Biblical Marriage Mashup
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There are a lot of marriages where things have gotten a bit too comfortable over time. The spouses may turn on the charm and dress well for strangers, but they save the worst version of themselves for each other.
Flip this around. Dress well for your spouse at home. Stay fit and healthy for them. Save your kindest behaviour for them.
Flip this around. Dress well for your spouse at home. Stay fit and healthy for them. Save your kindest behaviour for them.
The following quote is bad advice for wives.
The truth is, quotes like this breed entitlement and resentment based on a fantasy romantic standard that may have nothing to do with his desire for you.
When you focus on what you give in a relationship rather than what you can get, you reap what you sow.
The truth is, quotes like this breed entitlement and resentment based on a fantasy romantic standard that may have nothing to do with his desire for you.
When you focus on what you give in a relationship rather than what you can get, you reap what you sow.
I have learned plenty of great things from being married and listening to my husband that I would not have improved on my own.
-The power of consistency
-Keeping to my word
-Contentment with less
-Speaking with conviction
-Discipline is freedom
- No complaining. Its biblical. (Phil 2:14)
I have found that I thrive by adopting certain masculine approaches to reaching goals while still honoring the fact that I am the weaker vessel and don't compete with my husband or men in general.
-The power of consistency
-Keeping to my word
-Contentment with less
-Speaking with conviction
-Discipline is freedom
- No complaining. Its biblical. (Phil 2:14)
I have found that I thrive by adopting certain masculine approaches to reaching goals while still honoring the fact that I am the weaker vessel and don't compete with my husband or men in general.
When Your Husband Is Exhausted
If your husband just wants to go to bed and has no energy but you wish you could enjoy some time together, what can you do? Is there a healthy way to approach him?
peacefulwife.com
When Your Husband is Exhausted by April Cassidy
Let’s say your husband is exhausted after a brutal day at work but you would like to spend time together. It’s 3 hours before his normal bedtime and he says he’s heading to bed.
A Few Questions to Consider
What approaches do you think might be a blessing to him, reminding him how glad he is to be married to you?
And what approaches could you take that would honor the Lord with your attitude and heart?
Which approaches would you appreciate if the situation were reversed?
A Wife’s Options in Response to a Tired Husband
1. She could focus on what she wants without any empathy or concern for him:
What do you mean you’re tired?! I want to spend time with you!!! How could you be so selfish and want to go to bed instead of spending time with me?
Oh, no! You owe me! We didn’t spend time together last night so I don’t care how exhausted you are.
We’re doing what I want to do tonight.
You’re staying up three more hours and you’re going to enjoy it and make me feel loved.
If I’m not happy, you have to do what I say.
It’s your job to make me happy, whatever it takes. I don’t care that you feel like you’ve been hit by a truck.
2. She could say nothing but silently resent him and think bitter or accusatory thoughts in her heart:
If he loved me, he would stay up longer.
It’s ridiculous for him to want to go to bed so early.
This isn’t fair. I want his attention.
I need time to connect and my needs are legitimate.
He needs to sacrifice for me.
I don’t care how he is feeling. What about my feelings?
I want emotional connection.
I want physical intimacy.
I want to cuddle.
I want to feel loved.
Why doesn’t he love me?
Why would he abandon me like this?
3. She could potentially address her needs/feelings a bit while being sensitive to his:
- Maybe I’ll head for bed early, too, and we could cuddle for a few minutes while you fall asleep.
- Would you like a back massage while you drift off to sleep? (Then she may pray over him while rubbing his back.)
- I understand you’re tired. I’m sad that we won’t get to spend time together, but I know you need to rest. It’s okay.
4. She could choose to be selfless, giving, and loving — showing concern for his needs:
- What can I do to help? Is there anything I can take off of your shoulders?
- It’s fine if you need to go to bed. Get some rest. I love you.
- I totally understand. Love you, Babe. I’ll give you some space.
- I’ll keep the kids occupied downstairs so you can sleep.
- Thanks for working so hard to provide for us. Love you. Sweet dreams. (Kiss and hug)
5. She can find other healthy outlets for herself:
- I can get some extra time with God tonight. It will be great!
- I’ll make some extra special time for the kids.
- This would be the perfect time to catch up on calling extended family or friends.
- I could go for a long walk and enjoy the sunset and pray.
- I could bake brownies for the new neighbors and surprise them.
- I could work on finishing a baby blanket for the pregnancy crisis center.
- I’ve been wanting some time to read a new book.
- I could take a relaxing bath in another area of the house and listen to music.
- I could work on that short story I have wanted to finish.
- I could write some emails to extended family or lonely friends.
- I could see if the young wife across the street would like to go for a walk with me.
- I will write my husband a sweet short note for later, telling him how much I appreciate him.
- I’ll add to my gratitude journal.
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Which options sound best to you?Any other suggestions you’d like to share?
Much love!
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Have you crowned your husband? The more richly you crown him the more you will be blessed.
What does the crown look like with which you adorn your husband? Does it look tarnished and strange because many jewels are missing? Or is it filled with precious gems? What are some of the gems that will make your husband proud to wear you as his crown?
Is your crown decorated with diamonds of devotion, dedication, dignity and diligence that will delight his soul?
Have you set in sapphires that will shine and sparkle with a serving, sacrificial and submissive spirit? Are you sweet to him? Are you a strength and support to his vision and goals in life? Are you sensitive to his needs? Are you steadfast in your loyalty and commitment to your marriage?
Have you positioned pearls in your crown – pearls of patience, peace, perseverance and prayer for your husband?
Oh don’t forget the rubies, the rarest of all gems. Is your crown radiating with rubies of reverence and respect for your husband?
