Sounds like this has been going on forever, and is a pattern for him. He may not even know he is upsetting so many people. The changes have to be done slowly, and I hope that no one is yelling at him for this because this is what he has done all along and has gotten away with it.
Let's not go with lazy and lost.--he got a job, and so he can eat. Has anyone sat him down and LOVINGLY talked to him? Tell him a few positives about himself (I know, I know) but at least he went out and looked for a new job. You could say That's great, and then talk a bit , and then bring up somehow that your daughter might need a little help at home, and maybe a suggestion. It's worth a try.
Look at him the same way Christ would,. What do you think Jesus would say to him?
I know he frustrates you . I can hear the anger in your voice when you posted "lazy and lost." Please give it a try. Sometimes we are the answer to the prayer that we ask for.
Thank you again. I re-read your post.
Sad thing is there is really not going out and getting jobs anymore for most anybody......it's all gone internet, a friend recommended him. If I had to apply now, I'd have to starve to death ( lol, wonder how many days that would take as I consider a healthy stocky short woman )!
If the Lord leads me and it will have to be him, I would NEVER EVER hurt my only child that way, then I will speak.
You are right, I WAS VERY ANGRY, to the point it was draining my joy.
I asked my SIL for forgiveness this morning...he said " you ain't never done nothing to me." I told him that even though
HE didn't know it I had murdered him in my heart.
Continue praying please and thank you for I know even nothing may have to be said for God can work through our " effectual fervent prayers" that can avail much.