quietthinker
Well-Known Member
Using your eyes like a laser in these circumstances changes the dynamic. It neutralises the intimidation, perceived or otherwise.I have that eye contact problem too. I never understood why. but I did note that other people notice it.
But the other day I realized I do the no eye contact so I can’t catch the brief but awful flashes of…hatred and anger that flare in the eyes of the relative who raised me. It feels…reptilian almost. I’ve seen awful things in peoples eyes. You catch it and then it’s quickly covered by them and it feels yucky and like something I want to avoid seeing. It looks so dark and untruthful and….yeah, reptilian.
I took the no eye contact thing, which is a…defense mechanism learned in childhood, out into the world. I applied it to everyone. I guess since my own relative was not safe for me my inner child assumed no one was?