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Tis far better to focus on what we have IN CHRIST than to ponder on what we dont have .Hi brother,
Sure do understand others not caring what we say, and that we are boring...I've pulled back a lot from people in general and mind my own business anymore as it can really wear one down to be ignored and shunned for no reason you can see.
It's the end times and love of MANY will and has grown cold, ice cold...not talking about the world here but the CHURCH!!!
I've come to terms with the fact that I will be alone for the rest of my life. Already eat alone, sleep alone (cept for my two mini schnauzers) come and go...alone. Yes, we have Christ with us always yet, even the Word say's it is not good for man to be alone.
Jeramiah is called the "weeping prophet". Here is something I found on Got Questions:
"God’s plan for Jeremiah called for loneliness and suffering, but the Lord was never far from him (Jeremiah 1:7–8). Because of the impending judgment on Judah, God forbade Jeremiah to marry or have children (Jeremiah 16:2). While that prohibition may have increased the prophet’s loneliness for a time, it was also a blessing as he did not have to watch his family torn from him when the Babylonians invaded Judah and destroyed Jerusalem (Jeremiah 16:3–4)."
Perhaps you and I and those like us could take a lesson here...life is sad and dark in this world and I for one cannot wait for Him to make all things new! it is my ONLY hope! We cannot give up brother and we certainly should NEVER look for the acceptance of men, even other Christians...Love you bro!
I have that same thing of not being able to pick up on social cues. Don’t have ADHD though. At least not that I’m aware of. In my defense, no one seems to say what they mean. They go in this odd and roundabout way where, for some reason, they arent vocal but instead drop what they think are clues to what they want you to say or do. I can pick up that I’m NOT doing or saying what they want, but I can’t figure out what it is they DO want, because THEY WONT ARTICULATE IT! And if you call them on it, they act as though they have no idea what on earth you’re talking about. So I don’t know if they can’t see they do it or if they do it on purpose to TRY to unsettle and make you nervous. (Which is where I do that running on and not being able to shut up that you described, so it does actually work, they DO succeed in making me overwrought and nervous and trying hard to figure out how to please them so I will be accepted.) I mostly think they…can’t see it…? But some people seem to know they do it and they gaslight you, trying to make you think you’re crazy and aren’t seeing what you know darn well you’re seeing. So whether they know what they’re doing or they don’t, it’s still crazy making and I refuse to play the game that they are doing. No matter what, it’s stacked against you, because they just move the goalposts if you start to speak openly about what’s happening, because they seem to WANT to keep it all hidden…I've been in a bad place lately. I used to, just drop onto the internet, and just start talking. I remember there was even a period of time in real life when I would talk without feeling shame. I don't think I noticed that people don't care about what I got to say. Now days I've come to realize that most people don't care what I got to say, until I accidentally offend or annoy them in some way.
It's not my intention to be annoying. I just wanted to have good relationships, share interests and stuff. But most people don't share interests with me. After trying for more years then I can keep track of.... It's actually starting to get hard for me to speak with confidence. Sometimes at work, I will get wound up like rubber band, and then my mouth will run like crazy. But I know whoever I'm talking too doesn't really care about what it is I'm saying... I feel that in some ways it's the same online too. I think people leave me because I'm not interesting enough. Or I'll accidentally annoy or offend them. I can't even tell you how many people I've met online, who seem to expect me to carry the entire conversation, and then when I do finally mess up and say something that triggers them, then they either complain, or just toss me away.
I've had people, online, recommend me books about friendships, telling me that this will somehow fix me, if I just learn how to conduct myself correctly. Makes me wonder, why do we need books on this subject? Most of society learned how to socialize by just growing up around others. I think it's a lot more simple then that. People either like you or they don't. We all got a soul stuck in an imperfect body. I think other then choosing to be kind and caring, we can't do a whole lot else got come across any better. In my case, I was diagnosed with ADHD, and according the Book, "Driven to Distraction" that stuff can effect relationships. Because what's not the same about you, makes it hard to pick up on subtle social cues.
I hope by posting this, that I'm not treating God like a magical miracle worker, who if I just ask enough times, He will choose to fix me, and my situation. I really don't have a lot faith that He will fix my situation, or even use it for the good. The reason why feel this way, is because I'm middle aged. In other words, my life is about half over and I have been praying about this situation for a long time. If anything things have just gotten worse for me.
Before anyone asks me again about a local Church. All I can tell you is, the local bible believing type Church have rejected me and my parents, because we do not have the social rankings they want. We are at least welcomed to attend these Churches. But nobody is going to talk to us, even if we reach out. We know, we tried for a long time... (More years then I can count) Once Covid hit that was like the thing that finally made us quit. We tried to go back one time, and found that the place we had been attending got rid of the Pastor for some reason, and they were being mysterious about it.