Abstinence/Waiting/Lust/Sin

[חוכמה]

Maybe fasting could be an option? Apparently it can rid the desire to a point. But i am not an expert on the subject. Prayers for you Brother.

One hundred percent. Fasting for me is always the answer, whenever I feel sinful urges in any area of life. Fasting and prayer, like Jesus told us, is the answer for the more pernicious urges.

 

[Fathom]

Brothers and sisters in Christ,

I am a Christian man who deeply desires to be married someday. I have been praying earnestly for God to lead me to the woman He has ordained for me. By His grace, I have been able to remain sexually abstinent for several months at a time—sometimes six months, sometimes even as long as eight months.

However, there comes a point when the battle against sexual temptation becomes very intense on the sixth or eighth month. Sadly, instead of standing firm, I give in and commit sexual sin. Each time this happens, I repent sincerely and seek the Lord's forgiveness, but I also find myself wondering how to overcome this recurring struggle.

I know that God is faithful, and I truly desire to walk in purity and honor Him with both my body and my heart. I am not looking to justify my sin, but rather to seek biblical wisdom, encouragement, and practical counsel from fellow believers who may have walked a similar path.

How have you remained steadfast in seasons of prolonged waiting? What Scriptures, disciplines, or godly practices have helped you resist temptation while trusting God's timing for marriage? Does this succumbing to temptation prolongs the time of me meeting that woman?

Thank you, and may the Lord bless you all.

Will you, after all the struggles and battles with sin, ultimately give in and allow your descendant to fall prey to its temptation?

 

[PeterAndroz]

Will you, after all the struggles and battles with sin, ultimately give in and allow your descendant to fall prey to its temptation?

We ALL do & will sin in some way and those who give the 'impression' that they are sinless are delusional & liars.
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If a person today hears, believes & trusts the Gospel they ARE saved & forgiven of ALL their sins.
Gal 1:11-12, 1 Cor 15:1-.4, Eph 1:13, Col 2:13

 

[Fathom]

We ALL do & will sin in some way and those who give the 'impression' that they are sinless are delusional & liars.
..
If a person today hears, believes & trusts the Gospel they ARE saved & forgiven of ALL their sins.
Gal 1:11-12, 1 Cor 15:1-.4, Eph 1:13, Col 2:13

Matthew 9:13
But go and learn what this means: "I desire mercy, not sacrifice". For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.

 

[PeterAndroz]

Matthew 9:13
But go and learn what this means: "I desire mercy, not sacrifice". For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.

What's Matthew got to do with the teachings of Paul for today ?

 

[Scooter Jackson]

I am a Christian man who deeply desires to be married someday.

Yeah I( was the same way as a young and ended up marrying someone I should not have just because I wanted to be married so badly.

Best thing you can do is lay that desire at the Lord's feet because it's very close to midnight now and finding a woman or anybody for that matter that lives according to God's Word is exceedingly hard to find being that we are in an age of lawlessness.

Romans 8:1
There is therefore no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus.

That's not what that verse says. Here's what it actually says

Romans 8:1
There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

If a person rejects the entire passage of 8:1 then they should keep reading Romans 8

Romans 8:13
For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.

Romans 8:6-8
For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.
So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.

The reason so many newer translations leave the second part of Romans 8:1 out is because the enemy tricked them in to believing Christians are still in right standing with the Lord if they walk in sin after the flesh. They are not.

 

[Scooter Jackson]

What's Matthew got to do with the teachings of Paul for today ?

It's part of New Covenant teaching, the Gospel of the Kingdom that Jesus tells us started being preached when the old covenant teaching stopped being taught

Luke 16:16 (KJV) says, “The law and the prophets were until John: since that time the kingdom of God is preached, and every man presseth into it.”

 

[amigo de christo]

Brothers and sisters in Christ,

I am a Christian man who deeply desires to be married someday. I have been praying earnestly for God to lead me to the woman He has ordained for me. By His grace, I have been able to remain sexually abstinent for several months at a time—sometimes six months, sometimes even as long as eight months.

However, there comes a point when the battle against sexual temptation becomes very intense on the sixth or eighth month. Sadly, instead of standing firm, I give in and commit sexual sin. Each time this happens, I repent sincerely and seek the Lord's forgiveness, but I also find myself wondering how to overcome this recurring struggle.

I know that God is faithful, and I truly desire to walk in purity and honor Him with both my body and my heart. I am not looking to justify my sin, but rather to seek biblical wisdom, encouragement, and practical counsel from fellow believers who may have walked a similar path.

How have you remained steadfast in seasons of prolonged waiting? What Scriptures, disciplines, or godly practices have helped you resist temptation while trusting God's timing for marriage? Does this succumbing to temptation prolongs the time of me meeting that woman?

Thank you, and may the Lord bless you all.

My friend by grace i have abstained from sexual relations for now over twenty years .
Do not cave in and keep yourself from being tempted by NOT entertaining those lovely ladies .
DO not put yourself in a position TO be tempted . That is a big key .

 

[Nathaniel]

Brothers and sisters in Christ,

I am a Christian man who deeply desires to be married someday. I have been praying earnestly for God to lead me to the woman He has ordained for me. By His grace, I have been able to remain sexually abstinent for several months at a time—sometimes six months, sometimes even as long as eight months.

