To be born again is to be born of the Spirit of God, which is His work completely.
Doing those things you mentioned will certainly make you feel good, but it ain't about your feelings. It's about Christ's Resurrection power applied to your soul.
The Atonement of Christ is 100% effective. He did not die in vain hoping that someone will choose His sacrifice. That's absurd.
you did not understand what Jesus spoke of in the verses I gave you ans quickly dismissed them as nothing. do you believe his words? don't be fooled by false doctrine there is plenty of that going around.
Do you believe this parable of Jesus that say many will hear but reject his words?
Here is one of the main parables about the seed, spoken by Jesus:
Parable of the Sower (KJV)
Matthew 13:3–9
“Behold, a sower went forth to sow;
And when he sowed, some seeds fell by the way side, and the fowls came and devoured them up:
Some fell upon stony places, where they had not much earth: and forthwith they sprung up, because they had no deepness of earth:
And when the sun was up, they were scorched; and because they had no root, they withered away.
And some fell among thorns; and the thorns sprung up, and choked them:
But other fell into good ground, and brought forth fruit, some an hundredfold, some sixtyfold, some thirtyfold.
Who hath ears to hear, let him hear.”
Jesus later explains that the seed is the word of God, and the ground is the heart of people.
Some hearts are like the path. The word is heard, but it is quickly taken away. It does not stay.
Some are like rocky ground. They receive the word with joy, but it has no deep root. When trouble comes, they fall away.
Some are like thorns. They hear the word, but worries, riches, and desires of life choke it, and it does not grow.
But some are good ground. They hear the word, keep it, and live by it. Their life begins to change, and they bring fruit.
The meaning is simple: it is not only hearing the word that matters, but how we receive it and live it. The same seed is given to all, but the heart decides what it becomes.
Jesus spoke very clearly that the way to life is not wide and easy, but narrow and hard to stay on;
The narrow way (KJV)
Matthew 7:13–14
“Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat:
Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it.”
Here Jesus shows two paths. One is easy and many walk on it, but it ends in destruction. The other is narrow, and few stay on it, but it leads to life. This already tells us that not all who begin will end well.
He also warned that calling Him “Lord” is not enough.
Not everyone who says “Lord” (KJV)
Matthew 7:21
“Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.”
So salvation is not just words or belief. It must be followed by doing the will of God.
Then Jesus gives a warning that shows a person can appear to belong to Him and still be rejected.
Matthew 7:22–23
“Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? …
And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.”
These people thought they were safe, but they were living in sin. This shows that a person can think they are saved and still be lost in the end.
Jesus also spoke about staying in Him, like a branch in a vine.
The vine and the branches (KJV)
John 15:5–6
“I am the vine, ye are the branches…
If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned.”
A branch is already connected, but if it does not remain, it is cut off. This shows that staying matters. It is not just starting.
And again He says:
John 15:10
“If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love…”
So remaining in Him is tied to obedience.
Jesus also spoke about endurance to the end.
Endure to the end (KJV)
Matthew 24:13
“But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved.”
If salvation could never be lost, there would be no need to endure. But Jesus says the one who continues to the end is the one who is saved.
Jesus teaches that the way is narrow, and few walk it all the way. Many begin, many believe, many even call Him Lord, but not all remain faithful.
Salvation is like a path you walk, not just a door you pass once like many think. A person can turn away, stop obeying, or let the cares of life take over. That is why Jesus keeps calling people to continue, to remain, and to endure.
So the message is not fear, but watchfulness. Stay close to Him, listen to His words, and live them daily. Those who continue with Him to the end are the ones who enter life.
I am sorry you find the verses I gave you from Jesus to be absurd, its not the first time I see this and not the last.