How Long Do You Date Before You Get Married?

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Angelina

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I 100 percent agree. Dating for marriage ought to be a quick efficient process that doesn't waste too much time.

My husband and I delayed our marriage because my parents didn't want it to happen. I regret this. We could've married within 3 months and had a better start.
 

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My wife and I became engaged after two months of dating but didn’t marry until two years later. We were both in college at the time and I was in no position to financially support her until after I graduated and found full time employment. Forty-two years and counting.
 

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Well, there's B.C. (Before Consumation), and A.D. (After Dating).
 
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Well I read a person can fake who they are up to around 6 months. I don't know if that is online and not in person. I say 8 months, but what do I know. I'm not married.
 

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Well I read a person can fake who they are up to around 6 months. I don't know if that is online and not in person. I say 8 months, but what do I know. I'm not married.

Hi @Kayla McCanny, me neither, but I don't think y'all should wait too long. I say 3 months more or less. If it isn't working by then, I would just move on. Chkl:
 

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I don't know I'm not married either but 3 months does seem to be very quick.
Get to know the person first. I think 6 months would be enough
 

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My wife and I dated for 3 months, then got married, but we were both on our second marriage and were in our 50s. We had some maturity and a background of miserably bad first marriages.

For younger people, 6 months of dating sounds better, but who can really regulate the development of romantic love?

I do not believe you can really know a person from just online interactions. You need to be with them in real life and do things together, noticing facial expressions, eye rollings, habits, reactions, tone of voice, posture, smiles, twinkles in the eyes.

I devised a 100 question form for us both to fill out, asking about favorite things.

Favorite hymn, Bible preacher, scripture verse, devout book, denomination, command of Jesus, leisure activity, restaurant, beverage, sandwich, dessert, fruit, vegetable, snack, color, flower, animal, pet, season, movie, type of music, artist, fashion style, outdoor activity, color, fabric, childhood memory, etc.

She filled out the form, I filled one out, then we read each other’s answers. This is a fast way to get to know a lot. Most of it may seem superficial, but knowing little things about someone can give you good insights for gift giving, and so forth
 

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My wife and I dated for 3 months, then got married, but we were both on our second marriage and were in our 50s. We had some maturity and a background of miserably bad first marriages.

For younger people, 6 months of dating sounds better, but who can really regulate the development of romantic love?

I do not believe you can really know a person from just online interactions. You need to be with them in real life and do things together, noticing facial expressions, eye rollings, habits, reactions, tone of voice, posture, smiles, twinkles in the eyes.

I devised a 100 question form for us both to fill out, asking about favorite things.

Favorite hymn, Bible preacher, scripture verse, devout book, denomination, command of Jesus, leisure activity, restaurant, beverage, sandwich, dessert, fruit, vegetable, snack, color, flower, animal, pet, season, movie, type of music, artist, fashion style, outdoor activity, color, fabric, childhood memory, etc.

She filled out the form, I filled one out, then we read each other’s answers. This is a fast way to get to know a lot. Most of it may seem superficial, but knowing little things about someone can give you good insights for gift giving, and so forth
Dated 2 years before my first marriage, was married 23 years.
Dated 7 years before my second marriage
 

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I don't know I'm not married either but 3 months does seem to be very quick.
Get to know the person first. I think 6 months would be enough
Verily verily i do type unto thee , often the case
when a man or woman goes to look for a marriage partner
THEY go about it Dead wrong .
THEY seek to find out what they have in common , WORLDY .
I have a far simplier solution when one is looking for a marriage mate .
Put the focus ENTIRELY UPON GOD .
now anyone that loveth the other , or any thing , M ORE THAN GOD , nope NOT THE ONE .
A godly WIFE is a treasure but a worldly one is a nightmare .
And so with a man too .
So many try and look for the worldy things they have in common .
WHEN THEY OUGHT to be seeing IS G OD, HIS CHRIST , what they have IN COMMON .
Just a real friendly reminder . And do beware
for many enter into adulterous marriages .
 

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Lessee ... October, November, December, January.... yeah, it was about 3 months. Married almost a year later.

With 40-something years of hindsight, I think I see God's hand in that.
 
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Only 6 mos- we knew!
 

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I want to differentiate between “getting married,” aka the wedding from being in a committed relationship.

My wife and I were committed very quickly, inseparable after our 2nd date. We had the wedding about 3 years later.
 

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I want to differentiate between “getting married,” aka the wedding from being in a committed relationship.

My wife and I were committed very quickly, inseparable after our 2nd date. We had the wedding about 3 years later.
Have you seen this generation .
Have you .
Have you seen the list of ever growing genders .
And now a word .
i noticed you used the word committed .
WELL todays generation would quickly have men like me comi tted cause I KNOW there be only TWO genders
and what you were born is what you are now .
What they call love and etc , used to have folks that beleived like that COMMITTED . now its all embraced
or at least accepted under the banner of love and tolerance .
Just a reminder for us all . Never follow a progressive liberal . and that do include ANY that is co helper to its mission