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Mar 10:1 And having risen from there, He comes to the coasts of Judea, through the other side of the Jordan, and again multitudes come together to Him, and as He had been accustomed, again He was teaching them.

Having risen from where He and the disciples were, having talk to his disciples about who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven, as well as talking about Gehenna and to cut things off that hinder ones relationship with God, He and the disciples come to the coasts of Judea.

The province of Judea, as distinguished from Galilee and Samaria, included the territories of the tribes of Judah, Benjamin, Dan, Simeon, and part of Ephraim. Under the Romans it was a part of the province of Syria, and was governed by a procurator.

Jesus and his disciples travel through Judea, through the other side of the Jordan, and again multitudes come together to Him, and as He had been accustomed, again He was teaching them.

Jesus had traveled many times through Jordan, and many multitude of peoples of that land traveled with him, he had become accustomed, and again he would start teaching them, in parables, and probably also from the Old Testament scriptures which they had available in that day in age.

Mar 10:2 And the Pharisees, having come near, questioned Him, if it is lawful for a husband to put away a wife, tempting Him,

And the Pharisees (Phar'isees. A religious party or school among the Jews at the time of Christ, so called from perishin, the Aramaic form of the Hebrew word, perushim, "separated". The chief sects among the Jews were the Pharisees, the Sadducees and the Essenes, who may be described respectively as the Formalists, the Freethinkers and the Puritans.) There was also the scribes and they were very skillful in the Law of Moses in which they held higher than God himself to some degree. Jesus was also coming across these Jewish people, and was also was against them at every step due to their neglect of not only God being far from their hearts, but also towards others.

The Pharisees having come near, started to question Jesus, if it was lawful for a husband to put away a wife, tempting Him.

This also happened in the account of Matthew,

Mat 19:3 And the Pharisees came near to Him, tempting Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?”

The Pharisees are always trying to catch Jesus in a lie, in so that they would be able to kill him as they were jealous and envious of Him.

Mar 10:3 and He answering said to them, “What did Moses command you?”

In response Jesus spoke saying "What did Moses command you?"

Mar 10:4 And they said, “Moses permitted to write a bill of divorce, and to put away.”

The Pharisees knew very well what was written to them and it is founded in Deuteronomy 24:

Deu 24:1 “When a man takes a wife and has married her, and it has been, if she does not find grace in his eyes (for he has found nakedness in her of anything), then he has written a writing of divorce for her, and given [it] into her hand, and sent her out of his house;
Deu 24:2 when she has gone out of his house, and has gone and been another man’s,
Deu 24:3 and the latter man has hated her, and written a writing of divorce for her, and given [it] into her hand, and sent her out of his house, or when the latter man dies, who has taken her to himself for a wife,
Deu 24:4 her former husband who sent her away is not able to return to take her to be to him for a wife, after that she has become defiled; for it [is] an abomination before YHWH, and you do not cause the land to sin which your God YHWH is giving to you [for] an inheritance.

A quote from John Darby
and (chap. 24) a more serious thing, divorce, and everything relative to it; delicacy towards the poor, the hire of labourers, the gleaning for the poor. The spirit of all these ordinances is very instructive, and the goodness and the tenderness of God, who deigns to take knowledge of all these things, and to teach His people delicacy, propriety, consideration for others, sensitiveness, and those feelings which, by removing brutality, and softening the hardness of the heart of man, fashion his ways according to that love with which the Spirit of God clothes Himself when He acts in the heart of man. Here, it is true, everything is imperfect. There are things taken for granted here, which form the basis of these ordinances, which the full operation of the Spirit of Christ would entirely take away; divorce, for instance, and other things endured; owing their existence to the hardness of man's heart. But the limitations and conditions, assigned by the law of God, keep in check the wickedness of that will which hardens itself, while it oppresses others.


Mar 10:5 And Jesus answering said to them, “For the stiffness of your heart he wrote you this command,

Jesus said back answered saying to them, For the stiffness of your heart he wrote you this command,

As the commentary eluded to the divorcement of another was a cause of a stiff heart, to be opposed to the needs of another, in which has now caused separation from having love toward the other, in which may or may not have been the case of why they may have been married.

Considering that Jesus is the one whom we come to in faith, and innately become - in Jesus Christ by the Spirit of Christ dwelling with-in and the Holy Spirit which proceeds and comes from the Father in Heaven, by trusting in the written accounts, one can become harden in their heart toward Christ and divorce the Spirit.

