You said “I am not a leader, never have been and never will be.” Are you sure? Because I’d suggest you are leading by example. We call dictators leaders…but I wonder since
Mark 10:42-45 speaks of something not typical ‘But Jesus called them to him, and said unto them, You know that they which are accounted to rule over the Gentiles exercise lordship over them; and their great ones exercise authority upon them. [43] But it not shall not so be among you: but whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: [44] And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all. [45] For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.’
insightful (Imo). What I hear you saying is if something causes such an disagreement maybe the timing isn’t right so it’s shelved, or maybe it isn’t needed at all. Sounds like comprise, respect, and a peaceful mutual resolve. One thing that amazes me is the contradiction between how we say relationships between husbands and wives are to be …and then all the debates and topics over “free will” and how Christ as the Head of the body does not force His will upon His body. How we will become offended if someone suggest Christ takes away out free will to decide or choose, but then we turn around and want to do the same thing to another. Makes no sense to me. It makes me think of the verse that says to treat others as you would have them to treat you. We have an ideal of how Christ treats His body with soft wooing, tender care, patience with free will rather than a forced submission…yet that all flies out the window when a mans’ authority becomes the topic. But then again, I am a woman, a wife, and a mother so maybe it is a tough topic for me.