We are all sinners and I need rebuke if I do. Iron sharpens iron. I do feel guilty about not being a big giver like my wife. She's got a gift, is a servant, gives of herself unselfishly. For years when the Pastor would ask for volunteers I would not readily raise my hand - always had an excuse, but then submitted to some things. So God has worked on me in that area. AND, I had been judgmental at times, having this sense to pick out weaknesses in folks and letting them know about it. It stung, and was not nice. Maybe they needed to hear it at times? Getting better with that too.
I had a Pastor point out that the reason why we feel guilty is because we are. When we do something wrong, that kind of sick nervous feeling in your stomach, throat swallowing, flushed feeling comes over us. It grieves the Holy Spirit and He let's us know about it and chastised us. Well we experience enough of this personally and God deals with it. We really don't need to be pounced on at church too. We need encouragement. The Bible mentions that 40 times, also to love one another, be kind, gentle, peaceful, joyful, faithful, hopeful, focus on things above and yes die to your old selves. We are to render our old selves dead as if we were on the cross with Christ. So we walk in the Spirit, not in the flesh and so don't be so concerned about the dead man, we are alive in Christ.