Wrangler
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Agreed! The lost art of discretion. Not only forming new friendships but energizing existing friendships.crossing that threshold where you keep things private and out of public view, is where you form new friendships
Perhaps not coincidently, I took my granddaughter last week to the play Hamilton. A character repeatedly chastened Hamilton to "speak less and smile more."
The predominant philosophy of this world defends violating such discretion with "I was only being honest." My Bible Study leader was fond of saying upon happening on various passages that "the Bible continually reminds us not to go too far right or too far left." This is the meaning when it is said about who we are to model, that Jesus was full of grace and truth. Honesty is not the best policy when it unnecessarily hurts; specifically, when it unnecessarily hurts the relationship.
I used charisma to let the man who was a stranger to me but a brother in Christ know that we might have doctrinal differences. The statement was punctuated with an infectious smile. This somewhat stymied his doctrinal purity train and he really did not know how to respond. Had he asked specifics, I might have obliged him. However, this tactic allowed the subject to be breeched without turning argumentative and remaining a bit of a friendly mystery.
Also during this weekend, a friend of 35 years shared again details of his bad marriage and facts that I deem him failing in his role as spiritual leader of the union. I urged him again to guide his wife in this area she is having quite a bit of difficulty. In my opinion, she has good reason to feel abandoned, which understandably is a source of great pain for anyone.
Yet, I again go back to the idea that unless someone specifically asks you, they probably don't want to hear your opinion. There is a boundary that our "I was only being honest" philosophy violates, which makes it all the more a broken world of hurt people needing Christ.
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