Prayer for a marriage thats in trouble.

[johnmcma]

Recently my wife and I started having problems in our relationship. Without going into great detail I strayed and went out and broke our wedding vows. I Know how God feels about adultery and what the bible says about it. I was wong to do what I did and know have to live with it. My wife has found out and left me. The one good thing that has come out of this is that I have been forced to take a new look at my life. I have been living a life that is far from what god wants from us. I grew up the son of a preacher and I have been running from God for years. Now when I was at the end of my rope I turned to him, and see what I need to do to make things right with him. I also feel like God can use this to rebuild my family. I aks for your prayers that Gods will be done, and that I can maintain my re-newed walk with God even if his will is not what I want to hear. Thank you

 

[TrinityInMyHeart]

I will pray for your renewed relationship with God. I will also pray for your marriage situation. ray4:

 

[w0r5h1p]

I will be praying for you ray3:

 

[topcat23]

Hi John, I have been exactly where you are now, and because of that my heart goes out for you, even though what you did was very serious and put you at risk in so many different ways, and I'm sure you realize that now. Sometimes we need to be at our lowest and alone in order to find God again, I'm sure that doesn't make him feel the best that we seem to only go to him when we are in trouble, but inspite of ourselves, he's still there with his loving care for us and welcomes us back into the flock, amazing that he has that kind of love for all of us. I will pray that God's will is done in yours and your families lives, hang in there my friend, there is calm after the storm, this from someone who's gone done the very same path.May God bless you and your's and keep you all safe and in his care.Topcat

 

[Franklin]

If you want your wife back, you better be a very patient and humble man. You have injured her in ways you can not even imagine. I am praying for you brother, and I know your heart is aching. If you have children all I can say is "God help them, and protect them" Find a good church man, find a one with a loving and wise pastor, confide in him, and ask for some men to keep you accountable... Write all the steps you have and are taking in the form of a letter and send it to your wife... Let her know, come what may - you are and will be a decent and better man

 

[His By Grace]

Great advice; especially from Franklin. Coming from a woman's perspective, I know that the Lord's desire is for our homes to stay together if at all possible. We made a covenant and should honor our commitments. We make it too easy these days to get out of marriage because it becomes a hassle or we see greener pastures, or so we think! But, I can only imagine how hurt your wife must feel. I have been in a situation where my husband had a similar experience and I was very hurt. I did have to own up to my share of the guilt through counseling. Of course, we sought Christian couseling and it was still difficult to get the right help. I have mainly come back to my relationship to honor the Lord and to raise my children according to what the Lord says. I do struggle a lot with our compatability because he does not seem to take his walk with the Lord very seriously, but I must be an example of Godliness to Him and expect the Lord to do what I have asked him to do. When you are being faithful to His Word, you can expect Him to answer you in a positive way. It may not be exactly like you planned it, but the answer will come. Be patient,be kind, and let the Lord mold you into the husband He needs you to be for your wife. If it's a genuine change, she can't help but see it. She will of course be gun-shy. I was! But I kept feeling like the Holy Spirit was telling me to be obedient and He would honor my faithfulness.I know I'm not saved by my works, but by grace through faith (Eph. 2:8,9), but I work because I'm saved and I'm rewarded by my works. Just keep those things in mind." Wood, hay, and stubble will all burn up in the fire, but to love the Lord with all your heart should be your one desire." (Keith Green lyrics-Unless the Lord Builds the House)

 

[mike68]

I pray that you both get energy to solve your problems and get a new start, so that you can continuing to stay married.

 

[lala]

I will continue to pray with you, I would also like to congratulate you in this new life of Christianity that you have chosen, always bring whatever you have on you plate to God, the good the bad and the ugly. He never leaves nor forsakes us, and always comes through ...God is the best friend...and may he continue to bless you!!!

