We were extremely young in the Lord and had it been up to my wife alone we would have been gone from there long before it finally came. The pastor wanted us there because we were paying tithes and at the time I had one of the higher secular salaries in the church, which was more money in his pocket. When my very strong [not physically] and sometimes harsh mouthed wife [softened a lot over the years since then], opened her mouth to criticize him once too often to his liking, he chose to talk to me alone. [He was never able to stand up to my wife.] He thought I was a soft touch and offered to help me divorce my wife and go with me to court to obtain custody of our two children. He wanted me and the children without my wife. That of course would have been the end already as he certainly did not know me very well at all. I did not hit him, but I let him know I was quite displeased with his offer.
Our marriage had been saved along with our souls together through the miraculous intervention of God. [Now 48 years!] We knew little at that point from the Bible, but we knew that no man was going to cause a division in our marriage. We planned to allow our children to finish the school year and I needed a job transfer. My wife, in her mood for that one, might have literally killed the man if I had been unable to restrained her when I described the offer to her. She left him alone, avoiding him as much as possible only bad mouthed him after that to me as we dug in our heels to wait for the end the school year and then the tree thing came up. Our children did not finish the school year and I got my job transfer sooner rather than later.
Give God the glory!