Qualifications for marrying/doing funerals

[bbyrd009]

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narf!

 

[Mayflower]

You also said."I think my big concern is when I asked if he would marry a homosexual couple, he said he didn't know, what would I do. I told him I felt it was a sin in God's eyes. He says he doesnt understand what a tithe is still...and doesnt feel comfortable just going to someone and openly sharing their faith unless they come to Him. I don't ever see him pray or eager to share what God is showing him in His Word. I was even questioning if he was a believer for awhile.?"

A simple answer would be to say don't even think about it.

He might be caring and compasionate, but can he handle the problems of performing these services.
As already mentioned how would he deal with a request to marry a homosexul couple?
He is asked to bury someone. What is he going to say about this dead person, will he assume they were a Christian or will he say words that enable a piece of meat to be put in the ground.
How will he councel parents whose child has died?
Has hge the maturity as a Christian to talk to non christians about Jesus?
What sort of sermon would he give?

Suggest in stead thast he starts attending church every sunday and that he seeks to volunterr to help whereever needed.

You also said."I think my big concern is when I asked if he would marry a homosexual couple, he said he didn't know, what would I do. I told him I felt it was a sin in God's eyes. He says he doesnt understand what a tithe is still...and doesnt feel comfortable just going to someone and openly sharing their faith unless they come to Him. I don't ever see him pray or eager to share what God is showing him in His Word. I was even questioning if he was a believer for awhile.?"

A simple answer would be to say don't even think about it.

He might be caring and compasionate, but can he handle the problems of performing these services.
As already mentioned how would he deal with a request to marry a homosexul couple?
He is asked to bury someone. What is he going to say about this dead person, will he assume they were a Christian or will he say words that enable a piece of meat to be put in the ground.
How will he councel parents whose child has died?
Has hge the maturity as a Christian to talk to non christians about Jesus?
What sort of sermon would he give?

Suggest in stead thast he starts attending church every sunday and that he seeks to volunterr to help whereever needed.

We talked about it today. And said he wont do it online. He will talk to the pastor and even agreed to to reach out more in the community with me and things/learn more. This is very encouraging to me and relieving he won't just jump into it. I really do have a wonderful husband. Definitely has areas to grow in, but God is a miracle worker. Lol. :)I am so glad he listens to me. I asked him how he would comfort a grieving family. He didnt know. But he wants to it looks like. It is just so exciting to see for him. :)

 

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'And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother,
and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.'
(Matthew 19:5)

Hello @Mayflower,

With the greatest respect, and love for you, this is between you and your husband, and not a subject for open discussion, though I can understand why you should feel the need to. It is something you will both need to come before the Lord about together, as one flesh. You both sound rather lovely, but no one has the right to intervene in the decisions you make together. May this bind you both closer together, and closer to the Lord too, like ivy to a tree; as you acknowledge your need of the Lord's guidance. This may be what this is intended to do, and no more.

Who am I to say anything? What do I know? But God does! :)

Praise His Holy Name!

In Christ Jesus
Chris

 

[marks]

We talked about it today. And said he wont do it online. He will talk to the pastor and even agreed to to reach out more in the community with me and things/learn more. This is very encouraging to me and relieving he won't just jump into it. I really do have a wonderful husband. Definitely has areas to grow in, but God is a miracle worker. Lol. :)I am so glad he listens to me. I asked him how he would comfort a grieving family. He didnt know. But he wants to it looks like. It is just so exciting to see for him. :)

It sounds to me that you are on a good path.

Much love!

 

[Nancy]

My husband blew my mind yesterday when he asked me what I thought of him getting ordained just to do marriage ceremonies and funerals. Would this be considered as pastoral? I want to support him, but I know he would be held to a higher standard/accountability by God. I am unsure what to advise him to do. I believe I should pray and support him. But I was asking God to help me even see where his walk with God is. And then he comes to me about this. I think ministry is great. It is a high calling.

Oh my Mayfolwer,
I have been praying for the eyes of his heart to open WIDE. Hmm, yes, makes me go hmm! God is working in him May! Keep praying! I pray for him to come to God in spades and that your baby girl, you and he will both grow toward the same goal...Jesus ♥
This is somewhat of a praise report, to me anyhow!

 

[Stranger]

He will ask. He said if they don't he could do it online. I will encourage him to heed good advice.

I say this hesitantly. Check your own motives. I perceive the Lord is using you in your church with children. You have a gift of the Holy Ghost that enables you to be used there. You desire to be used more...which you will be. But, not maybe like you think.

Wait for the call of the Holy Spirit from your church. (Acts 13:1-2)

Stranger

 

[Mayflower]

I say this hesitantly. Check your own motives. I perceive the Lord is using you in your church with children. You have a gift of the Holy Ghost that enables you to be used there. You desire to be used more...which you will be. But, not maybe like you think.

Wait for the call of the Holy Spirit from your church. (Acts 13:1-2)

Stranger

See I am visiting a new church for now I feel lead to. I am going to just that church until the end of August to see if I will switch. The pastors are gifted. My husband took Lorena tonight to church where I always went. 7 years I have gone to that church. Nothing wrong with it. But God is working something in both of us right now. So yeh. I don't know God's plan, but I thank Him for it in advance. I completely trust Him.