Is your crown ornamented with opals of openness, obedience, overflowing love and the oil of joy?
Don’t forget the emeralds that emanate esteem, earnest commitment, encouragement and endurance.
Adorn your crown with amethysts of admiration, affection, affirmation, approval, appreciation and attentiveness.
Just a minute! You can’t forget the crowning jewel of all – contentment! This jewel adds luster to your crown. This jewel releases your husband from bondage and pressure. Sadly, it is often a missing jewel. It’s easy to be content when you have everything you want. But can you learn to be content when you don’t have everything you want? Can you be content with what your husband provides for you? I am always challenged by Psalm 128:3 TLB where it talks about the "contented" wife in the home.
"If I do all this, he’ll walk all over me," you say. "He’ll become proud and he’s already got a big enough head!" It doesn’t work that way, dear one. When you forget about yourself and seek to bless and serve your husband, you not only crown him with dignity and honor, but you truly become his crown. You won’t be subservient. You’ll be worn on his head as his most treasured possession.
Why not start adding precious jewels to your crown today?
Full Article from aboverubies.org
Have you crowned your husband? The more richly you crown him the more you will be blessed.
What does the crown look like with which you adorn your husband? Does it look tarnished and strange because many jewels are missing? Or is it filled with precious gems? What are some of the gems that will make your husband proud to wear you as his crown?
Is your crown decorated with diamonds of devotion, dedication, dignity and diligence that will delight his soul?
Have you set in sapphires that will shine and sparkle with a serving, sacrificial and submissive spirit? Are you sweet to him? Are you a strength and support to his vision and goals in life? Are you sensitive to his needs? Are you steadfast in your loyalty and commitment to your marriage?
Have you positioned pearls in your crown – pearls of patience, peace, perseverance and prayer for your husband?
Oh don’t forget the rubies, the rarest of all gems. Is your crown radiating with rubies of reverence and respect for your husband?
Is your crown ornamented with opals of openness, obedience, overflowing love and the oil of joy?
Don’t forget the emeralds that emanate esteem, earnest commitment, encouragement and endurance.
Adorn your crown with amethysts of admiration, affection, affirmation, approval, appreciation and attentiveness.
Just a minute! You can’t forget the crowning jewel of all – contentment! This jewel adds luster to your crown. This jewel releases your husband from bondage and pressure. Sadly, it is often a missing jewel. It’s easy to be content when you have everything you want. But can you learn to be content when you don’t have everything you want? Can you be content with what your husband provides for you? I am always challenged by Psalm 128:3 TLB where it talks about the "contented" wife in the home.
"If I do all this, he’ll walk all over me," you say. "He’ll become proud and he’s already got a big enough head!" It doesn’t work that way, dear one. When you forget about yourself and seek to bless and serve your husband, you not only crown him with dignity and honor, but you truly become his crown. You won’t be subservient. You’ll be worn on his head as his most treasured possession.
Why not start adding precious jewels to your crown today?
NANCY CAMPBELL"
Full Article from aboverubies.org
"In Ephesians 5, it states clearly that the husband is the head of the wife. Is this to make her miserable, to tie her down, or to deny her getting her own way? No! God designed and created man to have this authority. Therefore, when we obey our husbands we allow them to fulfill this part of their lives. We complete them. It’s a perfect fit. Not only are our husbands blessed, but they are then whole enough as men to turn around and cherish us.
His touch is tender when he realizes I won’t dispute his leadership."
---Pearl Barrett Why Not Submit? aboverubies.org
His touch is tender when he realizes I won’t dispute his leadership."
---Pearl Barrett Why Not Submit? aboverubies.org
The title to this list should read: - "How can a foolish woman destroy her home with her hands." What is presented is jarring.
A good and supportive wife that argues with her husband in disagreements but remains considerate is a priceless gem.
I've been studying what the Bible teaches about women. I'm shocked and distressed. Distressed because what I'm finding is not taught in churches today. We're taught a quasi feminist agenda. In doing so, we are severely hampering women's sanctification. Too many will be shocked to hear the words "I never knew you!" Being known by Jesus is intricately connected to obeying him, not by deciding what you want to obey. The effect of the Fall in Eden was far greater on the woman than on the man. Read God's judgment to see the disparity—more harsh toward Eve than toward Adam. Women today continue to be deceived by Satan into thinking they can be like God and reject their higher status—living the blessed role for which Jesus created them, with fullness of joy.
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Marriage in this world has long deviated from God's original intention.
I got this in my email this morning.
"A stronger foundation is built when a wife shifts her focus away from what she can extract from marriage and toward what she can faithfully bring into it. That shift changes everything. It softens her spirit. It steadies her emotions. It teaches her to stop keeping score. It frees her from the exhausting habit of watching her husband to see whether he is measuring up, and instead leads her into the much more fruitful question: how can I support him well, serve him faithfully, and help build a home where he feels respected, strengthened, and at peace?
This is not weakness. It is not passivity. It is not the erasure of womanhood. It is the beginning of maturity."
From How To Be a Submissive Wife on Substack
"A stronger foundation is built when a wife shifts her focus away from what she can extract from marriage and toward what she can faithfully bring into it. That shift changes everything. It softens her spirit. It steadies her emotions. It teaches her to stop keeping score. It frees her from the exhausting habit of watching her husband to see whether he is measuring up, and instead leads her into the much more fruitful question: how can I support him well, serve him faithfully, and help build a home where he feels respected, strengthened, and at peace?
This is not weakness. It is not passivity. It is not the erasure of womanhood. It is the beginning of maturity."
From How To Be a Submissive Wife on Substack
