Would you go to your brothers 2nd wedding after he commited adultery?

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Would you go to your brothers 2nd wedding after he commited adultery?


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amigo de christo

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Forgiveness is the foundation of Christianity, without it we are all in the crapper.
So punch him in the nose and go to the wedding.
Self rightiousness is a sin too.
punch who . you cant overcome what i said .
I never said Punch anyone . I said warn them not to sin , not to enter into adultery or gay marriage .
You have no words or scrips for me .
Only feelings and false accusations . Allow me to leave you another reminder in a second
and it will show us all just how far folks are heading right into the LIE itself .
 
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amigo de christo

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Forgiveness is the foundation of Christianity, without it we are all in the crapper.
So punch him in the nose and go to the wedding.
Self rightiousness is a sin too.
Its obvious some are buying into a real heavy lie .
THIS people acts like GOD is behind this peace plan
and cause HE LOVES ISRAEL SO MUCH , HE GONNA DENY HIS OWN SON
and tell them HEY IT DONT MATTER if you believe , hey ev en the muslims believe in the same GOD
hey all religoins do .
AS IF TO SAVE ISRAEL GOD IS GONNA LIE TO THEM .
YOU ALL ARE BEING LIED TOO and some of you dont realize this .
HERE IS GODS PLAN TO SAVE ISRAEL .
HIS NAME IS JESUS , HE ALREADY CAME and if we want jewish and gentiles saved , WE BETTER PREACH HIM
with the dire reminder YA NEED TO BELIEVE HE IS CHRIST , THE SON OF GOD , MESSIAH to be saved .
 
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PS95

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There was a marriage contract, typically arranged between the groom and the bride's father. The groom brought a party of friends and family to the woman's house. A bride price was paid.

Then there was a feast, with music, dancing, etc. You might call it the 'reception' but it was the middle part of a 1st century wedding.

At the end of the feast, there was consummation. The groom de-flowered his new bride in a booth or tent specifically made for this purpose. Afterwards, the bridal sheets were displayed publicly - the blood-stains proving the new wife's virtue

Sex clearly was part of the wedding.

The woman at the well presumably lacked the legal aspect of the marriage. Her non-husband had no covenant with her father.
Interesting. Thanks for the info. A contract between the fathers- Yes that is actually how my grandmother was married in 1924.
I didn't say sex wasn't part of the "wedding"- The woman at the well- I said sex was not what made them married. It merely made them fornicators.
I think I prefer a honeymoon over consummation in the tent.......!
 

amigo de christo

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punch who . you cant overcome what i said .
I never said Punch anyone . I said warn them not to sin , not to enter into adultery or gay marriage .
You have no words or scrips for me .
Only feelings and false accusations . Allow me to leave you another reminder in a second
and it will show us all just how far folks are heading right into the LIE itself .
 
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PS95

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Forgiveness is the foundation of Christianity, without it we are all in the crapper.
So punch him in the nose and go to the wedding.
Self rightiousness is a sin too.
Forgiveness is great! But context GH- That does not mean that ignore sin and go party with them.
Galatians 6:1
Brothers, if someone is caught in a trespass, you who are spiritual should restore him with a spirit of gentleness. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.

Luke 17:3
Watch yourselves. If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.
 

Grailhunter

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punch who . you cant overcome what i said .
I never said Punch anyone . I said warn them not to sin , not to enter into adultery or gay marriage .
You have no words or scrips for me .
Only feelings and false accusations . Allow me to leave you another reminder in a second
and it will show us all just how far folks are heading right into the LIE itself .

On the topic of going to the wedding of someone that remarries after adultery, I said punch them in the nose and go to the wedding.
I was not commenting on a gay marriage.
 

Grailhunter

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Its obvious some are buying into a real heavy lie .
THIS people acts like GOD is behind this peace plan
and cause HE LOVES ISRAEL SO MUCH , HE GONNA DENY HIS OWN SON
and tell them HEY IT DONT MATTER if you believe , hey ev en the muslims believe in the same GOD
hey all religoins do .
AS IF TO SAVE ISRAEL GOD IS GONNA LIE TO THEM .
YOU ALL ARE BEING LIED TOO and some of you dont realize this .
HERE IS GODS PLAN TO SAVE ISRAEL .
HIS NAME IS JESUS , HE ALREADY CAME and if we want jewish and gentiles saved , WE BETTER PREACH HIM
with the dire reminder YA NEED TO BELIEVE HE IS CHRIST , THE SON OF GOD , MESSIAH to be saved .

I did not comment on Israel.
 

