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So sorry xxx
I have felt the same way since I retired 15months ago , oh I can put on a front with people but inside the battle is a daily one - so I get it, even understand it as it’s a transition, but not sure I have any answers as to how to over come. Xxxx
I have felt the same way since I retired 15months ago , oh I can put on a front with people but inside the battle is a daily one - so I get it, even understand it as it’s a transition, but not sure I have any answers as to how to over come. Xxxx
Maybe rescue a homeless doggie from the local shelter?
Depression can also be a chemical and hormonal issue. Maybe have some test run to see what's up there?
Exercise gets the blood flowing and canift moods.
*Hugs*
BlueNightingale
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Do you think you might just need time to mourn and focus on yourself for a little bit?
A little pick-me-up is a nice thing.
A little pick-me-up is a nice thing.
We go through different transitions but also must remember that grief and loss have an impact, and there is no time limit. We are human with a whole range of emotional responses. I don’t like the way I feel , but from past experiences know that the Lord will use it all in some way.
Hi, glad you are feeling somewhat better.
How is your vitamin D level? Low vitamin D can cause depression and also fatigue.
It can be checked by a simple blood test. I do recall you stopped your vitamin D recently due to your high calcium serum level.
As long as you get enough vitamin K, that will help push the calcium into your bones, rather than going into soft tissue. You can talk with your doctor about it if your vitamin D levels are low. Vitamin D also helps with our immunity.
I take a daily vitamin D supplement of 2,000 units plus my multivitamin which has 1,000 units....my level of D is in the mid 40s. I get vitamin K in my diet and multivitamin.
When our children are grown, it's time to move to the next phase. We still have ministry to those around us, keeping our relationship with God in a good place, growing in Him ...and He will lead where to go from there.
For me, I have a sense of direction, but am also in a period of waiting. Meanwhile, I have lots of animals to care for ...and I am preparing for a time when my children and grandchildren may need me in a different way. Things are changing in the world, and God has given me some instructions, direction, and a sense of purpose that will serve His kingdom in the times ahead. I'm not sure that's making sense.
I have a sense for what God's plan is, and I am also to be here to support and serve others God has placed in my life ....and although my children are grown and I have grandchildren now, and I don't see them all as much as I'd like, I am still here for them when they need or want to talk or visit, or I visit them.
Idk if you know this song, but I hope it blesses you, @Ritajanice.
And as soon as I posted that song, this one came to mind.
Sister, sing to Him. Maybe you already do, but listen to the song above and sing it to Him. Make a playlist of songs that you can listen to throughout the day and sing to Him. It may be (and this is what I'm sensing to share) ....it may be that this is a time He is calling you into His presence in a more intimate way. I believe He is calling us all to this. The time is evil that we are living in, and we must know how to walk in His presence more than ever before. He is our Hiding Place .....the Secret Place of the Most High ....we are hidden with Christ in God ...abiding under the shadow of His wings. Amen! We can turn these dark times into an opportunity to pull in closer to His heart .....
Praying...
Can you get another pet, @Ritajanice? Maybe you could raise up a kitten or puppy ....or both.
(I do know what it's like to live alone in a house. I have done it at various times in my life.)
(I do know what it's like to live alone in a house. I have done it at various times in my life.)
Here in the USA my doctor has to request for the vitamin D level to be checked. Not sure about where you are in the UK.
I feel your pain. This you said stood out to me …”I really think I’ve lost my sense of purpose...”
completely get that. I’ve lost mine too. I was a homemaker, mother and then I grandmother. On top of that I cared for my mom who is now in a nursing home and I’m the visitor. I spent years taking care of babies and even grand-babies. as you said, they grow unto caring for themselves. My worse depression is I always end up in the place of I think I have purpose in God. That purpose always makes me put my feet on the floor and get up daily. Even now I’m doubting having a purpose in God. To me that is the worse depression of all, doubting purpose in God. I get Rachel cried “Give me children or I die” .. but there is this groaning inside of me, a cry, “Give me purpose or I die.”
After being home all these years, there is pressure now that there is no more need for my being at home, to go get a job. Then I get more depressed because at 56 I have no education or trade experience to run full force with “yea, I’ll get a job.” Which in return makes me even FAR more depressed because this is how I feel…I feel I’ve invested in His Word, to me that IS an education. To me that IS a trade. But in this world there seems to be no place or value to it. Instead, it is that is all a fantasy. Get a real Life!? Then I doubt God. Maybe this is a test, Rita? I wish you’d experience having a greater purpose. That is what I desire also. A purpose no one can take away?
