Would you go to your brothers 2nd wedding after he commited adultery?

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Would you go to your brothers 2nd wedding after he commited adultery?


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Armour of God

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For those who won't watch the short video for whatever reason. The guys brother was married and committed adultery, then he gets divorced and marries the same girl he committed adultery with. Should he attend the wedding?

I'm torn on this. One part of me agrees with the preacher but another part of me says that I should keep the peace with my family.

If you agree with the Pastor then how about this. Would you go to your brothers wedding knowing that they have had sex already? Because if you use the pastors logic then you should not attend that wedding either because the bible says you shouldn't have sex outside of marriage.

But who are you to judge anyway. Have you not sinned yourself. Ultimately it's God who will judge your brother, not you.

How about these bible verses which I'm para phrasing

Take the log out of your eye before taking the speck from your brothers eye

He who has not sinned may cast a stone


I don't know. The more i think about it the more i think i would go. Keeping the peace in the family is important. Tearing apart the family for simply not showing up is extreme. Your not committing a sin for showing up at the wedding.

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I warned another about the same thing . I warned and warned him not to marry this other lady .
He did not listen
And i did not go to the wedding . Any brother or sister in sin and error , their sin and error cannot be supported .
 
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I'm torn on this. One part of me agrees with the preacher but another part of me says that I should keep the peace with my family.

If you agree with the Pastor then how about this. Would you go to your brothers wedding knowing that they have had sex already? Because if you use the pastors logic then you should not attend that wedding either because the bible says you shouldn't have sex outside of marriage.

But who are you to judge anyway. Have you not sinned yourself. Ultimately it's God who will judge your brother, not you.

How about these bible verses which I'm para phrasing

Take the log out of your eye before taking the speck from your brothers eye

He who has not sinned may cast a stone


I don't know. The more i think about it the more i think i would go. Keeping the peace in the family is important. Tearing apart the family for simply not showing up is extreme. Your not committing a sin for showing up at the wedding.

Your thoughts
Hello @Armour of God
Is your brother a Christian? If he does not claim to be a Christian then, we have no business judging him but if he claims Christ as his Lord and Savior it might give me pause. But then when I think of oh so very many (large majority) folks claiming Christianity and divorcing and re marrying while their ex spouse is still living, or having a baby 6 months into their marriage...well yeah...we would go to very, very few weddings as, most that I know already live together before marrying.
This is a very hard thing as scripture says:

Luke 12:51-53
"51 Do you think that I came to provide peace on earth? No, I tell you, but rather division; 52 for from now on five members in one household will be divided, three against two and two against three. 53 They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.”

So it seems it is a loyalty thing to Christ alone despite being family members. It's a very hard teaching and, I wish you well brother!
 

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I have been to many family Weddings of people who have had sex before marriage, three of my children’s Included. None of them were Christian’s. All of them knew my views but as I myself was pregnant before I got married I could hardly be that critical , didn’t come to faith until three years after my wedding. We all have differing views in how we should handle such things, for me it never entered my head to not go but I have equally know Christian’s who have refused. All that ensued was a broken relationship with their children l it didn’t change anything.
 
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I'm torn on this. One part of me agrees with the preacher but another part of me says that I should keep the peace with my family.

If you agree with the Pastor then how about this. Would you go to your brothers wedding knowing that they have had sex already? Because if you use the pastors logic then you should not attend that wedding either because the bible says you shouldn't have sex outside of marriage.

But who are you to judge anyway. Have you not sinned yourself. Ultimately it's God who will judge your brother, not you.

How about these bible verses which I'm para phrasing

Take the log out of your eye before taking the speck from your brothers eye

He who has not sinned may cast a stone


I don't know. The more i think about it the more i think i would go. Keeping the peace in the family is important. Tearing apart the family for simply not showing up is extreme. Your not committing a sin for showing up at the wedding.

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It's up to you, but I believe Christians compromise way too much to avoid rocking the boat. If we love Christ more than the world we're going to rock the boat. I'm not saying rock the boat for the sake of rocking the boat, I'm saying follow what the Lord wants you to do regardless of the consequences.
 
