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48» What Is Meant By Proverbs 27:17?
"As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend."
The Hebrew word translated "countenance" has to do with one's face rather
than their mind.
A friendly face is usually soft and mellow; whereas a hostile face is usually
accented with tight lips and glaring narrow eyes; and sometimes even bared
teeth. We call that kind of look "daggers" --and if those kinds of looks could
kill; they would.
No sharpening of two metals rubbing together can take place without them
wearing on each other. However, in Prov 27:17 only one of the metals
experiences wear while the other is the cause of it.
In my judicious opinion, that proverb is not speaking of building your friend
up but instead speaks of tearing him down by means of chafing, i.e.
relentless fault finding, mockery, and/or carping criticism; none of which are
acceptable social skills for making friends and influencing people.
• Job 16:9 . . He teareth me in his wrath, who hateth me: he gnasheth upon
me with his teeth; mine enemy sharpeneth his eyes upon me.
The eyes of Job's enemy were knives, and reveals that causing somebody's
countenance to sharpen should not be construed a good thing. In point of
fact some of Webster's definitions related to "sharp" in include:
severe and/or harsh: such as
a : inclined to or marked by irritability or anger a sharp temper
b : causing intense mental or physical distress a sharp pain
c : cutting in language or import
NOTE: The Hebrew word for "friend" in Prov 27:17 doesn't necessarily
indicate a buddy; but includes a variety of others, i.e. companions,
associates, fellows, husbands, lovers, neighbors, etc. --just about anybody
with whom we come into personal contact whether temporary or extended,
e.g. waitresses, taxi drivers, retail clerks, fast food workers, gas station
attendants, dog walkers, flight attendants, druggists, coffee barristers, food
cart vendors, doctors, dentists, nurses, et al.
I think everyone, Christians especially, ought to avoid rubbing people the
wrong way lest we become known as a toxic influence that the world would
be a better place without.
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