GracePeace
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If we are going around constantly being attracted to others clearly there is a problem because that is not "freedom" from self and slavery to righteousness.
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thelord's_pearl
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GracePeace
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Be free from perversion, and enslaved to purity--God despises immorality and will destroy the immoral.
thelord's_pearl
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I guess once you're attracted to someone, you'll have to always run and hide away but
right, there's freedom in purity, but.. are there any?
GracePeace
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If someone is finding themselves attracted, I guess they should get married.
That's the end goal of attraction.
GracePeace
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thelord's_pearl
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Oh I was just saying if there are any 'buts'...
And if you get married and you also find other women/men attractive then you're trapped
GracePeace
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I don't think you really appreciate what Christianity is about.
Christianity teaches victory over self through God's graciousness.
thelord's_pearl
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thelord's_pearl
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no I would say if I'm married I'll always love my husband but I might find other men attractive too
given the situation I will then know what to do
given the situation I will then know what to do
GracePeace
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Christianity teaches there is nothing to "decide" but to be faithful or else you face God's wrath.
Again, God detests immorality and adultery--it makes Him furious.
You need to stop playing games.
thelord's_pearl
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You have just insulted me without intending to. I would not ever commit adultery!!
thelord's_pearl
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GracePeace
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You don't need any more information--you know what to do.
You know fornication (sex with boyfriend) is a sin I'm sure.
You're just playing games.
Taodeching
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We all lust.
Doing things with your husband is in the context of Marriage. Doing things with your boyfriend is fornication which is sin 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Ok...
Pretty women are everywhere... doesn't mean that I want to hear their voice...I don't want to know their names or anything about them. They are so much better that way.
Attractive women are rare. A jewel amongst the crowds. They have some comeliness about themselves but their attitudes and intelligence shine above the rest.
Lust?
Naughty thoughts?
Ok...here's how it works. I am in hopeless love with my wife. And since I'm married any woman, other than my wife, who I might desire would be instantly repulsed by my marital status. And if she isn't, I would be... and all desire for her would go out the door.
So...that puts me in a unique situation where I really don't want anyone but my wife. I lust for her and she for me. And life is simpler and easier that way without unnecessary drama.
But I've seen plenty of people who are train wrecks. You didn't want to see the mangled bodies but can't help but look at the same time. I've seen so many people absolutely destroy homes, careers, and themselves by having an affair. Fantasy never is the same as reality. People have feelings and super secret affairs never work out. Someone always gets their feelings hurt and lash out. And then the carnage begins.
So...if you lust when married...there's something wrong with your relationship with your spouse. It's not about "stopping the lusting" because that never works. It's about loving your spouse more and stop being so self centered.
Pretty women are everywhere... doesn't mean that I want to hear their voice...I don't want to know their names or anything about them. They are so much better that way.
Attractive women are rare. A jewel amongst the crowds. They have some comeliness about themselves but their attitudes and intelligence shine above the rest.
Lust?
Naughty thoughts?
Ok...here's how it works. I am in hopeless love with my wife. And since I'm married any woman, other than my wife, who I might desire would be instantly repulsed by my marital status. And if she isn't, I would be... and all desire for her would go out the door.
So...that puts me in a unique situation where I really don't want anyone but my wife. I lust for her and she for me. And life is simpler and easier that way without unnecessary drama.
But I've seen plenty of people who are train wrecks. You didn't want to see the mangled bodies but can't help but look at the same time. I've seen so many people absolutely destroy homes, careers, and themselves by having an affair. Fantasy never is the same as reality. People have feelings and super secret affairs never work out. Someone always gets their feelings hurt and lash out. And then the carnage begins.
So...if you lust when married...there's something wrong with your relationship with your spouse. It's not about "stopping the lusting" because that never works. It's about loving your spouse more and stop being so self centered.
thelord's_pearl
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I forgot doing sexual things with a boyfriend is fornication and sin. I sincerely forgot; in fact, I'm confused and I'm not playing games. I'm not into sex, my love is more platonic so I think I'd have problems in relationships unless God helps me
thelord's_pearl
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GracePeace
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If you can "forget" the definition of fornication... I don't know what you are thinking about but it needs to be more Biblical.
Of course God helps. That's what Christianity is about--God helping us to be holy and blameless.
thelord's_pearl
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If I had a boyfriend and he's really nice to me, he'll be forever the special #1 out of all men, it's the bond too
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