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Hello @Armour of God
Is your brother a Christian? If he does not claim to be a Christian then, we have no business judging him but if he claims Christ as his Lord and Savior it might give me pause. But then when I think of oh so very many (large majority) folks claiming Christianity and divorcing and re marrying while their ex spouse is still living, or having a baby 6 months into their marriage...well yeah...we would go to very, very few weddings as, most that I know already live together before marrying.
This is a very hard thing as scripture says:

Luke 12:51-53
"51 Do you think that I came to provide peace on earth? No, I tell you, but rather division; 52 for from now on five members in one household will be divided, three against two and two against three. 53 They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.”

So it seems it is a loyalty thing to Christ alone despite being family members. It's a very hard teaching and, I wish you well brother!

Ok I never noticed that verse and I'm still pondering it. I don't think Jesus is telling us to intentionally cause division with our families

But what about the verses I mentioned that basically tells us not to judge because we have also sinned.

And ultimately I'm wondering would I be committing a sin for attending that wedding. I don't think so
 
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It's up to you, but I believe Christians compromise way too much to avoid rocking the boat. If we love Christ more than the world we're going to rock the boat. I'm not saying rock the boat for the sake of rocking the boat, I'm saying follow what the Lord wants you to do regardless of the consequences.

Do you think it would be a sin to attend that wedding?
 

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I didnt watch the video.

But i can assure you Reader, that if you are a Divorced born again Christians, if you have a legal divorce....then go ahead and remarry as you are not committing any sin.

However, If you are not divorced, and you are going to marry someone else, then you have an issue.........but, never concern yourself with "can i get remarried"...........as its perfectly fine for you to remarry a CHRISTian, if you have been legally divorced.

Its interesting that really religious people, hyper religious people.... who are not real students of the bible, want to attack this one misunderstood VERSE situation with their theological ignorance. And the reason they do that, is because they are JUDGING, and they like how this FEELS when they point their little finger.
So, thats their carnality at work.
 

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I warned another about the same thing . I warned and warned him not to marry this other lady .
He did not listen
And i did not go to the wedding . Any brother or sister in sin and error , their sin and error cannot be supported .

Buy would it be a sin to attend the wedding?

And if we have sinned before, which we all have, than who are we to judge?
 

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I didnt watch the video.

But i can assure you Reader, that if you are a Divorced born again Christians, if you have a legal divorce....then go ahead and remarry as you are not committing any sin.

However, If you are not divorced, and you are going to marry someone else, then you have an issue.........but, never concern yourself with "can i get remarried"...........as its perfectly fine for you to remarry a CHRISTian, if you have been legally divorced.

Its interesting that really religious people, hyper religious people.... who are not real students of the bible, want to attack this one misunderstood VERSE situation with their theological ignorance. And the reason they do that, is because they are JUDGING, and they like how this FEELS when they point their little finger.
So, thats their carnality at work.

Your missing the context of the question.
It's more about adultery than remarriage
 

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Your missing the context of the question.
It's more about adultery than remarriage

Do you own a KJV?

Then read it and find out what "Adultery" actuallly means, as it does not mean, Christian "divorce and remarriage' as the religious hacks like to try to teach it.

Listen.

Here is the understanding....

"if while her HUSBAND LIVETH............if she be REMARRIED"............"then she shall be called an Adulteress".

Now, the theological clowns, teach it FALSELY like this....>>""""If you are a Christian, and you get a divorcr, then you can't remarry BECAUS (the clowns all teach) you are committing adultery".

Now look at what the VERSE Says.......and believe the verse, and not the religious Forum clowns.

The Verse says... KJV..>>"if while her HUSBAND LIVES............if she be REMARRIED to ANOTHER"... man.

Do you SEE IT?

That woman has = 2 husbands.........so she shall be called an adulteress. Romans 7:3....in a KJV
 

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Do you own a KJV?

Then read it and find out what "Adultery" actuallly means, as it does not mean, Christian "divorce and remarriage' as the religious hacks like to try to teach it.

Listen.

Here is the understanding....

"if while her HUSBAND LIVETH............if she be REMARRIED"............"then she shall be called an Adulteress".

Now, the theological clowns, teach it FALSELY like this....>>""""If you are a Christian, and you get a divorcr, then you can't remarry BECAUSE (the clowns all teach) you are committing adultery".

Now look at what the VERSE Says.......and believe the verse, and not the religious Forum clowns.

The Verse says... KJV..>>"if while her HUSBAND LIVES............if she be REMARRIED to ANOTHER"...