Grailhunter

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Forgiveness is great! But context GH- That does not mean that ignore sin and go party with them.
Galatians 6:1
Brothers, if someone is caught in a trespass, you who are spiritual should restore him with a spirit of gentleness. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.

Luke 17:3
Watch yourselves. If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.

I did not say ignore sin. I said forgiveness is the foundation of Christianity.
Sure you can reprimand him show him where it is a sin....not that he did not know. And punch him in the nose.
I am not kidding, I have punched several people for doing sinful things.
We can debate whether Yeshua will forgive him but we cannot make that determination.
If we kicked everyone out of church that sinned, it would not work well.
 

PS95

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I did not say ignore sin. I said forgiveness is the foundation of Christianity.
Sure you can reprimand him show him where it is a sin....not that he did not know. And punch him in the nose.
I am not kidding, I have punched several people for doing sinful things.
We can debate whether Yeshua will forgive him but we cannot make that determination.
If we kicked everyone out of church that sinned, it would not work well.
No one said to kick everyone out who sinned. I am speaking about UNREPENTANT sins, as was Paul.
 

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No one said to kick everyone out who sinned. I am speaking about UNREPENTANT sins, as was Paul.

So what is repentance for a person that committed adultery and gets married?
And how should his friends, family, and church react to this?
 

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Your VIDEO---The answers if we had known which he was- should have been the same IMO. see what you think.
here's why-
According to Scripture-
1. Brother is an unbelieving sibling--- Sure go to the wedding. He doesn't know the Lord, so why expect him to behave as if he does? Plant seeds and pray for him.
2. Brother says he is a Christian
- Talk to him about it if you do' not already know.
Has he repented and sought her forgiveness for his adultery? Did he ever try to reconcile with his wife? Use the scriptures and speak in love.
If those answers are both NO--
don't go.
WHY? He is unrepentant and loving and walking in his sin, and he knows better. How is he any different from the man sleeping with his father's wife who wont repent?
The act of marrying another doesn't forgive the sin.

-If he says- he made a terrible mistake and has asked for her forgiveness and the Lord's, but she refused him and wanted a divorce.. and he now wants to make his error honorable by marrying his mistress-
That's different- we are free to go if we want to.

3. Sibling who is a believer- Same as #2

Instead- what we got on here is a lot of - "we are all sinners- so what"..
While some may feel that way, and I do understand-- it is not scriptural at all.
It is how a little leaven ferments the whole lump works.

Hence, my point. Either we obey God - or we do it our own way.
Picking and choosing passages isn't what we should do. Agree?
Am I saying its a sin to go if he is not repentant? Idk Why you would want to celebrate his unrepentant sin? That does him no good either. How is that love? look how humble and loving I am - I eat with sinners?
No. Jesus ate with sinners to bring them to Himself- not to justify the sins of those who say they know Him but disobey what He said.

Let this sink in. I once was also confused about "judging"- you are not condemning anyone to hell- you are seeking to help them walk with the Lord in love.
- it will become clearer! Hope it helps!

Thanks for sharing you views, I appreciate it. It's not an easy question and there are many things to consider and details we don't know about the person in the video as you mentioned.

Is he a brother in Christ? Did he repent? Who initiated the divorce? Did he try to reconcile? All good points that the preacher in the video didn't even bother considering before making his judgement. Silly of him, his being too proud and arrogant in opinion, without actually knowing anything about the case.

In the end I suppose I'd have to say I don't know if I would attend because I don't have all the information at hand in this case. So i changed my vote from "yes" to "not sure". I'd have to treat each case on its own merits and circumstances
 
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@Lambano thank you for being one of two who (assuming) actually read the above big post. But it never even received ONE post in response, in the last 2 months. So, I'm curious as to why you have even 'tagged me'?
I was a part of the 2023 discussion where you first presented this testimony. I tagged you because I see the circumstances are analogous. If you disapprove of the relationship, will you reject the children produced by that relationship?
 
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For those who won't watch the short video for whatever reason. The guys brother was married and committed adultery, then he gets divorced and marries the same girl he committed adultery with. Should he attend the wedding?

I'm torn on this. One part of me agrees with the preacher but another part of me says that I should keep the peace with my family.

If you agree with the Pastor then how about this. Would you go to your brothers wedding knowing that they have had sex already? Because if you use the pastors logic then you should not attend that wedding either because the bible says you shouldn't have sex outside of marriage.

But who are you to judge anyway. Have you not sinned yourself. Ultimately it's God who will judge your brother, not you.