Marriage itself is something that I hear that 50% of the time people end up getting divorces in the court systems, maybe due to complications in the marriage and thus divorces through the worldly system are given. However God looks at Marriage as a coming together of Man and women, just as one become married to Jesus - as persay 'being part of the bride of Christ back in that day in age' and it is for now today too because we become one in Christ through Faith in the death, burial, and resurrection.

God is okay with people married, but what he hates is the divorcing, however the sin of all of us has been paid for, and knowing these truths can help from avoiding another divorce in the future if one decides to become married. Because it is something that is special, and the Man and the Woman are suppose to support one another, and that can be successful if they both look towards God, who has allowed them joined together in the first place however it is not always like as one be it man or woman can find fault in their husband and that can be due to a myriad of Circumstances.

Mar 10:6 but from the beginning of the creation, God made them a male and a female;

Gen 1:27 And God prepareth the man in His image; in the image of God He prepared him, a male and a female He prepared them.
Gen 5:2 a male and a female He hath prepared them, and He blesseth them, and calleth their name Man, in the day of their being prepared.

Earlier in Deu 24:4 her former husband who sent her away is not able to return to take her to be to him for a wife, after that she has become defiled; for it [is] an abomination before YHWH, and you do not cause the land to sin which your God YHWH is giving to you [for] an inheritance.

God was given them a land of inheritance - this inheritance now today is the inheritance of the Holy Spirt and the spirit of Christ that lives with-in us. Those who are married, are united, when they come together joining no longer being two flesh; but one flesh in the ceremony of marriage with is - sex. As God created Man and Female - and when they are united that is what is considered Marriage in Gods Eyes, it is not what the world - instates ordained by a priest in a church somewhere. God himself considers marriage when two become one.
 

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Let us look more into the word itself - Adultery.

This is from Websters Dictionary:
Adultery

ADUL'TERY, n. [L. adulterium. See Adulterate.]

1. Violation of the marriage bed; a crime, or a civil injury, which introduces, or may introduce, into a family, a spurious offspring.
By the laws of Connecticut, the sexual intercourse of any man, with a married woman, is the crime of adultery in both: such intercourse of a married man, with an unmarried woman, is fornication in both, and adultery of the man, within the meaning of the law respecting divorce; but not a felonious adultery in either, or the crime of adultery at common law, or by statute. This latter offense is, in England, proceeded with only in the ecclesiastical courts.

In common usage, adultery means the unfaithfulness of any married person to the marriage bed. In England, Parliament grant absolute divorces for infidelity to the marriage bed in either party; and the spiritual courts divorce a mensa et thoro.

2. In a scriptural sense, all manner of lewdness or unchastity, as in the seventh commandment.

3. In scripture, idolatry, or apostasy from the true God. Jer 3.

4. In old laws, the fine and penalty imposed for the offense of adultery.

5. In ecclesiastical affairs, the intrusion of a person into a bishopric, during the life of the bishop.

6. Among ancient naturalists, the grafting of trees was called adultery, being considered as an unnatural union.
 

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Mar 10:1 And having risen from there, He comes to the coasts of Judea, through the other side of the Jordan, and again multitudes come together to Him, and as He had been accustomed, again He was teaching them.

Having risen from where He and the disciples were, having talk to his disciples about who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven, as well as talking about Gehenna and to cut things off that hinder ones relationship with God, He and the disciples come to the coasts of Judea.

The province of Judea, as distinguished from Galilee and Samaria, included the territories of the tribes of Judah, Benjamin, Dan, Simeon, and part of Ephraim. Under the Romans it was a part of the province of Syria, and was governed by a procurator.

Jesus and his disciples travel through Judea, through the other side of the Jordan, and again multitudes come together to Him, and as He had been accustomed, again He was teaching them.

Jesus had traveled many times through Jordan, and many multitude of peoples of that land traveled with him, he had become accustomed, and again he would start teaching them, in parables, and probably also from the Old Testament scriptures which they had available in that day in age.

Mar 10:2 And the Pharisees, having come near, questioned Him, if it is lawful for a husband to put away a wife, tempting Him,

And the Pharisees (Phar'isees. A religious party or school among the Jews at the time of Christ, so called from perishin, the Aramaic form of the Hebrew word, perushim, "separated". The chief sects among the Jews were the Pharisees, the Sadducees and the Essenes, who may be described respectively as the Formalists, the Freethinkers and the Puritans.) There was also the scribes and they were very skillful in the Law of Moses in which they held higher than God himself to some degree. Jesus was also coming across these Jewish people, and was also was against them at every step due to their neglect of not only God being far from their hearts, but also towards others.