 

[Mayflower]

'And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother,
and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.'
(Matthew 19:5)

Hello @Mayflower,

With the greatest respect, and love for you, this is between you and your husband, and not a subject for open discussion, though I can understand why you should feel the need to. It is something you will both need to come before the Lord about together, as one flesh. You both sound rather lovely, but no one has the right to intervene in the decisions you make together. May this bind you both closer together, and closer to the Lord too, like ivy to a tree; as you acknowledge your need of the Lord's guidance. This may be what this is intended to do, and no more.

Who am I to say anything? What do I know? But God does! :)

Praise His Holy Name!

In Christ Jesus
Chris

I can be too open. I know this about myself. One thing I definitely have to work on.

 

[JohnPaul]

In this day and age..you can buy a licence to marry and bury over the internet!!!

And the answer from me...is a big NO...having a licence does not make a person a Pastor!

It is only God who can anoint anyone with that calling and ministry.

Even thought there are thousands of 'self appointed' pastors ( as would be your husband) out there , calling themselves " Pastors".

Exactly ByGrace, my manager at my job who is not a good person, became ordained just to marry a family member, he married one of my coworkers and I said to myself how are those marriages valid in the eyes of God?

Can a couple be married outside of church and without some “ordained “ person performing the ceremony?

I’ve asked this question in another thread, but no one has answered it.

 

[aspen]

“Only marry couples who are marrying within their own race”
-Stranger

 

[bbyrd009]

“Only marry couples who are marrying within their own race”
-Stranger

Pretty sure the Stangeness's idea of heaven is a bunch of old white guys in pointy white hats lol

 

[bbyrd009]

Exactly ByGrace, my manager at my job who is not a good person, became ordained just to marry a family member, he married one of my coworkers and I said to myself how are those marriages valid in the eyes of God?

Can a couple be married outside of church and without some “ordained “ person performing the ceremony?

I’ve asked this question in another thread, but no one has answered it.

You are married in God's eyes when you consummate, as even governments are forced to recognize. Everything else is window dressing imo. What do you mean by "church?"

 

[JohnPaul]

You are married in God's eyes when you consummate, as even governments are forced to recognize. Everything else is window dressing imo. What do you mean by "church?"

Whatever denomination you belong to, like the Catholic Church, Presbyterian Church, etc....

 

[bbyrd009]

Whatever denomination you belong to, like the Catholic Church, Presbyterian Church, etc....

Ya, those are corporations wadr, not church. You are Church i think?
Living Stones

 

[JohnPaul]

Ya, those are corporations wadr, not church. You are Church i think?
Living Stones

I’m sorry I don’t understand what you’re saying.

 

[Mayflower]

Exactly ByGrace, my manager at my job who is not a good person, became ordained just to marry a family member, he married one of my coworkers and I said to myself how are those marriages valid in the eyes of God?

Can a couple be married outside of church and without some “ordained “ person performing the ceremony?

I’ve asked this question in another thread, but no one has answered it.

Please post the link. I don't see new threads all the time.

 

[JohnPaul]

Please post the link. I don't see new threads all the time.

I have to see if I can find it Mayflower, I will post it if I can find it.

 

[Helen]

Exactly ByGrace, my manager at my job who is not a good person, became ordained just to marry a family member, he married one of my coworkers and I said to myself how are those marriages valid in the eyes of God?

Can a couple be married outside of church and without some “ordained “ person performing the ceremony?

I’ve asked this question in another thread, but no one has answered it.

The Churches are full of them.
They think "Oh, I think I will get ordained."

What they should be thinking is. "I believe GOD is calling me into the ministry , I will pray and wait for someone to confirm me in this, if it is the Lord."

I see this much like Ishmael and Isaac.

Isaac was GODS idea.
But Abraham would not wait for the son of promise.
Then Sarah had a light bulb moment -" Oh , why don't we help God.."

Hence Ishmael was born and is giving "Isaac " the son of Promise , problems unto this day!

 

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I can be too open. I know this about myself. One thing I definitely have to work on.

Hi @Mayflower

The marriage bond is like no other though, is it? Though likened to Christ and His Church, thereby elevating it yet further, don't you think? :)

'Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
.. For the husband is the head of the wife,
even as Christ is the head of the church:
and He is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ,
.... so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
...... Husbands, love your wives,
even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it;
That He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
That He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing;
but that it should be holy and without blemish.
........ So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.
.......... He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
............ For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it,
even as the Lord the church:
For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones.
.............. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother,
................ and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
.................. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself;
.................... and the wife see that she reverence her husband. '
(Ephesians 5:22-33)

Praise God!

Thank you.
In Christ Jesus
Chris

 

[JohnPaul]

The Churches are full of them.
They think "Oh, I think I will get ordained."

What they should be thinking is. "I believe GOD is calling me into the ministry , I will pray and wait for someone to confirm me in this, if it is the Lord."

I see this much like Ishmael and Isaac.

Isaac was GODS idea.
But Abraham would not wait for the son of promise.
Then Sarah had a light bulb moment -" Oh , why don't we help God.."

Hence Ishmael was born and is giving "Isaac " the son of Promise , problems unto this day!

It's sad anyone can get "ordained" licensed to marry anyone, I never knew that until my coworker gut married a couple of months ago and told me my manager got ordained just to marry his son I believe and so he married my coworker who is a spoiled young man and doesn't believe in God or Christ, and funny enough his father is a Quaker.