Where does the limit go for sexual inmoralety? Can I touch the girl? Where can I touch? Can I kiss the girl? Can I be sensual (Im very romantic guy that love girls) But is this wrong? Can we make out or is that too much? Please share scriptures and thoughts on this, as I would like to be in a relationship, yet please God. Thank you!
Sexualety, Sensualety, Christianety (Where does the limit go?)
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Matt 5:28 "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."
Unless you're shaking her hand, or helping her get down off an amusement park ride, or something I wouldn't touch. She may have something on her that needs to be brush off. I'd be timid with that one. 1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
I sure wouldn't kiss her. We're supposed to have sex glands in our lips so that'll start a fire going. You don't want that. Paul said "But put on The Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts thereof.(Romans 13:14) This flesh is a nasty thing and what the Bible is saying is don't set your flesh up.
I'm not sure what making out is. I'm in sort of a courting stage also waiting on my wife to be revealed to me. God bless you Haaky
I sure wouldn't kiss her. We're supposed to have sex glands in our lips so that'll start a fire going. You don't want that. Paul said "But put on The Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts thereof.(Romans 13:14) This flesh is a nasty thing and what the Bible is saying is don't set your flesh up.
I'm not sure what making out is. I'm in sort of a courting stage also waiting on my wife to be revealed to me. God bless you Haaky
This basically means I can't do anything lol. What girl is going to stay with a man that doesnt even want to touch her?
This is really confusing. I touched my last girlfriend all the time and not to my suprise, it failed. By these standards I would have to make a girl love me enough without any lust being involved at all. And having a girlfriend my mind would fire off just looking at her. Im 22 years old, my testosteron is over the roof, I literally see temptation awerywhere. I am glad God is forgiving, cuz this is going to be HARD. Thanks the the advice!
This is really confusing. I touched my last girlfriend all the time and not to my suprise, it failed. By these standards I would have to make a girl love me enough without any lust being involved at all. And having a girlfriend my mind would fire off just looking at her. Im 22 years old, my testosteron is over the roof, I literally see temptation awerywhere. I am glad God is forgiving, cuz this is going to be HARD. Thanks the the advice!
If you're looking for a Christian girl as a future wife, you need to go hard out for God. There is nothing more appealing than a man who is hard out for God...You need to treat women like they are your sisters and when you find that special girl you would like to spend the rest of your life with. You need to treat her with respect. Touching or desiring to make out with a girl due to testosterone overload is not being respectful. It comes across creepy and kinda gross... :unsure:
PS: I hope this helps... :)
PS: I hope this helps... :)
Thanks for all the good replies, read an article about why waiting was a good thing and I was blown away by it. Now I have more motivation to do it. I believe God gave rules for a reason. To help us. Im at the point of thinking even being forever single would be awesome. God Bless.
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Haaky,
I've thought about what you've said and your delemna... You are 22 years old. right? Been having thoughts about women and the gardens they have? Hey, join the crowd! You've been thinking of them since age 13, huh?
My best advice is tough to handle.... But here it goes.... Trust in grace through faith to cover any sins you have or have thought about. Do you think you have a wild idea or fantasy that any other man hasn't had? I'm 44. Maybe 45.... Lost count. But I got 20 or more years on you! I'm much more experienced in thinking of ways to sin than you are!
Dude, be a gentleman. Stick to your boundries. Consider a woman for her inward beauty and not her outward appearance. If she has both, great!
I gotta say this.... You asked where you could touch her.... You can touch her anywhere that her father, uncle and bigger brothers and cousins aren't around! If them folks are in the area, don't touch her!
I don't know you from spit, but a guy that is this concerned about his mortal soul probably is a good candidate to be an upright fella. Now, read 1 Cor 7.... The whole chapter. Realize that Paul was giving his own opinion on things and noting that it was not coming from God. BUT, Paul being a pretty good guy.... I'd listen to him even when his opinions arn't divinely inspired.
BUT.... If you find a girl and you cannot contain yourself.... Don't beat yourself up over it. It just means you may have lost the opportunity to give your wife a special gift. Or.... Maybe that is the wife?
I've thought about what you've said and your delemna... You are 22 years old. right? Been having thoughts about women and the gardens they have? Hey, join the crowd! You've been thinking of them since age 13, huh?
My best advice is tough to handle.... But here it goes.... Trust in grace through faith to cover any sins you have or have thought about. Do you think you have a wild idea or fantasy that any other man hasn't had? I'm 44. Maybe 45.... Lost count. But I got 20 or more years on you! I'm much more experienced in thinking of ways to sin than you are!
Dude, be a gentleman. Stick to your boundries. Consider a woman for her inward beauty and not her outward appearance. If she has both, great!
I gotta say this.... You asked where you could touch her.... You can touch her anywhere that her father, uncle and bigger brothers and cousins aren't around! If them folks are in the area, don't touch her!
I don't know you from spit, but a guy that is this concerned about his mortal soul probably is a good candidate to be an upright fella. Now, read 1 Cor 7.... The whole chapter. Realize that Paul was giving his own opinion on things and noting that it was not coming from God. BUT, Paul being a pretty good guy.... I'd listen to him even when his opinions arn't divinely inspired.
BUT.... If you find a girl and you cannot contain yourself.... Don't beat yourself up over it. It just means you may have lost the opportunity to give your wife a special gift. Or.... Maybe that is the wife?
aspen
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honestly, i hate this type of question and usually ignore it. i was married to a lesbian for 20 years and i trusted everyone around me to wait for sex until i was married. after i waited for three years-we were in college - i discovered that my new wife was not able to be intimate with a man. unfortunately, we tried to make it work for the next few decades. let me tell you now, you cannot fix gay - believe me. if i could do it over, i would have figured it out before marriage
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