Lately I have been doing the antidepressant dance. Trying out a new one right now, which it gets pointed out. “You cry too much on this antidepressant…maybe this isn’t the one.” I’ll see my psychiatrist next week. My question is…is it wrong to cry when there is real (not made up) pain?
Likewise, you helped me to not feel alone. Especially in “we’re of the same mindset” …maybe that mindset that Hungers and Thirsts after a greater purpose …is His Mindset. Which gives me Hope in that same mindset is in You. Reading your sharing of having that same deep groan within, gives validity to He hasn’t left nor forsaken but IS that Spirit within which groans, making intercession for us?
Romans 8:22-28 For we know that the whole creation groans and travails in pain together until now. [23] And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body. [24] For we are saved by hope: but hope that is seen is not hope: for what a man sees, why does he yet hope for? [25] But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it. [26] Likewise the Spirit also helps our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself makes intercession for us with groaning which cannot be uttered. [27] And he that searches the hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because he makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God. [28] And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. <there is purpose Rita! Thank you for reminding me.
It is not a fantasy.
I do think it's important to always remember our blessings...even things like being able to walk, to see and to hear. And also if we have a roof over our heads and food to eat. I'm grateful for all of these things as I am basically homebound as I can't walk well.
Also, I'm thankful I can pay my rent and other bills. And thankful for kind neighbors that sometimes help me as I am alone.
Also, I'm thankful I can pay my rent and other bills. And thankful for kind neighbors that sometimes help me as I am alone.
It’s like the Lord was speaking to me through this nutritionist...and boy was I listening....only God can get me on the right path...that enemy wanted me to stay in my misery of depression, God had other plans and it’s true what he says....Gods timing is perfect...
Remember that the Lord speaks to us in many different ways...he wants the best for us, just as his word says, the enemy wants our demise....
I hope that this has been an encouragement to you all...in Jesus Name...Amen!
Our faith in God needs to be exercised......just like any muscle in our body needs to be exercised, including the heart.
Remember that the Lord speaks to us in many different ways...he wants the best for us, just as his word says, the enemy wants our demise....
I hope that this has been an encouragement to you all...in Jesus Name...Amen!
Our faith in God needs to be exercised......just like any muscle in our body needs to be exercised, including the heart.
BlueNightingale
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I know this is controversial, but I wonder if there are any Christian webcaming groups around these days. I don't know myself.
But maybe even a text based chat group would help. It's just nice to have people to talk to, and it doesn't always need to be in person.
I would just never say too much.
Or I wonder about a Bingo night or something. My family made me do that once. I am not good at it.
LittleTuneAlright
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Ladies...LADIES!
I am so glad I returned here. I feel you all!!! all our ailments are surely under His care when we are together ( wherever 2 or 3 are together there I am) , even though we don't see it sometimes for lack of clarity. I too suffer form depression and lack of purpose (both my children are fully adults and don't need me anymore and I feel like i've lost a limb lol
and its funny, but serving to me means I must help others in any way, and I have just moved house and am looking for a new church and feel like I am lost.
I joined in 2020, as covid hit...I was working all hours in a nursing home and I have no idea why I didn't return here after joining but anyway, I'm back and loving this ladies forum
I am so glad I returned here. I feel you all!!! all our ailments are surely under His care when we are together ( wherever 2 or 3 are together there I am) , even though we don't see it sometimes for lack of clarity. I too suffer form depression and lack of purpose (both my children are fully adults and don't need me anymore and I feel like i've lost a limb lol
and its funny, but serving to me means I must help others in any way, and I have just moved house and am looking for a new church and feel like I am lost.
I joined in 2020, as covid hit...I was working all hours in a nursing home and I have no idea why I didn't return here after joining but anyway, I'm back and loving this ladies forum
That brings back memories- my mum and aunty use to go every week. I use to go if I was staying with my mum. They use to have the same table and seats each week, despite the place being quite empty ( if someone was sitting at that table you would think it was the end of the world !!lol ) I use to get so nervous in case I missed calling out, or being late. Also everyone would moan and groan if a newcomer or someone won more than once !!!!!!!
I haven’t felt able to go there since my mum has passed ( 13years ) it was my time with her away from the children ect.
I can relate to the feeling redundant and I am also feel a bit lost at the moment. I retired from working in a care home 16months ago and despite the fact I love the freedom I still have not quite adapted.
I was working during covid, on the one hand I was grateful to still have that routine but on the other hand I was trying to care for my elderly dad and keep him safe. It was horrible when we had outbreaks, worse when it hit the demencia floor ( we lost 12 residents in 14 days )
How did it go at your nursing home ?
Much love as you try and find a church , have you moved far away from where you use to live ?
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