The Pharisees having come near, started to question Jesus, if it was lawful for a husband to put away a wife, tempting Him.

This also happened in the account of Matthew,

Mat 19:3 And the Pharisees came near to Him, tempting Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?”

The Pharisees are always trying to catch Jesus in a lie, in so that they would be able to kill him as they were jealous and envious of Him.

Mar 10:3 and He answering said to them, “What did Moses command you?”

In response Jesus spoke saying "What did Moses command you?"

Mar 10:4 And they said, “Moses permitted to write a bill of divorce, and to put away.”

The Pharisees knew very well what was written to them and it is founded in Deuteronomy 24:

Deu 24:1 “When a man takes a wife and has married her, and it has been, if she does not find grace in his eyes (for he has found nakedness in her of anything), then he has written a writing of divorce for her, and given [it] into her hand, and sent her out of his house;
Deu 24:2 when she has gone out of his house, and has gone and been another man’s,
Deu 24:3 and the latter man has hated her, and written a writing of divorce for her, and given [it] into her hand, and sent her out of his house, or when the latter man dies, who has taken her to himself for a wife,
Deu 24:4 her former husband who sent her away is not able to return to take her to be to him for a wife, after that she has become defiled; for it [is] an abomination before YHWH, and you do not cause the land to sin which your God YHWH is giving to you [for] an inheritance.

A quote from John Darby
and (chap. 24) a more serious thing, divorce, and everything relative to it; delicacy towards the poor, the hire of labourers, the gleaning for the poor. The spirit of all these ordinances is very instructive, and the goodness and the tenderness of God, who deigns to take knowledge of all these things, and to teach His people delicacy, propriety, consideration for others, sensitiveness, and those feelings which, by removing brutality, and softening the hardness of the heart of man, fashion his ways according to that love with which the Spirit of God clothes Himself when He acts in the heart of man. Here, it is true, everything is imperfect. There are things taken for granted here, which form the basis of these ordinances, which the full operation of the Spirit of Christ would entirely take away; divorce, for instance, and other things endured; owing their existence to the hardness of man's heart. But the limitations and conditions, assigned by the law of God, keep in check the wickedness of that will which hardens itself, while it oppresses others.


Mar 10:5 And Jesus answering said to them, “For the stiffness of your heart he wrote you this command,

Jesus said back answered saying to them, For the stiffness of your heart he wrote you this command,

As the commentary eluded to the divorcement of another was a cause of a stiff heart, to be opposed to the needs of another, in which has now caused separation from having love toward the other, in which may or may not have been the case of why they may have been married.

Considering that Jesus is the one whom we come to in faith, and innately become - in Jesus Christ by the Spirit of Christ dwelling with-in and the Holy Spirit which proceeds and comes from the Father in Heaven, by trusting in the written accounts, one can become harden in their heart toward Christ and divorce the Spirit.

Marriage itself is something that I hear that 50% of the time people end up getting divorces in the court systems, maybe due to complications in the marriage and thus divorces through the worldly system are given. However God looks at Marriage as a coming together of Man and women, just as one become married to Jesus - as persay 'being part of the bride of Christ back in that day in age' and it is for now today too because we become one in Christ through Faith in the death, burial, and resurrection.

God is okay with people married, but what he hates is the divorcing, however the sin of all of us has been paid for, and knowing these truths can help from avoiding another divorce in the future if one decides to become married. Because it is something that is special, and the Man and the Woman are suppose to support one another, and that can be successful if they both look towards God, who has allowed them joined together in the first place however it is not always like as one be it man or woman can find fault in their husband and that can be due to a myriad of Circumstances.

Mar 10:6 but from the beginning of the creation, God made them a male and a female;

Gen 1:27 And God prepareth the man in His image; in the image of God He prepared him, a male and a female He prepared them.
Gen 5:2 a male and a female He hath prepared them, and He blesseth them, and calleth their name Man, in the day of their being prepared.

Earlier in Deu 24:4 her former husband who sent her away is not able to return to take her to be to him for a wife, after that she has become defiled; for it [is] an abomination before YHWH, and you do not cause the land to sin which your God YHWH is giving to you [for] an inheritance.

God was given them a land of inheritance - this inheritance now today is the inheritance of the Holy Spirt and the spirit of Christ that lives with-in us. Those who are married, are united, when they come together joining no longer being two flesh; but one flesh in the ceremony of marriage with is - sex. As God created Man and Female - and when they are united that is what is considered Marriage in Gods Eyes, it is not what the world - instates ordained by a priest in a church somewhere. God himself considers marriage when two become one.

