Abstinence/Waiting/Lust/Sin

Br4nd0n said:

Maybe fasting could be an option? Apparently it can rid the desire to a point. But i am not an expert on the subject. Prayers for you Brother.

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One hundred percent. Fasting for me is always the answer, whenever I feel sinful urges in any area of life. Fasting and prayer, like Jesus told us, is the answer for the more pernicious urges.

FredBotswana said:

Brothers and sisters in Christ,

I am a Christian man who deeply desires to be married someday. I have been praying earnestly for God to lead me to the woman He has ordained for me. By His grace, I have been able to remain sexually abstinent for several months at a time—sometimes six months, sometimes even as long as eight months.

However, there comes a point when the battle against sexual temptation becomes very intense on the sixth or eighth month. Sadly, instead of standing firm, I give in and commit sexual sin. Each time this happens, I repent sincerely and seek the Lord's forgiveness, but I also find myself wondering how to overcome this recurring struggle.

I know that God is faithful, and I truly desire to walk in purity and honor Him with both my body and my heart. I am not looking to justify my sin, but rather to seek biblical wisdom, encouragement, and practical counsel from fellow believers who may have walked a similar path.

How have you remained steadfast in seasons of prolonged waiting? What Scriptures, disciplines, or godly practices have helped you resist temptation while trusting God's timing for marriage? Does this succumbing to temptation prolongs the time of me meeting that woman?

Thank you, and may the Lord bless you all.

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Will you, after all the struggles and battles with sin, ultimately give in and allow your descendant to fall prey to its temptation?

Fathom said:

Will you, after all the struggles and battles with sin, ultimately give in and allow your descendant to fall prey to its temptation?

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We ALL do & will sin in some way and those who give the 'impression' that they are sinless are delusional & liars.
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If a person today hears, believes & trusts the Gospel they ARE saved & forgiven of ALL their sins.
Gal 1:11-12, 1 Cor 15:1-.4, Eph 1:13, Col 2:13

PeterAndroz said:

We ALL do & will sin in some way and those who give the 'impression' that they are sinless are delusional & liars.
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If a person today hears, believes & trusts the Gospel they ARE saved & forgiven of ALL their sins.
Gal 1:11-12, 1 Cor 15:1-.4, Eph 1:13, Col 2:13

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Matthew 9:13
But go and learn what this means: "I desire mercy, not sacrifice". For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.

Fathom said:

Matthew 9:13
But go and learn what this means: "I desire mercy, not sacrifice". For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.

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What's Matthew got to do with the teachings of Paul for today ?

FredBotswana said:

I am a Christian man who deeply desires to be married someday.

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Yeah I( was the same way as a young and ended up marrying someone I should not have just because I wanted to be married so badly.

Best thing you can do is lay that desire at the Lord's feet because it's very close to midnight now and finding a woman or anybody for that matter that lives according to God's Word is exceedingly hard to find being that we are in an age of lawlessness.

quietthinker said:

Romans 8:1
There is therefore no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus.

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That's not what that verse says. Here's what it actually says

Romans 8:1
There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

If a person rejects the entire passage of 8:1 then they should keep reading Romans 8

Romans 8:13
For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.

Romans 8:6-8
For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.
So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.

The reason so many newer translations leave the second part of Romans 8:1 out is because the enemy tricked them in to believing Christians are still in right standing with the Lord if they walk in sin after the flesh. They are not.

PeterAndroz said:

What's Matthew got to do with the teachings of Paul for today ?

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It's part of New Covenant teaching, the Gospel of the Kingdom that Jesus tells us started being preached when the old covenant teaching stopped being taught

Luke 16:16 (KJV) says, “The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it.”

FredBotswana said:

Brothers and sisters in Christ,

I am a Christian man who deeply desires to be married someday. I have been praying earnestly for God to lead me to the woman He has ordained for me. By His grace, I have been able to remain sexually abstinent for several months at a time—sometimes six months, sometimes even as long as eight months.

However, there comes a point when the battle against sexual temptation becomes very intense on the sixth or eighth month. Sadly, instead of standing firm, I give in and commit sexual sin. Each time this happens, I repent sincerely and seek the Lord's forgiveness, but I also find myself wondering how to overcome this recurring struggle.

I know that God is faithful, and I truly desire to walk in purity and honor Him with both my body and my heart. I am not looking to justify my sin, but rather to seek biblical wisdom, encouragement, and practical counsel from fellow believers who may have walked a similar path.

How have you remained steadfast in seasons of prolonged waiting? What Scriptures, disciplines, or godly practices have helped you resist temptation while trusting God's timing for marriage? Does this succumbing to temptation prolongs the time of me meeting that woman?

Thank you, and may the Lord bless you all.

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My friend by grace i have abstained from sexual relations for now over twenty years .
Do not cave in and keep yourself from being tempted by NOT entertaining those lovely ladies .
DO not put yourself in a position TO be tempted . That is a big key .