 

[Inhishands]

Lord I come to you this day to lift up johnmcma and his family up to you. Lord I ask in the name of Jesus to restore his marriage and his love for you that it will be stronger that it has every been. Help his family to see his love for you and if it your will to get them back together let it be done.I ask you to help them fine a church to got to if they don't go. And to put you first and you will help them with all their needs.Thanks you Lord.

 

[haanne]

Starting with God first is the best place to start.At the end of the day he is the one who forgives our sins and it is him we are accountable to.Take a look at David and his life. Let your wife be angry as long as she needs to. Her heart is broken. If she allows God , he will mend it for her. Unfortunately it wont be you. Im sure she feels nothing you say or do will make it right . Keep praying . Look for your comfort in the word and IM praying for you and your wife.

 

[haanne]

p.s great advice by his grace!

 

[His By Grace]

Thanks, haanne. Still praying!!! Keep us posted!

 

[Inhishands]

(haanne;37229)
Starting with God first is the best place to start.At the end of the day he is the one who forgives our sins and it is him we are accountable to.Take a look at David and his life. Let your wife be angry as long as she needs to. Her heart is broken. If she allows God , he will mend it for her. Unfortunately it wont be you. Im sure she feels nothing you say or do will make it right . Keep praying . Look for your comfort in the word and IM praying for you and your wife.
Amen!!!

 

[tim_from_pa]

Whew! Another marriage on the rocks. I always hate to hear stuff like this in this day and age especially. The news is about as bad as hearing someone getting cancer. Much like God, I hate divorce with a passion. Want to know His will? If both you and your wife are serious about God, it's that you stay together, especially in light of the fact that you learned your lesson. If you are willing to repent, if she leaves, the fault is really with her, and make sure its not her excuse to get someone else just as you have been doing.HOWEVER, that being said, I am not insensitive to the plights of people, either. For starters, are you really repentant? Has this been going on and on and on? Maybe she feels you will not change. This is something to take into consideration. In another sense, if you had anything to offer the relationship to begin with, she would probably stick it out. I generally find women very forgiving of the men they love. If she does not want to stick it out, then maybe you were borderline to begin with and this pushed her over the edge, or again, maybe she loved you so much she was seriously hurt. I do not know the situation, but you do.It's time for a serious pow-wow and game plan. Again, if you are truly repentant, then she does have an obligation to stick with you. But you have to make good on that promise.My grandparents had similar troubles when my serviceman grandfather used to shack up with women while on duty, and it almost split them up. But my grandparents worked it out, and he changed. I only have fond, Christian memories of my grandfather. Yes, he was weak at some times, but he decided to stay with my grandmother, and she forgave him. It CAN work.

 

[His By Grace]

I think forgiveness is one of the big messages of the Bible. It is one of the main "marks" of a Christian. There may even be a reason you had an affair. Think about why it happened. Are you holding on to a form of bitterness or expectation of your wife that she cannot fulfill? I've been listening to a great Scotish preacher on Biblical marriage- Alister Begg(forgive me if I have misspelled it because I'm not quite sure about that). Anway, he reiterates how we truly don't mean what we say in our vows. At our ceremonies, everything is dreamy and romantic, but 10 years down the road when our husbands go off and do what they want, or end up physically handicapped, or not as attractive, will we remember "for better,for worse, for rich,or for poor, in sickness, and in health, so help me God?" That's where the rubber meets the road, so to speak. When the wife doesn't keep the house as clean as she should, fails to cook as much, or doesn't look the way she used to, will the vows still be honored? Do we love the soul and spirit or just the physical body? This has all been food for thought for me. Do I love the part of eternity more and care about the part that God cares about more?Seeing through Christ's eyes is so challening, but so neat to try. It makes for a peaceful, transforming home. I see it already. Satan is on the rampage to destroy as many homes as possible. Let's stop him through the magnificent love of Jesus. Commit His words to memory so you will have your sword in times of temptation.

 

[lilithb]

I am sorry that all this has happen to your wife and you. I am praying for you both.