@St. SteVen, why do you use such a negative word "extortion" for the consequence of refusing the free gift of salvation. Who nowadays "threatens" such a consequence for such refusal? Why are you so angry at the "church"? How has the "church" hurt you? Please answer one or all my questions.
In my experiences with more than 15 churches, I have never heard such a "threat." I submit that you have set up a false problem that will only generate conflict. What are you really asking? Is it that the church become more sensitive? That the church water down the truth? It is made up of fallible, broken people. Should we expect anything else than imperfection?
Sure, a couple of those churches that I served hurt me deeply, but I look forward to the final judgment, when they will answer for it. I suggest that you might do the same and forgive them, as I have. Just a suggestion.