However, there comes a point when the battle against sexual temptation becomes very intense on the sixth or eighth month. Sadly, instead of standing firm, I give in and commit sexual sin. Each time this happens, I repent sincerely and seek the Lord's forgiveness, but I also find myself wondering how to overcome this recurring struggle.

I know that God is faithful, and I truly desire to walk in purity and honor Him with both my body and my heart. I am not looking to justify my sin, but rather to seek biblical wisdom, encouragement, and practical counsel from fellow believers who may have walked a similar path.

How have you remained steadfast in seasons of prolonged waiting? What Scriptures, disciplines, or godly practices have helped you resist temptation while trusting God's timing for marriage? Does this succumbing to temptation prolongs the time of me meeting that woman?

Thank you, and may the Lord bless you all.

I'm going to presume that you are one of our younger brothers.

With that in mind, young man, if you can go as much as eight months without some kind of release, then I guarantee you, you are doing far better than many of your elders.

Fornication is indeed sexual sin, in all it's many varieties of expression. Masturbation however, for the sole purpose of release, does not fall into this category, though I am certain there will be many here who vehemently disagree with me.

As long as you aren't using pornography, chasing hookers, or having meet ups on tinder, you'll be fine. And I should probably add, using your imagination to target a particular female or even one conjured up in your head. Get your release, make it quick and carry on serving and loving and praying and all those other things you do in Christ.

God loves you. He is mindful of your frame. He hears your prayers for a wife, and unless He has something else greater in store for you, is now preparing one.

But I would encourage you, with the same or more earnestness that you have asked for a wife, that you would rather seek His perfect will for your life. You sound like just the kind of man that God could use greatly, with or without a companion.

Be at peace my brother. Trust me when I say, if you have the kind of heart for God that enables you to endure many months of chastity, you're probably much further along in your walk with the Lord than many who are giving advice to you in this thread.

Be strong in the Lord. Be grateful for the grace He has given you to endure temptation. But be ever humble about it, and flee from pride like you would a lion nipping at your heels. Pride is the devil's sin. Rejoice in your victories, every one, but give the credit where it's due. God is your Rock and your Salvation.

Much love, much peace

 

[ShineTheLight]

Yeah I( was the same way as a young and ended up marrying someone I should not have just because I wanted to be married so badly.

Best thing you can do is lay that desire at the Lord's feet because it's very close to midnight now and finding a woman or anybody for that matter that lives according to God's Word is exceedingly hard to find being that we are in an age of lawlessness.



That's not what that verse says. Here's what it actually says

Romans 8:1
There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

If a person rejects the entire passage of 8:1 then they should keep reading Romans 8

Romans 8:13
For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.

Romans 8:6-8
For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.
So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.

The reason so many newer translations leave the second part of Romans 8:1 out is because the enemy tricked them in to believing Christians are still in right standing with the Lord if they walk in sin after the flesh. They are not.

The King James version that is.

Then there's this in Galatians 5:16-18

Galatians 5:16-18
16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.

 

[Scooter Jackson]

The King James version that is.

Then there's this in Galatians 5:16-18

Galatians 5:16-18
16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.

None the less is a person is walking after the flesh they have turned their back on the Lord refusing to be led by His Spirit and as such they are no longer in right standing with the Lord.

Of course these days all the preachers claim Christians can live in sin and still be in right standing so it's no wonder why it's so hard to tell Christians from sinners anymore since all are enjoying living a life of sin. The Lord warns that this would be the case in the end times so it's not surprising.

 

[Lambano]

What's Matthew got to do with the teachings of Paul for today ?

And since when is anything Jesus said relevant to Christians today?

 

[Scooter Jackson]

And since when is anything Jesus said relevant to Christians today?

All the preachers are teaching that Jesus' teachings were Him teaching the old testament law to the Jews so nothing Jesus said is for us today.

This means the devil has tricked these preachers in to teaching the devil's message which is and always has been that man should ignore what God says and should follow the devil instead.

 

[Lambano]

All the preachers are teaching that Jesus' teachings were Him teaching the old testament law to the Jews so nothing Jesus said is for us today.

This means the devil has tricked these preachers in to teaching the devil's message which is and always has been that man should ignore what God says and should follow the devil instead.

My goodness, are you saying that the person I quoted is a mouthpiece for Satan?

 

[Scooter Jackson]

My goodness, are you saying that @PeterAndroz is mouthpiece for satan?

I don't see where I said that, do you?

 

[Lambano]

I don't see where I said that, do you?

Go back through the quote chain. You'll see it. You said dispensationalist teachers are mouthpieces for Satan. The person quoted is a dispensationalist using dispensationalist doctrine to render Christ's teaching quoted in Matthew null-and void. QED.

 

[Scooter Jackson]

Go back through the quote chain. You'll see it. You said dispensationalist teachers are mouthpieces for satan. The person quoted is a dispensationalist using dispensationalist doctrine to render Christ's teaching quoted in Matthew null-and void. QED.

Many preachers today are teaching satan's teachings not the Lord's teachings.

Jesus told us that many would come in His name and deceive many.