his death well. Eight years after I went to his funeral, I woke up very excited because it was going to be a great day,.....I was going to meet my brother at a restaurant for lunch.....(all of a sudden, but I didn't remember ever making plans for the meeting). I quickly got my clothes on and made plans to be there on time, BUT I couldn't find any note anywhere in my apartment with the name or address of the restaurant. I finally remembered that I last saw my brother when I went with him to his friend's funeral....and soon I realized that it was not his friend's funeral, it was HIS.

After another ten years went by, I finally had a dream where the only thing I could remember about that dream is the only thing in the world that mattered....MY BROTHER SMILED AT ME.

So, if you don't want a phantom stuck in your head for 18 years rolling around clogging your brain,...MOURN (Jesus wept also). Mourning is an expression of the soul. You don't realize what is in your SUBconscious, but you need to release your heart and soul from your loss.


Don't ask God to do the mourning for you, do it yourself and restore the health of your temperament/countenance.

 

[aspen]

Foreigner - your words have helped me beyond expression.

Thank you everyone for posting.

I think I am ready to face my pain.

 

[Hollyrock]

What do you do as a Christian to combat sadness and depression? I am working with others and sharing the gospel through relationship building. I am a committed Christian. Admittedly, prayer is suffering - I usually revel in prayer - now it has been reduced to a trickle. I need some advice.

aspen2 try praise and worship...in the presence of the Lord is fulness of joy. Try listening to some of your favorite worship music and see if that helps....

 

[aspen]

oh it hurts

 

[Hollyrock]

oh it hurts

God wrap your arms around Aspen...comfort him as only you can...heal him everywhere he hurts, in Jesus' name I pray

 

[Shirley]

Amen!

 

[goodshepard55]

Aspen darling, we are all praying for you..God fill aspen with peace and Lord please let him know You are there in his hour of need...Love you Aspen

 

[aspen]

God knows something tragic is on your mind and in your heart and soul ("prayer" can sit on the 'back burner' for now, He understands).

Grieving adequately is very important (I didn't say "grieving PROPERLY",....there is no "properly" rule book, your SUBCONSCIOUS determines the emotional release and comfort level of YOUR OWN).

When my brother died, I didn't cry (he was a drug addict always running off here and there, I never really got to know him). I always felt perfectly comfortable that I handled his death well. Eight years after I went to his funeral, I woke up very excited because it was going to be a great day,.....I was going to meet my brother at a restaurant for lunch.....(all of a sudden, but I didn't remember ever making plans for the meeting). I quickly got my clothes on and made plans to be there on time, BUT I couldn't find any note anywhere in my apartment with the name or address of the restaurant. I finally remembered that I last saw my brother when I went with him to his friend's funeral....and soon I realized that it was not his friend's funeral, it was HIS.

After another ten years went by, I finally had a dream where the only thing I could remember about that dream is the only thing in the world that mattered....MY BROTHER SMILED AT ME.

So, if you don't want a phantom stuck in your head for 18 years rolling around clogging your brain,...MOURN (Jesus wept also). Mourning is an expression of the soul. You don't realize what is in your SUBconscious, but you need to release your heart and soul from your loss.


Don't ask God to do the mourning for you, do it yourself and restore the health of your temperament/countenance.

Wow - incredible story - thanks for telling it.

 

[Warrior]

I was depressed because I had left the highschool and the feeling of not being able to see friends again and graduate was the saddest thing ever for me, So I pray to The Lord to direct me back there, even though the friends i used to have and the graduation will never be as good of a feeling as the eternal glory and life we have coming for us.

 

[Jon-Marc]

Several times a day I praise God and give Him the worship He deserves--as much as I able to anyway. How can I be depressed or sad when I am praising the God of love, mercy and grace?

 

[Hollyrock]

Several times a day I praise God and give Him the worship He deserves--as much as I able to anyway. How can I be depressed or sad when I am praising the God of love, mercy and grace?

AMEN !!!