I don't mean this in a bad way, but can you reword it? I'm missing a lot of what you are saying. It is not just the unsaved that have traumatic experiences they have to work through. Trauma can affect believers in a way it is hard to know how to walk in the power and authority of Jesus Christ. Believers can renew their minds in the Word of God to help heal, but if you are telling her she is not saved, you don't know that. God is the only One who can ultimately heal anyone, but it doesn't mean you get free from adam and eve's curse and you automatically have it all together.
I have no idea of who is saved and who is not saved (considering my own Salvation on a daily basis). What I do know, however, is that God is able to grant Salvation to whomever He decides, and that has nothing to do with feeble little me.
Exodus 33:19 NLT -
"The LORD replied, "I will make all my goodness pass before you, and I will call out my name, Yahweh, before you. For I will show mercy to anyone I choose, and I will show compassion to anyone I choose."
Is it possible that someone has received a Circumcised Heart but does not yet understand it? I would say yes, so I am unable to determine if a person is saved based upon a few words shared at a Christian Forum. To know if someone is saved, I'd have to know the deep details of what a person does, says, and thinks when they're alone and feel "safe."
What I am saying is that a person who understands the Doctrine of Circumcised Hearts, will ascend to the beliefs that come with it, and their life, no doubt, will change. So . . . does a person still have evil thoughts after they have been Truly saved by Christ? Sure they can, and do, for Peter himself proves this to us when he himself fell astray, led Barnabas astray, and the two of them together then proceeded to lead many others astray. The story begins at Galatians 2:11 and is (what I think) a Keystone set of passages in the Bible. There is much to be thought of and considered in that story of Peter, as he wrestles with the Law of Moses and how it caused him to stumble personally, but to also sin against the innocent Gentiles who suffered none at all to receive the Free Gifts of Christ.
Was Peter saved? Of course, he was, for Scripture was clear in that he was Indwelt by the Holy Spirit, a Spirit who is Promised to never leave. But what Peter needed to do was to keep chipping away at his mental habits, and in this case, he was tremendously weak and insecure, afraid, and the Gentiles whom he had offended (along with Christ) paid the price. And that's how it always is . . . the weak and insecure are the ones who cause others to suffer. And this is why Paul would buffet himself daily, for he needed to ensure not only his own salvation, but didn't want to lead others into the traps of weakness and insecurity that he might have still possessed.
So . . . by understanding the Mysterious Plan of the entire Bible, this understanding is [a] basis and foundation upon which a person is driven to lead and live their lives. By understanding the Mysterious Plan of God, this understanding provides direction and guidance . . . and why wouldn't it? Anyone who Truly possesses the "Mind of Christ," is the one who is seeing life from the right perspective, and that means focusing on the well-being of others instead of self.
I've suffered a lot in this life . . . in this world. So many hardships that have left painful scars, and they are scars that no one ever acknowledged, wanted to talk about, nor ever felt that I might need to talk to someone about being molested as a young child by a boy scoutmaster. I was such a small child, yet no one ever thought that I might need someone to talk to, to work through my thoughts to ensure that fear would not overtake and run my life in wild and bizarre ways. These fears drove me to do things that we fun and illicit . . . I was a very sinful person, enjoying many liberties of this evil world. And while my entire were filled with alleged "Christians," they all sat by and watched my parents throw me away, just less than ten months after finding out what had happened to me. If it were not for a friend of the family, I would have been sent to a military school.
I loved my family, desperately, and could not understand how and why they could do to me what they were actually and truly doing. They were abandoning their child to an essential stranger. In fact, my father thought that this person was gay, yet my father gave me to this person anyway . . . less than ten months after finding out that I had been molested. Age 12 was when I first began wishing that I were not alive, and that brand of life has been given to me by our Powerful God so that I would become who I am today.
I have much to complain about . . . the above is simply the tip of the iceberg. Yet, I do not complain, in fact, I have no issue with how my life has been. Why is this possible? Because my Heart is no longer under the Curse of Adam and Eve. The primary benefit of not being under this Curse is the development of Holy Clarity and Purpose. You're right, in that this development is not instant. In fact, Sanctification is a process that lasts a lifetime where at times we might grow very fast and at others, perhaps much slower. It doesn't matter, for there is no use fighting this life, as the Lord is in Powerful control of all things. And this is an example of what I am talking about, which is . . . why worry about one thing if you know that the Lord is in total control? It is pointless to worry, fret, or tear . . . it just is! And yes, I still struggle with worry, fret, and am much improved on the crying part, but I know that these things produce nothing good, and this knowledge gives me the edge of understanding what is wrong so that I am more able to correct the wrong.
I'm so sorry that my posts are often long . . . believe me, in my opinion, they're very short. So I will say one last thing; understanding the Doctrine of Christ's Circumcision, this understanding shows us not just how to live, but it helps us to understand how we are to feel as we live the life that belongs to those who belong to the Family of Circumcision. So, I hope that I have made things clearer, and if this is the case, I then hope that you will look further into this Doctrine that virtually no one wants to talk about. And no wonder, for this Doctrine of Circumcision of the Heart is the utter "Heart" of the entire Bible . . . and that is no pun . . . it is the Mysterious Plan of God, and how He saves those whom He has chosen before the creation of the world. All would be wise to process all of Scripture through Colossians 2:9-15, and when a person does that, they see how it applies to most of His Word . . . even Genesis 3:22-24.
Our Bible is amazing . . . it is far more amazing than most realize.