Do you SEE IT?

That woman has = 2 husbands.........so she shall be called an adulteress. Romans 7:3....in a KJV

You didn't watch the short video video.
Because of that you are missing the context of the question
 

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You didn't watch the short video video.
Because of that you are missing the context of the question

I dont need the video, as i read the Title of the Thread, and some of the responses.

So, if you want to know the answer, ive given it to you.

See, when people are climbing walls about Christian "divorce and remarriage" , its simply because they dont understand the verses and they are misled by hyper religious people who twisted the verses.
 

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Do you think it would be a sin to attend that wedding?
I don't think it would be inherently sinful; I'd just cross that bridge when I came to it. A lot of factors would have to go into the decision and I don't think it's as simple as it's either sinful or it isn't.
 

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I dont need the video, as i read the Title of the Thread, and some of the responses.

So, if you want to know the answer, ive given it to you.

See, when people are climbing walls about Christian "divorce and remarriage" , its simply because they dont understand the verses and they are misled by hyper religious people who twisted the verses.

Like I said. Without watching the video your missing the context of the question all together and talking about something completely different.

But let's clarify something
In Matthew 19:9 Jesus says

9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
NKJV

So Jesus said it is indeed a sin to divorce and remarry except for sexual immorality
 

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I don't think it would be inherently sinful; I'd just cross that bridge when I came to it. A lot of factors would have to go into the decision and I don't think it's as simple as it's either sinful or it isn't.

Your right it's not an easy decision to make.
For me and you its just a hypothetical question but I think I would have to go.
I have sinned so it would be hypocritical for me to judge. And if I'm not sinning by going then why destroy the relationship
 
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Like I said. Without watching the video your missing the context of the question all together and talking about something completely different.

But let's clarify something
In Matthew 19:9 Jesus says

9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
NKJV


So Jesus said it is indeed a sin to divorce and remarry except for sexual immorality


@Armour of God .

In your verse, 1.) there are no Christians.... 2.) Jesus has not died on The Cross...... 3.) There is no body of Christ created yet, and 4.) noone is born again, yet.

You dont know any of this, because you're not yet a real bible student, you're just a misled religious person who posts veses you dont understand for the sake of arguing.
People like you keep "chrisitan" forums in the dark.
MODs like you cause christian forums to be a joy to the devil.

Listen..
You can't (truthfully-Theologically) point that verse at the NT Church..........but you can point it at OT Jews or any Religious Jew in '2026., as Jesus was only talking to those "under the Law"......and Christians are "not under the Law, but under Grace".
 
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@Armour of God .

In your verse, there are no Christians.... Jesus has not died on the Cross......There is no body of Christ, and noone is born again, yet.

You dont know any of this, because you're not yet a real bible student, you're just a misled person who posts veses you dont understand for the sake of arguing..

Listen..
, you can't truthfully point that verse at the NT Church..........but you can point it at OT Jews, as Jesus was only talking to those "under the Law"......and Christians are "not under the Law, but under Grace".

Jesus clearly says that divorcing, except for sexual immorality, and remarriage is a sin

Nothing you say changes that.
That's all I have to say about that.
We're getting off topic.
 
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Jesus clearly says that divorcing, except for sexual immorality, and remarriage is a sin

@Armour of God ......When you decide to learn some bible......then here is the first step.

1st. = You must "rightly divide" the scriptures, as Paul teaches., as when you dont, as you are doing, you are wrongly dividing them.

And the way you begin to "rightly divide" verses..., is you LEARN from a TEACHER like me that the NT, specifically, is not always talking doctrinally TO the NT Church.
Therefore when you find verses that are talking to JEWS.......and Jesus was only talking to Jews, during His Earthly Ministry... then those verses have to be carefully examined in the Light of The Cross, to discover if they are doctrinally correct regarding the Body of Christ.
This is what is meant by "rightly dividing".

Your verse isn't given to the Body of Christ., and that is not going to change.
See, You can't change the bible to suit your religious concepts and be correct..............but the bible can change you into a bible student if you are willing to listen.
You're not there yet.

So, Let me show you where to start., where to begin.

Go to Romans 3:21-28, and study this for a while, and use the NKJV is you prefer, tho, the KJV is going to help the most.
Start there.