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I have many times been asked the question, do we speak the truth even if it will hurt someone's feelings? There are some things we view as our
rights that really aren't. We have the
right to speak our minds, but does that mean we always should really say whatever is on our minds? Do we have the
right to hurt people with our words just because they're true? As Christians we are to lay down our self-interest and consider others more important than ourselves (see
Philippians 2:3-4). This is so different from our culture and what we usually feel in our hearts. But if we're to follow the example Jesus set for us, sacrifice for others can't be dismissed.Just because it is your
right doesn't always mean that it is the
RIGHT THING TO DO!
I don't know man,You should try your best to tell them the truth in the most "flattering way" possible.However, if you don't tell them the truth, then you don't care anything about them.Prov 27:6 "6
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful."If your friend wounds you, it is for your own good. Maybe they see something destructive in your life, that needs to be removed --- they may have to slap you upside your head to get your attention.
You shouldn't become angry with your brother who wounds you out of love. Its not easy for him to do so; he knows that you could go ballistic and throw him out of your life (this has happened to me btw). Its immature, and idiotic to throw a close friend out of your life because he wounded you faithfully.
AND IF YOU DO SO, YOU don't deserve his friendship!!Here is some more information on this subject.[url="http://www.pbc.org/files/messages/7156/4217.html]http://www.pbc.org/files/messages/7156/4217.html[/url]