If the threefold cord is present, then divorce is next to impossible Matt. Ecc 4:12
 
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“If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance. If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.”
‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭24:1-5‬ ‭NIV‬‬
Deuteronomy 24:1-3 If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if | New International Version (NIV) | Download The Bible App Now

“And the Pharisees came near to him, tempting him, and saying to him, ‘Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?’ And he answering said to them, ‘Did ye not read, that He who made [them], from the beginning a male and a female made them, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and cleave to his wife, and they shall be — the two — for one flesh? so that they are no more two, but one flesh; what therefore God did join together, let no man put asunder.’ They say to him, ‘Why then did Moses command to give a roll of divorce, and to put her away?’ He saith to them — ‘Moses for your stiffness of heart did suffer you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it hath not been so. ‘And I say to you, that, whoever may put away his wife, if not for whoredom, and may marry another, doth commit adultery; and he who did marry her that hath been put away, doth commit adultery.’ His disciples say to him, ‘If the case of the man with the woman is so, it is not good to marry.’ And he said to them, ‘All do not receive this word, but those to whom it hath been given; for there are eunuchs who from the mother's womb were so born; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are eunuchs who kept themselves eunuchs because of the reign of the heavens: he who is able to receive [it] — let him receive.’”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭19:3-12‬ ‭YLT98‬‬
Matthew 19:3-12 And the Pharisees came near to him, tempting him, and saying to him, ‘Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?’ And he answering said to them, ‘Did ye not read, that He who made [t | Young's Literal Translation 1898 (YLT98) | Download The Bible App Now

““The Law and the Prophets were proclaimed until John. Since that time, the good news of the kingdom of God is being preached, and everyone is forcing their way into it. It is easier for heaven and earth to disappear than for the least stroke of a pen to drop out of the Law. “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”
‭‭Luke‬ ‭16:16-18‬ ‭NIV‬‬
Luke 16:18

“Jesus then left that place and went into the region of Judea and across the Jordan. Again crowds of people came to him, and as was his custom, he taught them. Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” “What did Moses command you?” he replied. They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.” “It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.””
‭‭Mark‬ ‭10:1-12‬ ‭NIV‬‬
Mark 10:1-12 Jesus then left that place and went into the region of Judea and across the Jordan. Again crowds of people came to him, and as was his custom, he taught them. Some Pharisees came and tested him by ask | New International Version (NIV) | Download The Bible App Now

The biggest thing shared here is spiritual Adultry the Pharisees where in Adultry having denied the living God and serving idols and manmade tradition.
 

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“Now he had to go through Samaria. So he came to a town in Samaria called Sychar, near the plot of ground Jacob had given to his son Joseph.


Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about noon.


When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her, “Will you give me a drink?” (His disciples had gone into the town to buy food.)


The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.)


Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” “Sir,” the woman said, “you have nothing to draw with and the well is deep.


Where can you get this living water? Are you greater than our father Jacob, who gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did also his sons and his livestock?”


Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst.


Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.”


He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband.


The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” “Sir,” the woman said, “I can see that you are a prophet. Our ancestors worshiped on this mountain, but you Jews claim that the place where we must worship is in Jerusalem.”


“Woman,” Jesus replied, “believe me, a time is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem.


You Samaritans worship what you do not know; we worship what we do know, for salvation is from the Jews.


Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks.


God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.”


The woman said, “I know that Messiah” (called Christ) “is coming.


When he comes, he will explain everything to us.” Then Jesus declared, “I, the one speaking to you—I am he.””

‭‭John‬ ‭4:4-26‬ ‭NIV‬‬
 

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Lets walk through marriage and God and see the connection between God and marriage

My top 10 list on Gods Institution of Marriage.

1- God is love
2- Love requires another Person to share and experience love
3- God is Father, Son and Holy Spirit- Tri- Personal, Tri-Unity, Triune
4- God created man in his image
5- The only time God said anything He created was not good was man being alone.
6- God created Eve from adams rib so that he would not be alone and could experience love in relationship
7- Marriage is a reflection of Gods Unity, Oneness, Love
8- Marriage like God is Holy and sacred.
9- Marriage should never be broken and should reflect Gods loving nature/character
10- Divorce was granted because on mans " hardness of heart" , mans sinfulness and rebellion against God.

hope this helps !!!