How about these bible verses which I'm para phrasing

Take the log out of your eye before taking the speck from your brothers eye

He who has not sinned may cast a stone


I don't know. The more i think about it the more i think i would go. Keeping the peace in the family is important. Tearing apart the family for simply not showing up is extreme. Your not committing a sin for showing up at the wedding.

Your thoughts
Would you befriend tax collectors and prostitutes?
 
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amigo de christo

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Attending is not necessarily celebrating
It is , however , showing support of said event and of the two .
If any has any cause for reason of why the two should not be wed let him speak or forever hold his peace .
If a man was going an event of stealing money from a bank and had invited you
Would you go and sit in a chair and watch him commit theft .
THEN why would we go to an event that honored any sin and sinful action .
This is something people need to understand . WE cannot partake of their sin .
The idea that more and more of christendom has sold us that its LOVING to do so
and show our love , WAS wrong all along .
Its not love to allow sin upon anyone . its hate actually .
Ye shall not hate your neighbor in your heart you shall in any way CORRECt him and NOT allow sin upon him .
 
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Attending is not necessarily celebrating

It is putting oneself in agreement with it which is taking pleasure in their "union"

Romans 1:32
Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not
only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

Ephesians 5:3-8
But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as
becometh saints;
Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of
thanks.
For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater,
hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.
Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God
upon the children of disobedience.
Be not ye therefore partakers with them.
For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:

1 Corinthians 5:11
But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
 

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Would you befriend tax collectors and prostitutes?

LoL that's not the question I asked or what the video is about.
You've taken it way out of context.
But I have friends who aren't Christians and friends who have sinned, we all have sinned.

But look at my most previous post before this or the next one after to better understand what I think of this case.
 
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It is , however , showing support of said event and of the two .
If any has any cause for reason of why the two should not be wed let him speak or forever hold his peace .
If a man was going an event of stealing money from a bank and had invited you
Would you go and sit in a chair and watch him commit theft .
THEN why would we go to an event that honored any sin and sinful action .
This is something people need to understand . WE cannot partake of their sin .
The idea that more and more of christendom has sold us that its LOVING to do so
and show our love , WAS wrong all along .
Its not love to allow sin upon anyone . its hate actually .
Ye shall not hate your neighbor in your heart you shall in any way CORRECt him and NOT allow sin upon him .

To me i don't think your necessarily celebrating or condoning it just by attending.

There are other things that should be considered before making the decision.
Is he a brother in Christ? Did he repent? Who initiated the divorce? Did he try to reconcile?

We don't have the whole story so I voted for not sure.

If the brother is family, not a devout Christian, his wife initiated the divorce, he tried to reconcile with her, his sorry that it happened. Then sure I would attend.

If his a devout Christian, initiated the divorce, did not try to reconcile and did not repent after I had softly spoken to him then maybe I would not attend.

It's a tough question and these things, that we don't know about in this case, should be considered first because your relationship with this person will be really fractured if you don't attend. It might be better to just put away your opinion, your judgement and your pride and keep the peace, for we have all sinned after all
 

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Ok, so if a child molester and a pimp were getting married.

Would you go to their wedding and celebrate their union?
Nope .
But before i get accused of being judmental allow me to say
ARE THEY REPENTANT or STILL ACTIVE IN SAID SIN .
you see there is a huge difference between the repentant and the unrepentant .
ALL have sinned my friend . As have we all .
BUT AS SHEEP we now DONT LIVE IN IT , DO WE .
And if we see a brother or sister in a sin
WE should correct them , NOW SHOULDNT WE .
Now if a christain man who used to be a pimp , but of course NOW no longer is
getting married to a woman who may have been one of the worst sinners on earth
BUT NOW no longer is but is rather repentant . OF COURSE i would go .
Cause all of us have sinned , me big time . BUT if one is active in sin and unrepentant
and heading right into sin , WE HAVE TO WARN THEM friend .
Cause there is no LOVE OF GOD in one who can allow sin upon one .
Now i know many are fearful . OKAY if you are a bit timid and afraid to correct sin
HOW A BOUT praying TO GOD for utterance and boldness to speak the truth to them .
GOD will hear that prayer . OH but he WILL and he will give you words and the strenght you need to say something .
BUT if we allow our fear to become our GOD , OH DEAR we in dire trouble .
And what i mean by that is , WHEN Folks sit and love this judge not correct not
cause they were either afraid to correct or etc , so they BUY INTO THAT LIE . OH dear they just bought into a lie
and why cause they were f earful or etc . I mean there are many reasons why men do as they do .
BUT SHEEP , SHEEP , THEY DO AS JESUS BIDS THEM TO DO .
 
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