Need advices here :/

[jabezx5d]

I'm a 19 years old Christian teenager and having some difficulties in my teenager life ..

How can I resist my bad habit ? I'm currently struggling with this situation because I am easily tempted with this pornographic stuff
I am surrounded with Christian people since I was born because my late father is a Church Minister . We are five children in our family and i'm the youngest ..Since i was a young boy, I'm already struggling with this situation. it feels like there is something parasite living in my flesh ..There Is a lot of thing I want to do just to serve God but my problem is always haunting me ..I am very ashamed In the front of God right now ..

I'm praying to God that He will remove this virus in my flesh and He will also grant my ambition to become a Church a musician ..

I need advices here :/

sorry for my poor english grammar

 

[justaname]

Perhaps you could substitute your bad habit with some good musical ones. As you feel the temptation pressing you, move to your instrument of chiose...

You are going through a difficult period in life as you are growing into maturity. Try to make wise decisions and remove those things that lead you into temptation. Know that God loves you and is on your side in this. Every time there is temptation there is a way out. Resist the devil and he will leave you.

Also the direction of your thought life will effect your actions. Focus on heavenly things, holy wholesome things, to purify your thoughts. As you tend to focus more on these things your mind has less time to wander and think impurely.

Finally know you are not alone in this. There are many others that have this same difficulty. Take things one day at a time, one hour at a time if need be. If pressed to breaking try leaving the room, and go spend time with other people.

 

[jabezx5d]

thank you so much for your advice brother ..your advice opened my mind ..i want to play music like drumming but I don't have any equipments coz we don't have enough money to buy for it ..
i want myself busy of doing good things that can make our Lord happy of what I'm doing so that the bad habits in me will replaced by good habits ..

by the way thank you so much for your advice and God Bless you

 

[justaname]

I have seen drummers practice with just sticks! Sometimes they drum on pillows, garbage cans, pots, and other things. Getting a pair of drum sticks might be a great start though!

 

[jabezx5d]

I'll try it using my pillow

thanks bro

 

[7angels]

i have been where you are with pornography. it seems like an impossible situation to get out of. every time you try to stop it works for a short amount of time and then the desire seems to come back stronger each time. the reason for this is because the high that comes with porno is similar to the high our brain gets on when we use drugs. our brain becomes addicted to porn and thus we will get withdrawals by staying away from porn just as you will get withdrawals if you stop taking crack. it takes about 3 years for us to retrain ourselves to stop something once it has been started in our lives without a supernatural intervention on God's part. it took me about 6 months to conquer my problem because i kept falling back into it time and time again. but i did notice that as time passed i did not fall back into it as much and eventually i did not fall into porno any more because i had no real desire for it anymore. now the temptation never went away but now that i have the desire conquered i not longer need to worry. just remember to ask God to give you the strength to resist and break the power porno has upon you so that it will be easier to break the habit of porno and not have to wait 3 years for a result. also remember that everytime you miss it that you claim 1 john 1:9 and know that if you ask God for forgiveness that God will give it and once God forgives us God forgets our sin according to scripture. so do not be lead by your emotions but be lead by what the Word says. emotions can work for or against us depending upon the situation. many time our emotions will make us question ourselves concerning our situation but if you refuse to consider what your emotions are telling and stick to God's word then you are walking by faith. i am sorry if i am not communicating my point very well but if you have questions just feel free to ask.

God bless

 

[jabezx5d]

I want to resist that bad habit by getting busy with other things ..but my body is getting used to it ..something like my body needs to be fed everyday ..

last week, we had an event called "72 hour Non stop Worship, Warfare and intercession" ..I play drums in our Worship team and I'm always praying at those times that God will use me so that my bad habit cannot take me again ..but when I got home, the temptation is so strong and I'm the only one left in our house and then,

I did the bad habit again with full of regrets ..I don't know if God will forgive anymore ..I really confused with myself and thinking that I am so stupid person


actually, I'm an intermediate level drummer but I can only play drums on other church where my Married brother belongs ..I belong to my late father's and we are just a simple people here ..I'm asking you guys help me in prayers that God will provide of what my heart's desire that there will be a big blessing for me so that we can create our own Worship Team in our Church and I can also resists the evil things that is haunting me ..

 

[7angels]

as long as you feel regret at what you have done then rest assured that God will still forgive you. the time you need to worry is when you are no longer filled with regret for what you have done because that means you have grown so hard hearted that you no longer can feel God's conviction. this happens when you quit repenting of your wrong doings and when this happens you will start to ignore those regret feelings and after a short time you will no longer get those regretful feelings because you can no longer hear the Holy Spirit convicting you.

i know you can conquer your temptations if you just put your trust in God. i will be praying for you.

God bless

 

[jabezx5d]

thanks a lot brother

 

[JB_Reformed Baptist]

I want to resist that bad habit by getting busy with other things ..but my body is getting used to it ..something like my body needs to be fed everyday ..

last week, we had an event called "72 hour Non stop Worship, Warfare and intercession" ..I play drums in our Worship team and I'm always praying at those times that God will use me so that my bad habit cannot take me again ..but when I got home, the temptation is so strong and I'm the only one left in our house and then,

I did the bad habit again with full of regrets ..I don't know if God will forgive anymore ..I really confused with myself and thinking that I am so stupid person


actually, I'm an intermediate level drummer but I can only play drums on other church where my Married brother belongs ..I belong to my late father's and we are just a simple people here ..I'm asking you guys help me in prayers that God will provide of what my heart's desire that there will be a big blessing for me so that we can create our own Worship Team in our Church and I can also resists the evil things that is haunting me ..

If you're the Lord's he has promised he will never leave thee nor forsake thee. 1John 1:9 if we confess our sins... . Often we are allowed to experience failure until we have been convinced of our own inability to change and cry from a heart of desperation for the Lord to strengthen us according to his deliverance of us from the POWER of sin.

Keep in mind and study Heb 12:4 Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin. Your strife against sin has not entailed the shedding of your blood, as did that of many of the O.T. worthies, and of Jesus himself.

 

[aspen]

hormones are tough to deal with when you are young - recognize that trials are given with lots of grace.

 

[101G]

2 jabezx5d
the first step is the correct one, you acknowledge your problem.
but you are making a small mistake by trying to resist that bad habit on your own. your own efforts can't do it. sin is in the body, but the power to resist the sin is in YOUR OWN HEAD. the power of God. 7angels was correct, change your mind, and it will change your body. the only way to beat any habit is to replace it with something equal in effect. and time is the factor. if you don't give your habit time, it want exist. because right now you're making time for your habit, you're neglecting something else for your habit. changing your mind, will change your surrounding, and surrounding have effect on people. the harder you resist, greater the temptation becomes. as 7angels said it will take time. so start with little thing to take time away from your habit. interact with friends more. do other things. and eventually you will forget the habit. but it takes time.

P.S. pray a little more that you do now, I know, because I was 19 once. (smile). but I know you will overcome, you seem like an overcomer. OK.

be blessed.

 

[penguy83]

Hey bud. If you'd like to chat with someone who knows EXACTLY what you're going through, I'm here.

 

[jabezx5d]

thank you so much for the advices